pain is good, but never inflicted self injury.
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Do you like pain during sexual encounters and if yes, do you have a history of self injury?
10/20/2011
I love pain and we're working up my pain tolerance in the way of spankings, etc. I've never been a self-injurer though.
10/20/2011
This is a very interesting question to raise. I used to self-harm, and I would actually get erotic pleasure out of it, but I wouldn't compare it to the pleasure I get from a BDSM experience.
10/23/2011
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I don't care for pain. I'm a punk when it comes to it.
Originally posted by
Wondermom
I was laying in bed wondering about this lastnight and thought I would ask everyone here. I like pain during sex, and I am also a recovering self injurer. Is anyone else out there like me? is there a connection?
the poll is anonymous but feel ... more
the poll is anonymous but feel ... more
I was laying in bed wondering about this lastnight and thought I would ask everyone here. I like pain during sex, and I am also a recovering self injurer. Is anyone else out there like me? is there a connection?
the poll is anonymous but feel free to explain your answers if you want less
the poll is anonymous but feel free to explain your answers if you want less
10/24/2011
In the last few years I've needed more and pain seemed like a nature progression. I'm usually harder on myself physically then Hubby is and it almost never crosses over into pain for him. Hubby doesn't like it at all. He's getting better at giving what I need though. I've never been into or considered self harming. I couldn't deal with cutting or any of that. I can deal with anyonelse's blood but not my own.
10/25/2011
I like a little bit of pain with sex- spanking, biting, and so on. I'm a recovering anorexic with bulimic tendencies, with the bulimia being my self-injuring punishment.
11/17/2011
I see the two things as totally different.
Pain during sex/play for me is generally pretty mild & mixed in with pleasant stuff. A great deal of that just has to do with my personal line between what feels good to me and what doesn't. Soft touching feels kind of gross to me. And the nature of any pain I might enjoy in a sexual situation is totally different than that of self-injury. In my case, the self-injury often didn't even hurt - it was more symbolic at times, I suppose.
When I used to self-injure years ago, it was a coping/control mechanism for dealing with stuff I didn't know how to handle otherwise. It may have been a release of sorts, but it wasn't generally erotic. It wasn't something I did because I enjoyed it but because it was mentally necessary at the time.
Pain during sex/play for me is generally pretty mild & mixed in with pleasant stuff. A great deal of that just has to do with my personal line between what feels good to me and what doesn't. Soft touching feels kind of gross to me. And the nature of any pain I might enjoy in a sexual situation is totally different than that of self-injury. In my case, the self-injury often didn't even hurt - it was more symbolic at times, I suppose.
When I used to self-injure years ago, it was a coping/control mechanism for dealing with stuff I didn't know how to handle otherwise. It may have been a release of sorts, but it wasn't generally erotic. It wasn't something I did because I enjoyed it but because it was mentally necessary at the time.
11/17/2011
Pain and extasy are the two faces of complete sex, but with out hurting each other.
11/19/2011
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Bites on the privates and lips during sex... particularly when cumming is sublime.
Originally posted by
Wondermom
I was laying in bed wondering about this lastnight and thought I would ask everyone here. I like pain during sex, and I am also a recovering self injurer. Is anyone else out there like me? is there a connection?
the poll is anonymous but feel ... more
the poll is anonymous but feel ... more
I was laying in bed wondering about this lastnight and thought I would ask everyone here. I like pain during sex, and I am also a recovering self injurer. Is anyone else out there like me? is there a connection?
the poll is anonymous but feel free to explain your answers if you want less
the poll is anonymous but feel free to explain your answers if you want less
11/22/2011
I love pain during sex. I've never self injured.
I've thought about it a few times, but I've never done it.
I've thought about it a few times, but I've never done it.
11/23/2011
i use to cut myself, and it was a dark time in my life. but the pain i experience during sex, is a loving pain. we do it because we love each other. he does it because he loves me. whenever he slaps me, he makes sure to kiss me passionately right after and say 'i love you.' i don't associate the pain of sex with the pain i caused myself back then. it hardly crosses my mind now.
11/24/2011
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I don't like pain AT ALL. No thanks.
Originally posted by
Wondermom
I was laying in bed wondering about this lastnight and thought I would ask everyone here. I like pain during sex, and I am also a recovering self injurer. Is anyone else out there like me? is there a connection?
the poll is anonymous but feel ... more
the poll is anonymous but feel ... more
I was laying in bed wondering about this lastnight and thought I would ask everyone here. I like pain during sex, and I am also a recovering self injurer. Is anyone else out there like me? is there a connection?
the poll is anonymous but feel free to explain your answers if you want less
the poll is anonymous but feel free to explain your answers if you want less
01/25/2012
no dont like pain.
