I have some minor stretchmarks on/around my thighs and hips. Funnily enough, my butt seems to have been spared. They're not very noticable; just slightly more milky than the rest of my skin. I don't mind them.
Do you have stretch marks?
05/03/2013
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Yes, I think that is 100% true. We are our own worst critics.
Originally posted by
K101
Thank you, Gary! See there. I knew people didn't think so badly of them. I think it's US who criticize our bodies way more harshly (whether it's over stretch marks or love handles or cellulite) than others. I guess it's true that we
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Thank you, Gary! See there. I knew people didn't think so badly of them. I think it's US who criticize our bodies way more harshly (whether it's over stretch marks or love handles or cellulite) than others. I guess it's true that we tend to be our own worst enemy or critic or whatever it is. I bet most people actually don't think much of these things when they see them.
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It's something I am working on too - but as I read the thread and think about this I think how illogical it is to feel bad, or guilty, or ashamed over something we cannot control - like our skin's reaction to being stretched for whatever reason (puberty, weight, whatever). We don't control our bodies in that way, and it's sad that we would judge ourselves as people just because of something uncontrollable that our body did. We deserve more, and I think we owe ourselves more than that.
This is an area we all deserve to work on, to feel better about and judge ourselves less.
05/03/2013
Stretch marks from gaining and losing weight a lot.
05/03/2013
I've had stretch marks ever since puberty, but strangely, didn't seem to gain new ones during pregnancy.
05/03/2013
I have them on my breasts,thighs,arms and tummy that I know of for sure. I am not 100% fond of them but my partner has never mentioned them he just tells me I am perfect just the way I am and that he loves my body
05/03/2013
I have slight stretch marks from puberty, in the usual places. They don't bother me though. I call the white ones on my hips my white tiger stripes cos I quite like those ones. They're faint but they still remind me of when people get animal print tattoos
05/03/2013
I know a lot of women who call them Tiger Stripes!
I'm not in love with them, but I'm proud of what my body did to get them. Those marks are there because I grew two people...which is pretty freaking awesome!
I'm not in love with them, but I'm proud of what my body did to get them. Those marks are there because I grew two people...which is pretty freaking awesome!
05/03/2013
I do have stretch marks, I don't like them but it is what it is.
05/03/2013
My stretch marks don't bother me. everyone has them. Plus I take care of my skin.
05/03/2013
I've got them on my thighs and breasts from where my weight has gone up and down.
05/03/2013
Growing up I was very overweight...At 13, I was over 200 pounds... I lost weight.. Lowest was 110.. So yeah, I have stretch marks.. Not very noticeable, but I'm definitely self conscious.. Since I know they're there.
05/03/2013
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Thanks a lot for your response! I love your attitude towards it. I am going to have to try to adapt that attitude.
Originally posted by
K101
Me too! I've had them ever since my early teens. I have stretch marks on my butt cheeks, my thighs (outer and inner) and my breasts. Hell, I've even felt them on the backs of my calves before! However, they don't always seem to be there
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Me too! I've had them ever since my early teens. I have stretch marks on my butt cheeks, my thighs (outer and inner) and my breasts. Hell, I've even felt them on the backs of my calves before! However, they don't always seem to be there & are not visible, only felt them with my fingers.
The ones on my butt cheeks are the ones that I was bothered by most. I don't really care about them, but worried that my stretch marks (the most noticeable ones, visually, are on my thighs) would cause me to be way less attractive to my partner. Other than that, they don't bother me at all, and I should have never even worried that something like marks on my skin would cause my partner to be less attracted to me. Hey, I grew, got smaller and grew some more! It left marks on my skin, big deal! And they just so happen to look kind of neat when I'm real tan and the ones on my thighs are silvery. So that is how I see it now. It's just not a big deal to me & I'm so glad. At one point, I went through a phase where I just figured they must be ugly & I bought about 4 different brands of "stretch mark erasing cream." Not the smartest way I've spent $. None worked. They smell good though! Lol. I also bought 2 creams for "tightening" the skin in hopes it'd help with the marks. Stupid thing to spend my $ on. I still have the same marks that are the same depth and length. I don't think any of those products made a difference and now, I don't care.
I too think every person has stretch mark, but not just women! Let's not forget men get them too. Most men I know have them. I had an ex who had three times as many as I did. No big deal to me. My partner has a few minor ones.
