"Does this look gay to you?"
My thoughts & questions
All right, so let me start off by saying I'm a straight male. I've never been sexually attracted to any males, nor have I had any bisexual/gay fantasies.
With that out of the way, I love prostate stimulation. To me, there's rarely an instance you wouldn't want it, unless you're looking for a calmer orgasm (nothing like some p-stim for a cross-eyed, mind blowing orgasm). So why is there so much negative stigma associated with guys and sex toys?
What we do know is that gay sex has been around for centuries, and it dates as far back as the ancient Greeks. There wasn’t nearly as much negative stigma associated with it as there is nowadays, so what changed? What happened between the time period of the ancient Greeks where gay sex was practiced openly and even in the military, to modern day America, where a gay couple can’t even get married in most states?
Well, for starters, we need to look at the difference between giving and receiving. Historically speaking, males are predominately the providers for their family and generally (in the past) women have been the submissive half of the relationship. There are plenty of exceptions to this rule, but this is the image that's built up in our minds through the media. Almost everything we see, hear, and touch, contributes to this stereotype, and usually at a very young age. Thankfully this is starting to change little by little, but I think it'll still be a long time before men and women will truly be viewed as equals in the bedroom.
"So what? Women are portrayed as submissive, what's this got to do with men?"
Everything! It's quite hard to look dominant with a dildo up your ass. Ironically though, this is about the closest that a male can get to the highly-acclaimed female full body orgasm. Why deny yourself this pleasure because of a stereotype?
This isn't even considering the "mess factor" yet. As everyone (hopefully) knows, the ass isn't just a tight hole for anal sex; it's dirty and unsanitary without proper preparation. Even an enema can cause health problems, and overall, it just seems like more trouble than it’s worth.
But what about the actual gay couples? This is the only way that they can consummate their lust. There's plenty of straight guys into anal and p-stim, but this is not the norm, and instinctively, people compare the unknown, to what they DO know. This builds the idea that "oh, anal toys are for women and gay men" from the moment that most people learn about them, because traditionally, straight males didn't have p-stim, and it was only seen or heard about through gay couples (who have suffered their fair share of suppression) and that's how I believe this negative stigma was built.
*Phew* sorry for the rant, hope at least some of you thought it was interesting.
With that out of the way, I love prostate stimulation. To me, there's rarely an instance you wouldn't want it, unless you're looking for a calmer orgasm (nothing like some p-stim for a cross-eyed, mind blowing orgasm). So why is there so much negative stigma associated with guys and sex toys?
What we do know is that gay sex has been around for centuries, and it dates as far back as the ancient Greeks. There wasn’t nearly as much negative stigma associated with it as there is nowadays, so what changed? What happened between the time period of the ancient Greeks where gay sex was practiced openly and even in the military, to modern day America, where a gay couple can’t even get married in most states?
Well, for starters, we need to look at the difference between giving and receiving. Historically speaking, males are predominately the providers for their family and generally (in the past) women have been the submissive half of the relationship. There are plenty of exceptions to this rule, but this is the image that's built up in our minds through the media. Almost everything we see, hear, and touch, contributes to this stereotype, and usually at a very young age. Thankfully this is starting to change little by little, but I think it'll still be a long time before men and women will truly be viewed as equals in the bedroom.
"So what? Women are portrayed as submissive, what's this got to do with men?"
Everything! It's quite hard to look dominant with a dildo up your ass. Ironically though, this is about the closest that a male can get to the highly-acclaimed female full body orgasm. Why deny yourself this pleasure because of a stereotype?
This isn't even considering the "mess factor" yet. As everyone (hopefully) knows, the ass isn't just a tight hole for anal sex; it's dirty and unsanitary without proper preparation. Even an enema can cause health problems, and overall, it just seems like more trouble than it’s worth.
But what about the actual gay couples? This is the only way that they can consummate their lust. There's plenty of straight guys into anal and p-stim, but this is not the norm, and instinctively, people compare the unknown, to what they DO know. This builds the idea that "oh, anal toys are for women and gay men" from the moment that most people learn about them, because traditionally, straight males didn't have p-stim, and it was only seen or heard about through gay couples (who have suffered their fair share of suppression) and that's how I believe this negative stigma was built.
*Phew* sorry for the rant, hope at least some of you thought it was interesting.
do you have any online reading recommendations for prostate stimulation beginners?
Maybe not so much in the reading, the more in how to do it. One, Lubrication is a must for beginners, as it makes things enjoyable, if you haven't done it alot, and it finds it's way easier. Secondly, I normally find that I usually wait an hour or two after either eating, or doing a movement. That usually cuts down the mess factor considerably (along with the lubrication). Also, the idea that size matters. 10 inch vibrators can be fine, but usually go well past the prostrate. It should be reachable with an index finger, and use a vibrator that is curved (the egg on the bent stick) works really good.
I find that a combination of the vibrator and treating you rod like a woman does with a vagina does wonders. The longer you can go, before you get wet......makes the orgasm intense.
I started long ago, and enjoy it alot...and I even have the beads too. I usually enjoy having them in me for an hour or more, which brings on the instantaneous orgasms...with little warning.
It isn't just for women and gays. For me, it has helped me explore other areas of my sexuality. For some it is the awesome feeling it gives. If it works for you........regardless of reason...why not try it.
I did....and it's awesome..