Do you like pain during sexual encounters and if yes, do you have a history of self injury?

Contributor: Wondermom Wondermom
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Originally posted by Pixel
I used to self injure, and under the right circumstances I adore pain mixed with sex. Masochistic tendencies, I haz them. However, I don't experience the same sort of release with kinky sex as I did with self injuring. With the SI stuff, I ... more
this is how I feel
06/22/2011
Contributor: M121212 M121212
That is a very interesting question. I used to self-injure and enjoy pain during sex sometimes.

One connection I see is that pain draws the focus of the mind. So when I was young and depressed, I would cut myself because I wanted this distraction from my emotional pain. Then as an adult, pain's fun in sex because it causes me to become really present in the moment and not think about anything but the sensation. It is functionally similar in these two circumstances. But one's a reaction and one's an act of creation.

There's also something about being exposed for me... Like when my partner and I incorporate some pain into our play, I'm with someone and they can see that I'm enjoying the pain. That's really sexual because I have a hard time allowing another to see my sexual pleasure sometimes. It makes me feel vulnerable in a way that I enjoy.

Conversely with self-mutilation, it's a private act done in solitude. And hey, for me it was also about showing others my inner pain (with scars, cuts, bandages, etc.).

Having another person with me, seeing my enjoyment of the pain is my way of reclaiming the sensation.

That is a very mysterious question. I'm glad you asked it.
06/22/2011
Contributor: Screen Door Screen Door
I like pain in moderation. Like hair pulling, spanking, and biting. I don't really have a history of self injury I don't know.
06/23/2011
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
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Originally posted by daniel and frances
A little pain is fun.
dido
06/23/2011
Contributor: Spoken Pandora Spoken Pandora
Quote:
Originally posted by Wondermom
I was laying in bed wondering about this lastnight and thought I would ask everyone here. I like pain during sex, and I am also a recovering self injurer. Is anyone else out there like me? is there a connection?

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I enjoy pain and envy those who can take more than I can. Seeing it happen to someone else makes my eyes light up like a Christmas tree. I turn into a little girl complete with giggling. To have my partner deliver pain makes me feel un-explainable. I like to watch the way my partners eyes light up and how her voice changes and she becomes someone else. I change into someone else as well, my true self. I have never self inflicted pain but have thought about it.
06/25/2011
Contributor: dezzydezire dezzydezire
biting nails and choking heighten my pleasure
07/03/2011
Contributor: KnK KnK
Quote:
Originally posted by Wondermom
I was laying in bed wondering about this lastnight and thought I would ask everyone here. I like pain during sex, and I am also a recovering self injurer. Is anyone else out there like me? is there a connection?

the poll is anonymous but feel ... more
I wouldn't say that there's necessarily a connection for everyone, but there certainly might be a link for some people. Endorphins create a powerful experience.
07/04/2011
Contributor: salaciousrex salaciousrex
I love pain during sex, it's so hot

I used to injure myself. I haven't in awhile now, but there's still those days I think about it..
07/04/2011
Contributor: Errant Venture Errant Venture
I like a bit of pain, sure, but I've never self-harmed. Apart from face-palming, that is.
07/05/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
Wow, I had no idea there were so many other self injurers out there. I know it's something most do not like to come forward with. It was very brave of you to do that! I know exactly what you're saying. I was in a pretty similar boat for several years. Anyways, I don't know how much I'd like pain during sex though. I can handle pain, but I don't know if it would turn me on. I like a little roughness, but I dont think I'd be into him cutting me or anything that severe. Strange, but I just don't think I would.
07/20/2011
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I don't like pain during sex, especially intended pain, and I used to be an SI. It's been years since I have. Very interesting poll!
07/20/2011
Contributor: Jenyana Jenyana
I don't like pain. At all.

I can endure quite a bit of it without even a peep (I've had kidney stones, and let me tell you, those are painful), but I'll never, ever like it, in or outside the bedroom.

It's a bit sad, really, that so many sex experiences are outside of my reach because they are based on enjoying a little bit of pain with sex.
07/20/2011
Contributor: wantshomework wantshomework
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Originally posted by Fullbeauty
I like a little bit of pain, but not too much
makes me excited im not afraid no pain no gain
07/20/2011
Contributor: babypinecone babypinecone
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Originally posted by padmeamidala
I'm a masochist. I enjoy pain and it turns me on a lot.
I agree a bit of pain turns me on, but at the same time some calm gentle sex is good to shake things up...
07/23/2011
Contributor: The Curious Couple The Curious Couple
I do like a little bit of pain, but I don't self-injure and I never had in the past.
07/23/2011
Contributor: Kdlips Kdlips
nope
07/23/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
i like light amounts of pain like spanking and getting my hair pulled but only when i'm having sex. i never self injured. this is an excellent question btw
07/24/2011
Contributor: LostBoy988 LostBoy988
When I was younger in high school I had a previous history of self injury.
07/24/2011
Contributor: Miss Morphine Miss Morphine
I've never self injured, but I enjoy pain during sex. I also enjoy being on the sadistic end of the spectrum as well.
07/25/2011
Contributor: mariedoll mariedoll
Quote:
Originally posted by Pixel
I used to self injure, and under the right circumstances I adore pain mixed with sex. Masochistic tendencies, I haz them. However, I don't experience the same sort of release with kinky sex as I did with self injuring. With the SI stuff, I ... more
I completely agree.
07/25/2011
Contributor: sarki sarki
No I don't like pain
07/25/2011
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
i like a little bit of pain during sex... nipple squeezing, ass slapping, and have never self-injured.
07/26/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
I like some intense stimulation during sex at times. Is it "pain?" Some people would consider it so, I don't at the time it is happening. It only adds to the excitement. We never engage in any blood play or anything that would draw blood, nor do we use choking or hair pulling. (With a history of severe migraines, neither choking nor hair pulling is good for me. Either would result in a migraine, and it's NOT the kind of pain that heightens emotion or sex.) I guess everybody is different in what they like.

I have no history of self injuring at all.
07/31/2011
Contributor: Dawn (Lilac Distraction) Dawn (Lilac Distraction)
Quote:
Originally posted by Pixel
I used to self injure, and under the right circumstances I adore pain mixed with sex. Masochistic tendencies, I haz them. However, I don't experience the same sort of release with kinky sex as I did with self injuring. With the SI stuff, I ... more
this. yes.
08/08/2011
Contributor: briluminary briluminary
Quote:
Originally posted by Wondermom
this is how I feel
I completely agree with this, likewise.
08/09/2011
Contributor: Rawhide Rawhide
I don't "like" pain, but I can appreciate it and incorporate it into my play. I don't have a history of self injury.
10/02/2011
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Wondermom
I was laying in bed wondering about this lastnight and thought I would ask everyone here. I like pain during sex, and I am also a recovering self injurer. Is anyone else out there like me? is there a connection?

the poll is anonymous but feel ... more
Like it, don't self injure.
10/20/2011
Contributor: geliebt geliebt
I like pain (certain kinds, to a certain extent. I'm picky about it) but don't and never did self-injure.
10/20/2011
Contributor: MeliPixie MeliPixie
I like to be spanked during sex, but I'm not sure if it's the pain or the domination that I like about it. I do know that my pain threshold is low. And yes, I used to self-injure, not for the pain, but because I didn't know how to get the attention I needed and was suicidal. I eventually grew out of it.
10/20/2011
Contributor: Breas Breas
I don't like pain. I'm a big baby like that lol
10/20/2011