Also, stretch marks have nothing to do with your weight. They happen to people of all sizes. I've heard they happen when you gain a lot of weight, but that's untrue. I think it's more to do with your skin stretching, maybe rapidly? And doing so during times like puberty when you're growing like a weed.They CAN come up if you suddenly lose a lot or gain a lot of weight, but I have done both (lost a huge amount very rapidly and gained a large amount very quickly) and neither of those things caused me a single extra mark. Mine just happened during puberty, as most probably do.
There are some things we can choose to not feel badly about, not let it get us down & there are some things that we just can't help but get down over (for me that's my sides sometimes) so when there's something about me that I can easily not stress over, I make sure I don't (stress over it.) Stretch marks aren't something that deeply upset me, so I forget about them and when they do catch my attention, I just think they look interesting. I've never seen stretch marks (on my body or someone else's) and thought "ew gross, how ugly!" It's just some marks on skin, so I'd hope the people we are interested in would not let something like skin marks prevent them from being as attracted to us. less
The ones on my butt cheeks are the ones that I was bothered by most. I don't really care about them, but worried that my stretch marks (the most noticeable ones, visually, are on my thighs) would cause me to be way less attractive to my partner. Other than that, they don't bother me at all, and I should have never even worried that something like marks on my skin would cause my partner to be less attracted to me. Hey, I grew, got smaller and grew some more! It left marks on my skin, big deal! And they just so happen to look kind of neat when I'm real tan and the ones on my thighs are silvery. So that is how I see it now. It's just not a big deal to me & I'm so glad. At one point, I went through a phase where I just figured they must be ugly & I bought about 4 different brands of "stretch mark erasing cream." Not the smartest way I've spent $. None worked. They smell good though! Lol. I also bought 2 creams for "tightening" the skin in hopes it'd help with the marks. Stupid thing to spend my $ on. I still have the same marks that are the same depth and length. I don't think any of those products made a difference and now, I don't care.
I too think every person has stretch mark, but not just women! Let's not forget men get them too. Most men I know have them. I had an ex who had three times as many as I did. No big deal to me. My partner has a few minor ones.
Also, stretch marks have nothing to do with your weight. They happen to people of all sizes. I've heard they happen when you gain a lot of weight, but that's untrue. I think it's more to do with your skin stretching, maybe rapidly? And doing so during times like puberty when you're growing like a weed.They CAN come up if you suddenly lose a lot or gain a lot of weight, but I have done both (lost a huge amount very rapidly and gained a large amount very quickly) and neither of those things caused me a single extra mark. Mine just happened during puberty, as most probably do.
There are some things we can choose to not feel badly about, not let it get us down & there are some things that we just can't help but get down over (for me that's my sides sometimes) so when there's something about me that I can easily not stress over, I make sure I don't (stress over it.) Stretch marks aren't something that deeply upset me, so I forget about them and when they do catch my attention, I just think they look interesting. I've never seen stretch marks (on my body or someone else's) and thought "ew gross, how ugly!" It's just some marks on skin, so I'd hope the people we are interested in would not let something like skin marks prevent them from being as attracted to us. less
Mine are on my inner and outer thighs, butt, hips, boobs, calves too. Some of them had to do with weight gain but I think the majority were from growing taller in puberty. The ones on my thighs bother me the most because there are just so many and they're so deep. It's not even a weird self consciousness thing where I have a weird body image, they are super prominent and numerous. I agree though, I've never seen someone and thought "Look at those gross stretch marks!" and nobody has made negative comments towards me about mine along the lines of "wow, you have a lot" or something. I think the only things that happened was that my mom made a comment that wasn't meant as an insult and a friend said "lol you have stretch marks on your ass" while we were swimming. Nobody I've ever dated has made any comments about it. I guess it's mostly an internal insecurity?
Cocoa butter is supposed to help a lot with stretch marks and is a lot cheaper. It's too bad you wasted a lot of money on the creams because they're really expensive but it's great that you learned from it.
I also liked the "he looks like he got clawed by an animal" comment by surreptitious And thank you for the comment, Gary. That kinda made me feel a bit better.
It looks like a majority of the poll answerers are comfortable with theirs, that's awesome!
05/04/2013
There was a point that Kendra made that I found true with myself. Though I hate mine and they make feel ugly and gross, I have never looked at anyone else that has them and thought "eww, cover up", so I don't know why I torture myself over it. My fiance even has some and I don't think anything about him is ugly and they don't bother me at all.
05/04/2013
I know a lot of girls I knew in high school felt badly about them. I'm lucky to have few and faint ones, just on my inner thighs and mostly unnoticeable ones on my hips. Sometimes it's tough to know that other people have these marks too when you feel too ashamed to ask and just don't see others' bodies -- and then you're presented with highly airbrushed pictures of people you're told are attractive.
