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How far into your sex life did you realize you were into BDSM?

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Contributor: KaraSutra KaraSutra
I knew the first time I tied someone to a chair...I also knew the first time I had a paddle in my hand. It was such an amazingly powerful experience!
08/04/2011
Contributor: Ivy Wilde Ivy Wilde
I would have probably never figured it out, but my husband recently expressed an interest in having me top him, and I was surprised to discover that I like it.
08/06/2011
Contributor: systematicweasel systematicweasel
I've known for awhile ^^ lol
08/06/2011
Contributor: Nissa Nissa Nissa Nissa
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Originally posted by charip
I knew I was into BDSM before I even started having a sex life, I'm wondering when it happened for others. I've heard that some people always knew they were into it, whereas others spent a long time before realizing what it was they were ... more
I think I always had the potential. I tied up my barbie dolls when I was little.
08/09/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
About 5 years into it.
08/11/2011
Contributor: DixieDoo DixieDoo
I was about 17 and still a virgin.
08/14/2011
Contributor: Alyxx Alyxx
It was something I was always interested in, and then I found a wonderful person who helped me explore it. I don't know if I would have ever gotten into BDSM as much as I am now if it were not for him and his girlfriend. They also introduced me to polyamory in a wonderful way. We don't play anymore, but we are still all great friends, and they are still together.
08/15/2011
Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
Well, I know I've liked handcuffs for several years. Long before I ever had a boyfriend. But a few months into my first/only relationship we tried handcuffs, and it went from there. That was long before we had sex.
08/18/2011
Contributor: domsub1993 domsub1993
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Originally posted by charip
I knew I was into BDSM before I even started having a sex life, I'm wondering when it happened for others. I've heard that some people always knew they were into it, whereas others spent a long time before realizing what it was they were ... more
More like when I finally acknowledged it-- 10+ years.
08/31/2011
Contributor: Jimmy Stevenson Jimmy Stevenson
I was led to it by her, but now I wouldn't change it for anything.
09/03/2011
Contributor: MilyxXxD MilyxXxD
1-5 yrs
10/07/2012
Contributor: chicagobearsfan chicagobearsfan
I had BDSM fantasies as long as I can remember, but I didn't realize that's what they were until I began practicing it in my sex life.
01/02/2013
Contributor: butts butts
I knew quite early Long before i had sex.
01/02/2013
Contributor: tunacan75 tunacan75
Before my first relationship, I knew I had a fetish!
01/02/2013
Contributor: Bittenflame Bittenflame
took a couple of months before we started experimenting
01/02/2013
Contributor: Tangles Tangles
I use to tie myself up before I was sexually active when I was 14. I knew I was into it from first becoming sexually aware.
01/03/2013
Contributor: xcapricax xcapricax
Long before having sex. Its what I would watch late at night while were parents were asleep and I was up on the computer.
01/04/2013
Contributor: fizzygato fizzygato
I realized I was into kinky things like a month before I had sex.

I happened to have done it with someone I met at the bdsm/kink community I'm involved in, and did it like a month after joining the group.

I don't think I realized I was into bdsm until after I'd had sex, though. I mean, I knew what it was, but didn't realize how integral it was to me until like a week ago, literally.
01/06/2013
Contributor: LaikaFoxx LaikaFoxx
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Originally posted by charip
I knew I was into BDSM before I even started having a sex life, I'm wondering when it happened for others. I've heard that some people always knew they were into it, whereas others spent a long time before realizing what it was they were ... more
I was a virgin my first year or so that i was publicly involved
01/06/2013
Contributor: bronzelotus bronzelotus
Long before I had sex. I loved being tied up as a kid, didn't realize WHY I liked it so much until I was much older.
03/05/2013
Contributor: ChubbyNerd ChubbyNerd
I knew I was into it a few years before I started having sex.
03/05/2013
Contributor: tami tami
Quote:
Originally posted by charip
I knew I was into BDSM before I even started having a sex life, I'm wondering when it happened for others. I've heard that some people always knew they were into it, whereas others spent a long time before realizing what it was they were ... more
It took me a while to figure it out because of a very traumatic rape when I was 12 any type of bdsm gave me flashbacks, things are much better now with the help of a therapist and some heavy duty medication.
03/05/2013
Contributor: EmuLove EmuLove
Not too long but almost a year
03/06/2013
Contributor: HisLittleFiend HisLittleFiend
Quote:
Originally posted by tami
It took me a while to figure it out because of a very traumatic rape when I was 12 any type of bdsm gave me flashbacks, things are much better now with the help of a therapist and some heavy duty medication.
I'm sorry to hear about your experiences ): I was raped when I was 14, and after that, sex itself (which I had always been told was supposed to be a loving experience) was off the tables for me. I knew I was masochistic long before having sex for the first time that I was OK with, and that's when I got started with wax play- not for kinky reasons but because I loved the feeling of the burn- and some blood stuff. Parents were NOT pleased with the needles and razors. My Honey now loves to tie me up and fuck me silly, and it is strangely incredibly cathartic. It is like being raped but still being in control. I like tying him up, too, but recently we've switched from both playing a switch role to him being more of my Master, which I can't complain. While I AM a switch, I love knowing that I'm the one truly in control, which is often the case for subs. Say what you all want, the sub is the one that makes all the rules!
03/06/2013
Contributor: Tigerlily808 Tigerlily808
My sophomore year of high school
03/08/2013