So I'm sure most of you know about the BDSM Checklist, where you print it off and you can talk with your partner about each kink and decide what you guys want to try in the bedroom. There's a new(ish) site called mojoupgrade (found at link ) and it's basically the same thing except you each can take the questionnaire separately and, at the end, get to see the similar results.

The reason that I think this is pretty cool is because I've had some very shy partners with kinks they were ashamed of and, if we'd had this resource, we could have used this to break the ice. The shy partner could have been honest about their kinks and the only way I would've found out is if I had clicked the same ones! No need to be embarrassed by your interests and your partner will only see them if they like the same stuff.

I probably did a crap job at explaining how the site works but, trust me, it's great for striking up sexual convos and getting an open discussion going! I originally found the link on a different site and apparently mojoupgrade is quite popular. less

we did the "advanced" version. there were many things on the last few pages we had never really consider or discussed. i was open to most of it, the wife said no to just about all the super kinky stuff. not too disappointing because i could live without much of it. also not too surprising on the "tamer" things as we already talk about that stuff. less