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Do you have stretch marks? I feel like almost every woman has them.
I've had awful stretch marks all over my body since I was an (extremely skinny) 13 year old. I mean REALLY BAD stretch marks. They're almost all faded now but
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Do you have stretch marks? I feel like almost every woman has them.
I've had awful stretch marks all over my body since I was an (extremely skinny) 13 year old. I mean REALLY BAD stretch marks. They're almost all faded now but idk?
Do you have them too and how do you feel about them?
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Me too! I've had them ever since my early teens. I have stretch marks on my butt cheeks, my thighs (outer and inner) and my breasts. Hell, I've even felt them on the backs of my calves before! However, they don't always seem to be there & are not visible, only felt them with my fingers.
The ones on my butt cheeks are the ones that I was bothered by most. I don't really care about them, but worried that my stretch marks (the most noticeable ones, visually, are on my thighs) would cause me to be way less attractive to my partner. Other than that, they don't bother me at all, and I should have never even worried that something like marks on my skin would cause my partner to be less attracted to me. Hey, I grew, got smaller and grew some more! It left marks on my skin, big deal! And they just so happen to look kind of neat when I'm real tan and the ones on my thighs are silvery. So that is how I see it now. It's just not a big deal to me & I'm so glad. At one point, I went through a phase where I just figured they must be ugly & I bought about 4 different brands of "stretch mark erasing cream." Not the smartest way I've spent $. None worked. They smell good though! Lol. I also bought 2 creams for "tightening" the skin in hopes it'd help with the marks. Stupid thing to spend my $ on. I still have the same marks that are the same depth and length. I don't think any of those products made a difference and now, I don't care.
I too think every person has stretch mark, but not just women! Let's not forget men get them too. Most men I know have them. I had an ex who had three times as many as I did. No big deal to me. My partner has a few minor ones.
Also, stretch marks have nothing to do with your weight. They happen to people of all sizes. I've heard they happen when you gain a lot of weight, but that's untrue. I think it's more to do with your skin stretching, maybe rapidly? And doing so during times like puberty when you're growing like a weed.They CAN come up if you suddenly lose a lot or gain a lot of weight, but I have done both (lost a huge amount very rapidly and gained a large amount very quickly) and neither of those things caused me a single extra mark. Mine just happened during puberty, as most probably do.
There are some things we can choose to not feel badly about, not let it get us down & there are some things that we just can't help but get down over (for me that's my sides sometimes) so when there's something about me that I can easily not stress over, I make sure I don't (stress over it.) Stretch marks aren't something that deeply upset me, so I forget about them and when they do catch my attention, I just think they look interesting. I've never seen stretch marks (on my body or someone else's) and thought "ew gross, how ugly!" It's just some marks on skin, so I'd hope the people we are interested in would not let something like skin marks prevent them from being as attracted to us.
