So recently I have been exploring my interest in BDSM and pain play but I'm not too sure how to start so I was wondering if you had any suggestions. My boyfriend isn't too interested in it and doesn't really understand my fascination with pain, but he's willing to try some stuff for me, probably won't be able to get him to try anything too crazy right away.
I've always been interested in pain and pushing my limits, I'll hear people say that something hurts and my first though it "how bad? I wonder if I could take it." From my experience outside the bedroom I've realized that I don't like sharp pain (like cutting or a whip) but I do like the pain from bruising (like I think I would get from a flogger). In the bedroom we have tried some minor spanking but only with his had and during sex.
My concern is that I'm not really into submission or being shamed or much of what I feel is much of the emotional aspects of BDSM, but I do like my partner to be very aggressive with me.
Well now that I've given you some information I was wondering if you guys had any suggestions on products or activities that I could try? I know it's not exactly a specific discussion but I was just hoping for some feedback since my group of friends would be useless in this discussion...