Does size matter???

Contributor: 6Nine 6Nine
I recently convinced my gf to peg me but she says she will feel more comfortable if we used a smaller dildo. I admit the one I have is pretty big (John Holmes) but does size really matter? Does the thought of your man taking something that big make you believe he's gay? I'm not sure what to think. I'd appreciate others opinions
10/02/2011
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10/02/2011
Contributor: 6Nine 6Nine
Also do certain positions make you uncomfortable?
10/02/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Size only matters to the receiver, if he is comfortable with that size then go for it.

My wife has seen all of my butt toys and has never said nothing about it, even the Hoss did not faze her. She will use any toy I hand her to do me.
10/02/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
She might be worried that she'll hurt you. It's commonly accepted (as far as I know) that it's best to start with a smaller dildo and work up with pegging, either if the man is new to it, or if the woman's never done it before. (not saying you should, whatever is comfortable for you is good.)
10/02/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
She might be worried to hurt you! You both need to be comfortable, so if she feels uncomfortable with something large, I say start small!
10/02/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
It does not phase me in the least. Whatever, wherever, however. Whatever he needs, or wants is fine with me. I am game.

At first, with any new thing we try, regardless of size, I always ask, "Is this ok?, How does that feel?, Do we need more lube?, Faster?, Slower?, Deeper?" I am unsure of new things, so I tend to talk a lot when we introduce something new. I want to ensure I am delivering pleasure and nothing else. The reassurance builds my confidence.

And no, I don't think butt play or the size of whatever you like in your butt, has any indication of a tenancy toward gay-ness. I like butt play too, that doesn't make me a lesbian, so why would it make my husband gay? Enjoying butt play has nothing to do with sexual preference.

If she is new to your toying experiences though, I can see where she might be taken aback and I can understand her reluctance. I agree with what others have said, start small and un-intimidating for her sake.
10/02/2011
Contributor: Blinkfat Blinkfat
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
Size only matters to the receiver, if he is comfortable with that size then go for it.

My wife has seen all of my butt toys and has never said nothing about it, even the Hoss did not faze her. She will use any toy I hand her to do me.
Definitely, i very much agree. I mean, my butt has very little involvement in my sex life, but i certainly agree that size should only matter to the receiver. You can;t really help how you feel, tho, and if it weirds out your partner for some reason, you just gotta try and talk it out with them. But i really see nothing wrong with it. "Gay" is another matter. But there's nothing wrong with that either.
10/02/2011
Contributor: 6Nine 6Nine
The size doesn't have to do with her not wanting to hurt me because she knows I used the toy prior to our relationship. But after reading your comments I believe it has to do with intimidation. I mean even I was intimidated by the toy when I first got it lol. So I'm sure thats the reason why. I'll just take things slow. It'll be well worth the wait. Thanks for your opinions =)
10/02/2011
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Both partners have to feel comfortable with the toy for it to really work. If she is uncomfortable wearing the toy because it's not "her," then the experience won't be as good for her (and she won't be as eager to repeat it). The best thing is to look at toys together and find one you both like.

I also strongly recommend silicone for easy care.
10/08/2011
Contributor: Hidden Hidden
Size matters, if you are used to small ones you better take it (larger) real slow to minimize pain and discomfort. I wouldn't say that size matters on the fact of a person being gay or not. The size of what's pegging you wouldn't decide whether the person being pegged is gay or not.
10/19/2011
Contributor: slynch slynch
Start small. You can always get a bigger one later.
10/20/2011
Contributor: arewehavingfun? arewehavingfun?
We don't do this stuff, but I think size, etc just depends on your pleasure. I didn't think that gay men cornered the market on sexual pleasure. Maybe I'm a gay man in disguise!!!
10/24/2011
Contributor: Boobs and Lubes Boobs and Lubes
If you want to live your life with a man, and suck his cock...that makes ya gay. Not that there's anything wrong with it.lmao
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