"I accept myself and create peace in my mind and heart. I now choose to free myself from all destructive fears and doubts. I am loved and I am safe."
Every female who is overweight will recognize this situation and will know what I mean when I say, I love to go shopping, and at the same time I hate it. If you don’t know what it is like I will explain. Everyone loves to wear the new styles: new clothes and shoes. We all have to buy a new wardrobe sooner or later! When you are overweight and that day comes, the clothing aisle becomes a nightmare. I love to buy clothes, but when it comes to something I like it seems they never have it in my size! Also, from what I notice, when it comes to the bigger plus sizes, either the outfit doesn’t look right or the styles offered by the store in plus size are ugly. I would cry while wandering down the clothing aisles because I knew whatever I liked wouldn’t fit me the way I wanted it to. Meanwhile, my sister, who loves to shop with me, can wear anything she wants since she's slim.
Yet another example that will have all my fellow thick girls nodding: We thicker females can't wear those little thongs and bikini lingerie. We might think it’s sexy and say to ourselves, "Oh how I wish I could wear that," but we know we can’t because we want to feel sexy! We don’t want our rolls and curves all hanging out, we want to hide most of them. So we often wear lingerie that covers almost everything. If we are lucky we have men who love that we aren’t showing too much. It is like a mystery to them. For a larger woman, it can be difficult when having sex because our weight limits the type of positions we can get into, and how long we can do them!
When I was younger I was thin, mostly skin and bones, and I was confident with my body. As I got older I started dating, and stress became my best friend. It was just horrible! With the stress I was going through it was making me eat more. I would eat junk food all the time. I drank soda and I was put on birth control which caused me to gain weight as well.
I disliked where my body was going. My ex-boyfriend called me fat, and everyone made fun of me. It was just the worst feeling ever. I tried my best to stop the emotional eating, but every time I felt sad, or mad, I ate something I should not have been eating. I had people call me a whale, people thought I was pregnant, and every name in the book I was called. I would cry every night in the shower so that no one could hear me. While everyone called me names and told me every day that I was fat, I started hating my body more. Worse, I began to believe what everyone was saying. I would write in my diary detailing why no one liked me, and why I hated myself. I even tried drugging myself so that I would die, but I guess it wasn’t my turn because I’m still alive.
So here I am at 21 and at 5'1", I’m a little over weight for my height. It has been difficult to find someone that will love me for me. It seems as though everyone is concerned with body figures, and they sometimes forget that thick girls need love too! I have started to realize that my body is not what makes me, me. I have also realized that in order for me to love someone, I have to love myself. When it comes to sex, that can be hard. You want to be comfortable with your body, and at the same time you want your loved one to accept your body. My fiancé loves my body, and I’m trying to understand why. Is it because of my "love handles?" Or is it because I have bigger breasts, and more ass than his exes? To me, I look like Flubber. Every woman wants to feel sexy when their partner is in the bedroom, am I right?
Over the years I have learned, and I’m still learning, that I have to love myself and my body. If I don’t then who will love me, and who will I love? To every thick woman reading this who is still having these self loathing problems, just know you ARE beautiful in every way possible! You can overcome this fear. It’s your body, and you have to treat it right! Eat healthy and exercise. You can lose weight, but please just remember that no matter how thick or skinny you are, you are still loved and still beautiful.
Yet another example that will have all my fellow thick girls nodding: We thicker females can't wear those little thongs and bikini lingerie. We might think it’s sexy and say to ourselves, "Oh how I wish I could wear that," but we know we can’t because we want to feel sexy! We don’t want our rolls and curves all hanging out, we want to hide most of them. So we often wear lingerie that covers almost everything. If we are lucky we have men who love that we aren’t showing too much. It is like a mystery to them. For a larger woman, it can be difficult when having sex because our weight limits the type of positions we can get into, and how long we can do them!
When I was younger I was thin, mostly skin and bones, and I was confident with my body. As I got older I started dating, and stress became my best friend. It was just horrible! With the stress I was going through it was making me eat more. I would eat junk food all the time. I drank soda and I was put on birth control which caused me to gain weight as well.
I disliked where my body was going. My ex-boyfriend called me fat, and everyone made fun of me. It was just the worst feeling ever. I tried my best to stop the emotional eating, but every time I felt sad, or mad, I ate something I should not have been eating. I had people call me a whale, people thought I was pregnant, and every name in the book I was called. I would cry every night in the shower so that no one could hear me. While everyone called me names and told me every day that I was fat, I started hating my body more. Worse, I began to believe what everyone was saying. I would write in my diary detailing why no one liked me, and why I hated myself. I even tried drugging myself so that I would die, but I guess it wasn’t my turn because I’m still alive.
So here I am at 21 and at 5'1", I’m a little over weight for my height. It has been difficult to find someone that will love me for me. It seems as though everyone is concerned with body figures, and they sometimes forget that thick girls need love too! I have started to realize that my body is not what makes me, me. I have also realized that in order for me to love someone, I have to love myself. When it comes to sex, that can be hard. You want to be comfortable with your body, and at the same time you want your loved one to accept your body. My fiancé loves my body, and I’m trying to understand why. Is it because of my "love handles?" Or is it because I have bigger breasts, and more ass than his exes? To me, I look like Flubber. Every woman wants to feel sexy when their partner is in the bedroom, am I right?
