💡 What Makes an Anal Toy Suitable for First-timers?
A beginner-friendly anal toy should have a comfortable small size, a narrow neck for secure fit, and an ergonomic shape to ensure gentle and safe insertion, making it perfect for those just starting to explore anal play.
✨ Clean Up
As the rectum is meant for "passage," not "storage," it has no left-over matter, and shower is enough to prepare you for anal sex. Using a douche is not necessary, but if you want to be sure you are as clean as a whistle, use it. Clean your toys in line with the manufacturer's specifications before inserting or switching toys from one orifice to another.
💧 Lube Up
The anus has no natural lubrication, so never attempt anal play without lube. Use special anal lubes with a thicker consistency and avoid numbing lubes so that you could always feel your body's signals.
🤲 Warm Up
Be gentle and go slow. The anus is conditioned to remain clenched, so be patient while expanding your backdoor horizons. Start by relaxing and massaging around the orifice. When you're ready for penetration, start with a pinkie finger or with a toy of smaller diameter. Once you're used to the sensation, build up gradually to toys with a bigger girth.
🌱 Use Only Anal Toys
Since the sphincter muscles contract involuntarily, if the toy doesn't have a wide base or ring at the end, it can slide inside the anal rear. Use only specifically designed anal toys for your safety.
🧩 5 Common Myths About Anal Sex
Anal Sex Is Not Painful Anal sex only hurts if done incorrectly. Always be gentle with your partner and keep communication open. Pay attention to physical and verbal cues. Start slow — begin with tongue, fingers, small toys, then move gradually to bigger ones. Use plenty of lubricant and have patience for a comfortable, pleasurable experience.
Anal Sex Is Not Messy The anus and rectum are a passage, not a storage space, so they stay clean naturally. For extra peace of mind, you can use a douche beforehand. Remember to clean your toys thoroughly after every use according to the manufacturer’s instructions.
Anal Sex Cannot Lead To Incontinence The sphincter muscle is flexible and returns to its normal size after stretching, just like other muscles. Many long-term butt plug users maintain perfectly healthy sphincters even after hours or days of wear.
Anal Sex Doesn't Create An "Urge" If you have regular bowel movements and a healthy diet, unexpected urges are unlikely. Glass or metal toys are especially easy to clean—they can be boiled or washed in a dishwasher for convenience.
Anal Sex Requires Condoms Though pregnancy isn’t a risk, anal sex can transmit STDs. Using condoms protects you from infections and also reduces friction for smoother, safer penetration.
🔑 The Golden Rules Of Anal Sex
Stay Protected Don't interchangeably use the same object for anal and vaginal stimulation without cleaning it first or putting a new condom on it.
Communicate The time is always right to add more lube, to change pace, to switch to a more enjoyable position, or to stop. Never stay silent if something feels off.
Vary Positions Positions and angles can and should vary. With every new angle come new sensations. Want some inspiration? Here's a handy guide on anal sex positions that might give you an idea or two.
Give and Receive Relax and enjoy. If anything feels wrong or uncomfortable, speak up! Don't hesitate to give your partner feedback and instructions on how to increase your pleasure.
