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Secrets of a Sex Writer: Sleeping With Married People

Anya Garrett
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Contributor: Liz Langley

I love the honesty and grace in this - beautifully done. Thank you, Rachel!

11/17/2010
Contributor: Tinamarie Bernard

I agree - your willingness to expose yourself so openly is courageous, and your insights into marriage are thought provoking too. You hit on the companion benefits that only long term committment can probably offer a couple....

I do think, though, that we have an obligation to decide whether or not we want to play into deception, so for me, I refused to ever get involved with someone who was already committed. Granted, it's not our job to police their relationship, but I do think, for me at least, that I owed it to myself to also not be part of the potential unraveling of someone else's commitment. Maybe I'm a prude on this one: bottom line - follow the Golden Rule when it comes to love and sex.

As for your current relationship, it sounds like your lover is able to 'negotiate infidelity,' a term I recently heard about from a book written by an Aussie 'sugar babe.'

11/18/2010
Contributor: Cole Riley

Rachel, you have the rare gift of sitting still and truly looking at yourself. Not many people can pull that off. The lies, self-deception, and falseness, for most of us, gets in the way. One of the sterling traits in your writing is your candor, the skill to view yourself with an unblinking gaze. That's why I always read your work. I applaud you. Very nice piece of writing!

11/22/2010