05/04/2013
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I have stretch marks on my breasts and on my hips by my love handles.
Originally posted by
sunflower
Do you have stretch marks? I feel like almost every woman has them.
I've had awful stretch marks all over my body since I was an (extremely skinny) 13 year old. I mean REALLY BAD stretch marks. They're almost all faded now but ... more
I've had awful stretch marks all over my body since I was an (extremely skinny) 13 year old. I mean REALLY BAD stretch marks. They're almost all faded now but ... more
Do you have stretch marks? I feel like almost every woman has them.
I've had awful stretch marks all over my body since I was an (extremely skinny) 13 year old. I mean REALLY BAD stretch marks. They're almost all faded now but idk?
Do you have them too and how do you feel about them? less
I've had awful stretch marks all over my body since I was an (extremely skinny) 13 year old. I mean REALLY BAD stretch marks. They're almost all faded now but idk?
Do you have them too and how do you feel about them? less
05/04/2013
I don't have any, but my woman does. It doesn't really bother either of us.
...but you know they make topical creams for that?
...but you know they make topical creams for that?
05/04/2013
I have stretch marks. I got them back when I was pregnant. For a long time they were dark purple and deep. Now that I'm slowly losing weight and a couple years have passed, they're faded and not as deep. I'm kind of back and forth between comfortable and uncomfortable with them. It all depends on the setting and how I'm feeling.
05/04/2013
I don't have any stretch marks, fortunately.
05/04/2013
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Ohhh, honey! I'm so sorry you feel that way! The idea that women must be stretch-mark-free and cellulite-free in order to be attractive is a myth created by advertisers. They want to make you think there are all kinds of things wrong with you so they can sell you products to "fix" your body. You don't need an excuse for the way you look, and your body is NOT disgusting and ugly! Shame on those who've made you feel that way!
Originally posted by
Zombirella
I got them when I finally decided to grow (and almost stop) around 12/13. Then got some more from weight gain and quick loss. I hate it and I feel ashamed that I have them and I can't use having a child as an excuse for my disgusting, ugly body
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I got them when I finally decided to grow (and almost stop) around 12/13. Then got some more from weight gain and quick loss. I hate it and I feel ashamed that I have them and I can't use having a child as an excuse for my disgusting, ugly body I'm SO self conscious about it.
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I hit puberty pretty suddenly, myself, and started going from a string-bean type figure to a curvy hourglass at around 12-13. I wore a 34D as a young teen, and my mom asked me once if I was stuffing my bra! (I was so embarrassed.) I have more funny stories like that, but the point is that I wound up with stretch marks on my breasts, all over the back and sides of my hips, on the back and inside of my thighs, and even a couyple on my calves. I've gained and lost weight over the years, but not more than about a 20-lb. fluctuation. Women get stretch marks for all kinds of reasons. My ex-husband had stretch marks as well, so it isn't just women, either.
I used to be self-conscious about my stretch marks, but my current partner actually tells me she likes them, that they're my "tiger stripes" and that they're actually sexy. She's a rather visually-oriented person, so that's a huge compliment, and I feel much more comfortable with them now.
05/04/2013
I have no stretch marks and that is after 5 children. Nutrition is what I think made the difference.
05/04/2013
Mine are almost all on my hips from puberty. They're faded white now and remind me of a fresh diagonal scratch. I'm certainly comfortable with those ones and I actually kind of like them.
05/05/2013
Mine get reallllly dark purple the fade like a shiny white then come back all purple
05/05/2013
Just my arms
05/05/2013
mine are from pregnancy
05/05/2013
I hate my stretch marks.
05/05/2013
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i have them on my thighs and breasts and i worry about them sometimes, but theyre not one of my biggest insecurities or anything
Originally posted by
sunflower
Do you have stretch marks? I feel like almost every woman has them.
I've had awful stretch marks all over my body since I was an (extremely skinny) 13 year old. I mean REALLY BAD stretch marks. They're almost all faded now but ... more
I've had awful stretch marks all over my body since I was an (extremely skinny) 13 year old. I mean REALLY BAD stretch marks. They're almost all faded now but ... more
Do you have stretch marks? I feel like almost every woman has them.
I've had awful stretch marks all over my body since I was an (extremely skinny) 13 year old. I mean REALLY BAD stretch marks. They're almost all faded now but idk?
Do you have them too and how do you feel about them? less
I've had awful stretch marks all over my body since I was an (extremely skinny) 13 year old. I mean REALLY BAD stretch marks. They're almost all faded now but idk?
Do you have them too and how do you feel about them? less
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