Over the years I have learned, and I’m still learning, that I have to love myself and my body. If I don’t then who will love me, and who will I love? To every thick woman reading this who is still having these self loathing problems, just know you ARE beautiful in every way possible! You can overcome this fear. It’s your body, and you have to treat it right! Eat healthy and exercise. You can lose weight, but please just remember that no matter how thick or skinny you are, you are still loved and still beautiful.
My wife is basically this story. She's hates going shopping except at maybe 3 places because they have clothes for "fat people like me" is what she always says. Yes she is a bigger woman but I think she's amazing in every way, body and sex appeal included. Just the other day we saw a hoodie she really like but it only went up to a large so she couldn't get it. She is working on losing weight which never easy but even if she didn't I will always love her for who she is. The only reason I want her to be skinnier is because it is healthier for her. All the "bigger" ladies need to realize this and don't be with a man that doesn't understand that. Good story, thanks!
I know where your wife is coming from, I go through it all the time, Just like today it took me two hours just to find the right outfit that would fit me. That's great I love how you support her , But yes it is healthy to lose some weight, and your right it isn't easy, its always worth the try.
She's Beautiful no matter what her size is, us women need to embrace that.
Thank you & Welcome, It wasn't easy or hard for me to write this, but this all came from the heart and how I feel and how I know other woman feel.
I have no trouble finding women my size or larger beautiful. A lot of what I find attractive about them is confidence and an inner sense of happiness that shines through. I think about how fun it would be to touch them. Their size is not a turn off. In fact, exploring their bodies would be so sensual.
But when it comes to my body, a double standard kicks in. I can't stand my body. luckily I have a husband who loves me, all of me. He tells me I'm beautiful all the time. Why can't I believe him?
That is exactly how I feel with my fiance, but i think it is because we as woman, looking at our body everyday, and knowing the things we dont like and want to change, we always have that in mind, so we are starting to believe what we are thinking and then when someone comes along and tells us these wonderful things, we want to believe it but end up not. If your husband says your beautiful and he loves all of you then he means it. Just remind your self that your beautiful everyday.
That is exactly how I feel with my fiance, but i think it is because we as woman, looking at our body everyday, and knowing the things we dont like and want to change, we always have that in mind, so we are starting to believe what we are thinking and then when someone comes along and tells us these wonderful things, we want to believe it but end up not. If your husband says your beautiful and he loves all of you then he means it. Just remind your self that your beautiful everyday.
That is exactly how I feel with my fiance, but i think it is because we as woman, looking at our body everyday, and knowing the things we dont like and want to change, we always have that in mind, so we are starting to believe what we are thinking and then when someone comes along and tells us these wonderful things, we want to believe it but end up not. If your husband says your beautiful and he loves all of you then he means it. Just remind your self that your beautiful everyday.
I love this I'm a thicker girl myself and I also have these same issues. I try to avoid shopping with my smaller petite friends and shop with girls who are my size or bigger. It is hard to find good looking clothes that flatter your body and dont show off problem areas like love handles. I was tall and thin all my life, just had bigger hips and thighs, and then I had my kids and never lost the weight (Im about 50 lbs heavier) and I actually feel more attractive. More womanly, with larger breasts, more curves, much more junk in the truck, and I wouldnt want to go back to my thin self ever again. Sometimes I do get a little self conscious when I see these thin women with their (according to the media) "perfect" bodies. But my man loves my body, tells me every single day that Im beautiful and wouldnt want to change anything about me, and it makes me feel good about myself and embrace my curves.
I think you're right. Thank you ChuChii.
Your welcome Compersian
I love this story, Reading it I was almost in tears because that is me. One problem I have with my body is when it comes to sex I put on a tank top because thats something you can comfortably move around in and you can cover up. I am a plus size girl so obviously that means rolls, I have had ex's that love my figure and I just can't figure out why. 1 more issue I have is riding (almost every plus size girl nightmare) I hate riding with a passion and any alternative I can do to make up for it I will. The fact that you have to support all of your body weight while going up and down is just 2 much for a girls knees lol (I feel like their saying mercy). As for shopping, I don't do it unless I absolutely have 2.
Thanks FantasyMonroe,
I do the same thing, I'll make sure have something covering my stomach or I turn the lights off.
My fiance hates when I do that. And as for riding, thats so truee, but i try my best to make my man happy, even if it means my legs and arms hurt. But now im learning to hold my self up, and im trying to lose weight. Shopping I just hate it, I rather just hope by my self even doing that im crying inside.
So honest.
I am a bbw and I tell u I hate to go shoppin here in my town because all the 'fat' clothes are uggggglllly. Im 26 and about 3 yrs ago is when I finally completly undressed for sex. I always had ppl telling me that i was pretty I was like where. But not know my hubby brought me out of that faze.