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If it's hard, I usually go soft, if I'm soft, I go hard.
This sounds about right. I usually insert p-spot toys before I start masturbating so I'm soft and after a bit of time I will get hard and in some cases harder than normal, but it's variable. I've actually had the hardness fluctuate quite a bit during p-spot massage and masturbation.
I've found if I'm hard when I insert that i'll get soft, which has made it hard to include in my sex life as this can kill the mood. Especially as it sometimes takes a while to get hard again after this happens.
As such so far I've only used p-spot massagers in solo play.
TL;DR not connected but p-spot massage can definitely impact my hardness in both ways.