01/25/2012
Serena Shirley
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you know, I used to self-injure but I never even considered my bulimia another form of self injury until I read it here. I always felt it was a victory. Every time I had the strength to force myself to vomit, I WON. There also was a sort of "clean" feeling afterward, and a sort of release. I felt better when I puked. The same went for my injury. Every time I would hurt myself, there was a release in the pain. Now, I no longer do either of those things, but I LOVE a LOT of pain with my sex. I want to walk away with bruises and bite marks and rope burn. And there is certainly a release I feel, but I'm not sure it's the same as before, but I can definitely see the correlation. I have always considered BDSM to be more therapeutic than therapy ever was for me. To quote my favorite band, Tool: "I have found, some kind of temporary sanity in this."
Originally posted by
hyacinthgirl
I like a little bit of pain with sex- spanking, biting, and so on. I'm a recovering anorexic with bulimic tendencies, with the bulimia being my self-injuring punishment.
01/25/2012
I don't want a lot of pain, but I don't mind gettng lightly smacked on my bottom with a hand or paddle.
01/25/2012
There is a difference between self-injuring because you are depressed and liking pain in a sexual relationship. A HUGE DIFFERENCE!
I like pain. I do not, nor have I self-injured for depressive reasons.
I like pain. I do not, nor have I self-injured for depressive reasons.
01/30/2012
I do not like any pain.
01/30/2012
I don't like pain and yet I like a little... well, I like a LITTLE bit of roughness/pain on my nipples, but not for too long (and no biting). And who doesn't like a nice hard slap on the ass? But that's it for me.
02/14/2012
A far as pain goes, I only like spanking and biting. Nothing too intense.
02/17/2012
I like pain (no blood) and I have never self injured.
02/27/2012
I don't know exactly how to post on the poll here, but for what it's worth...
I have masochist tendencies, but I don't actually *like* pain. I just enjoy the connection and chemistry in taking what a good sadist can give.
...and I have self injured.
I have masochist tendencies, but I don't actually *like* pain. I just enjoy the connection and chemistry in taking what a good sadist can give.
...and I have self injured.
02/27/2012
A little bit of rough sex is always fun but pain is not.
02/27/2012
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I am the same way.
Originally posted by
Airen Wolf
I enjoy pain during sex but otherwise I'm allergic. I have never self injured...my drug of choice was emotional self torment.
02/28/2012
A little pain or bondage during sex is very exciting. I have never hurt myself or had a childhood history of self harm.
02/28/2012
I'm not a huge pain slut but I do like mild pain with or without sex. I have never self injured. In fact many of the people I know who have self injured are Dominant Sadists
02/28/2012
Like it but never self injured.
02/28/2012
I am an complete masochist. Completely in every sense of the word. I literally come up with ways and "hint" that I want this and this done. I really like the whole aspect of pain / pleasure in the bedroom, even outside of the bedroom.
When I was younger.. I did self-injure myself. It didn't last long but I do not think that my sexual preferences now reflect on what happened in the past.
Now.. it is about being dominated and about sex. It is about love and how much I trust him not to permanately damage me. I am a complete pain slut and beg for more and more. I trust him enough to hurt me.. if that makes sense. I hope it helps. xoxo
When I was younger.. I did self-injure myself. It didn't last long but I do not think that my sexual preferences now reflect on what happened in the past.
Now.. it is about being dominated and about sex. It is about love and how much I trust him not to permanately damage me. I am a complete pain slut and beg for more and more. I trust him enough to hurt me.. if that makes sense. I hope it helps. xoxo
02/29/2012
Depends on what you call pain: I'm game for some spanking or light nipple-play, but I'm not sure that counts (I voted "yes I like" anyway).
In any case, I've never self-injured.
In any case, I've never self-injured.
03/04/2012
i was interested in mixing pain and sex long before i ever self-injured; my first experiences with self-harm actually were masochistic experiments, but i stopped because i scar too easily. though i've started self-harming occasionally for psychological reasons in the last few months, my interest in pain during sex hasn't changed or diminished, since sexually i prefer spanking and biting, rather than the cutting/piercing/abras ions of self-injur). though i do sometimes still fantasize about the latter, i'm wary of actually trying it out before i've gotten into a more stable state mentally, and i know both my partners would be reluctant to hurt me in any way that breaks the skin due to my history.
03/07/2012
I like pain, and I do occasionally self injure, but the self injury is based in the sexual enjoyment of pain. For me it's entirely a sadomasochistic thing.
03/10/2012