Do you think a wife who must control every aspect of her life scheduling kids and managing a household, begs to be dominated in the bedroom whether she asks for it or not?

No one "begs to be dominated whether they ask for it or not". I know you likely did not mean to offend with your title, but to me that almost sounds like a justification a rapist would make. ("He/she was asking for it.")

Take into account that I do have a past history that involves rape, so I am super-sensitive to this issue.

I do BDSM and love it, but my husband MUST respect my limits. I will only do something he genuinely wants to do, and I expect that he will only do things to me that I am willing to do. This is extremely important to me.

(To answer your question more directly, I am very much in control of the day to day running of my household, and I am a switch, so I don't see a correlation between control in one area and desire for the lack of it elsewhere.)

I am very much into being the submissive in sex, but outside of sex, I have to be in control and when I tell you to do something, I expect it to be done as I say. If you want to help me in the kitchen, you have to realise that it's not a democracy. It is a dictatorship and I am your commander. If people can't accept that, I'd rather do things on my own. I've just always been of the belief that -I- know what I'm doing and -I- know how I want things done, so I am better off doing it myself. So when it comes to sex, I want someone else to take control. I want to be able to put all responsibility on someone else.

That being said, not everyone is like this. My belief is that one has to state whether or not they want to be dominated. If they don't state anything, that's not an invitation to dominate anyway. I just wouldn't do anything of that nature if matters aren't discussed beforehand.

This is a scarily-worded question.