My husband and I attended a swinger party this weekend and a few Doms were in attendance. I was watching a scene take place (with permission) and it got me very excited. I have been curious about exploring my sub side, but haven't had the opportunity to try anything until then.

He asked if I would like to try flogging, and I said yes. He explained what was going to happen, set up a safe word, etc.

I wore a dress the entire time. The next morning I woke up with a very bruised ass. I'm talking deep purple/black/blue all over the area where the Dom was striking. I spoke with the Dom via email and he assured me that this is normal. He said I have a high pain tolerance, and I bruise easily.

I have two questions for the discussion.

The first is - is this really normal? I am pretty shocked by the amount/color of the bruising. I guess I expected welts and some bruising, but not to this extent. I don't know him well at all, which is probably my first mistake.

The second is, the Dom mentioned that if I wanted to try again sometime, he would use a different flogger with a different type of material. What would you suggest for someone like me?

Thanks EF Friends!