Anal Sex

Contributor: nicky51679 nicky51679
My husband really wants to try anal sex, I've been very nervous about because of the pain of it. Any tips or advice on easing the pain of it. Thanks
02/22/2011
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02/22/2011
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Lots of lube and go VERY SLOW! It shouldn't hurt AT ALL.
02/22/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
Lots and lots of lube. Then, when you think you have enough, apply more! Start with a finger, then 2. Then, if things still feel good, a slightly larger anal safe toy and maybe more lube. Eventually, a toy nearly the size of your husband, then him.

It can take a LONG time (days, weeks, or months before being able to take his penis) for some.

For us, it was all about me being in control and me being able to completely relax. Just go REALLY, REALLY slow. If it hurts, STOP! It should not hurt.
02/22/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
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Originally posted by RonLee
Lots of lube and go VERY SLOW! It shouldn't hurt AT ALL.
Agreed!
02/22/2011
Contributor: WHITEMIKE WHITEMIKE
For some people a drink (or a couple) or cannabis (I'm just saying), can help you relax. Having anxiety will only make you clench up... This will be the death of your anal sex life. Have a private, quite environment with locked doors and closed windows. Have a bowel movement and a shower first. As redboxbaby and others say, work up to his diameter, and use lots of lube. He should take short strokes slowly, once in. Also shave back there, you don't want a hair to be grabbed and pulled in, that could hurt. Good luck!
02/22/2011
Contributor: nicky51679 nicky51679
Thanks for all the great advice! What is a good beginner anal toy to use?
02/22/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
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Originally posted by nicky51679
Thanks for all the great advice! What is a good beginner anal toy to use?
I think the gold laced g is a nice one because it really is thin and it has a base. It can be sterilized too.
02/22/2011
Contributor: CSEA CSEA
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Originally posted by nicky51679
My husband really wants to try anal sex, I've been very nervous about because of the pain of it. Any tips or advice on easing the pain of it. Thanks
The best position we've tried and loved when having anal sex is you laying on your back. Your husband stands off the bed and plays with your clit as he inserts his penis into you anally. This helps to enter smoother and also the clit playing distracts you from any discomfort. In this position, I have been most comfortable and him able to thrust. This way feels great! From here we normally go to doggy with my legs in between his. Try it out! If you find yourself uncomfortable, he'll be pleased you tried for him. And you never know, maybe you'll warm up to the idea again.
02/22/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Start with fingers, plan on working up to it over a month or more. Learn to relax your anus and trust yourself (that there won't be a mess if you relax) and your partner (provided he's trustworthy, and if not then don't go there with him until he is), and also learn to enjoy the sensations. Make sure to do some genital stimulation as well, both before and during but not at insertion (it often makes people clench up).
02/22/2011
Contributor: potstickers potstickers
When I first did it, I was excited to try, so it didn't hurt in the slightest. You just need that mentality. If you think it's going to hurt, it probably will. If you think you'll fail, you will. Just know that it won't hurt if you're slow and gentle and well lubed, and it won't.

And under NO circumstances should you use any sort of numbing lube. Ever! Pain means something is wrong, and stopping the pain artificially can lead to a lot of damage!
02/23/2011
Contributor: Solar Ray Solar Ray
Go very slowly and apply LOTS of lube is the general advice. Put lube on and when you have enough... put some more.
02/23/2011
Contributor: Istanbull Istanbull
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Originally posted by RonLee
Lots of lube and go VERY SLOW! It shouldn't hurt AT ALL.
This plus lots of fingering prior. Have him start with one finger and work your butt gently until you're relaxed enough for him to enter a second. It helps to let his slid his finger in and slowly retract it as you squeeze, then relaze your rectum and let him enter again without sqeezing. He can also apply pressure towards your tailbone as he's in you, this will help open your rectum. Continue with two until you're ready for a third, that's when he can replace his fingers with his cock.
02/23/2011