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Is Porn Cheating? And Who Gets to Decide?

Is Porn Cheating? And Who Gets to Decide? signs-of-a-cheater.com
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There’s this idea going around sex-positive circles that watching porn isn’t cheating. Someone, usually a woman, will say she’s uncomfortable with her boyfriend’s porn consumption, and feels that he is cheating on her. And she gets smacked down, told in every reply that she needs to get over her insecurities and let her man be a man.

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I completely agree! My view on porn has changed over the years and I used to be one of those "It's always cheating!" and now I'm very much with you. Any discussion of the topic should be within the relationship (or potential relationship if its so important before you start dating). I'm not here to dictate anyone's relationship boundaries or rules as I certainly wouldn't welcome the reverse.

07/30/2012
LilyLloyd  

I assume that everyone I will ever be with will do at least two of the following three things:

1. They will masturbate.
2. They will fantasize about people other than me.
3. They will use porn -- written or visual.

And I am ALL GOOD with that. I want to be their lover, not their Big Brother.

However, I have to differ with you -- I do think it is wrong when one person thinks that any healthy relationship involves control of another person's thoughts, feelings, or access to their own body, and I certainly will say so when I hear about it.

07/30/2012

Porn isn't cheating. However when the man is obsessed with it and shows no respect for his woman it can cause so blow outs. I think that it is something that needs to be handled on a mutual level and not forced into the daily sex life since it can be very off putting.
So it should be handled in a respectable manner, and not the highlight of a relationship.
Its weird

08/23/2012
AliMc  

I don't feel watching porn is cheating but I would feel uncomfortable if my partner did it behind my back. His jealousy threshold is much higher than mine so I sometimes have to explain to him if something makes me feel insecure because he doesn't really get that way so it's not easy for him to pick up on it in other people.

12/15/2012

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