Lately I've been finding whichever one of my girlsfriends is single is the one I end up hanging out with the most, maybe that just because the others are in happy new budding relationships and I just need to wait for them to get bored and need their own space? Or is it just wrong to be ditched for a guy?
Do all of your friends disappear when the get boyfriends?
05/21/2013
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It's normal to want to spend a lot of time with a new boyfriend. But they should also find time to spend with their separate friends. That is the sign of a healthy relationship.
05/22/2013
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Everybody is different, so not all girls do this, but I do think it's pretty normal to kind of disappear from your regular life when you're still having the new love journey. My friends and I usually would just all hang out together -- then we'd be with our partners and each other, which can be loads of fun, especially if you do a fun activity together.
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Lately I've been finding whichever one of my girlsfriends is single is the one I end up hanging out with the most, maybe that just because the others are in happy new budding relationships and I just need to wait for them to get bored and need
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Lately I've been finding whichever one of my girlsfriends is single is the one I end up hanging out with the most, maybe that just because the others are in happy new budding relationships and I just need to wait for them to get bored and need their own space? Or is it just wrong to be ditched for a guy?
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Close friends, they do usually stay in touch, but it can take time for them to stop being caught up in the fun, newness of always wanting to be with their partner.
The thing is, and this is what I've experienced, when your friends get serious with the boyfriend/girlfriend, not just in the newness of the relationship is when you stop haging out so much, or even grow apart. Even more so when one of you starts having children. This has happened with me and pretty much all of my friends. Marriage and kids. However, that has not stopped my partner and I from being available for friend time.
Another thing -- it's not just a girl thing. Our guy friends are just as bad once they find a girlfriend. You never see them anymore! Lol.
I guess it's just how things happen, but if both make an effort, friends CAN stay in touch and stay close. My best girlfriend since childhood and I have found ways to remain in touch and just as close over the years -- with partners and kids!
05/22/2013
Lots of friends do things together to get guys...when they get guys they do different things. Same thing with marriage. You simply don't do the same things you used to.
05/22/2013
It's good to have a healthy balance of spending time with your friends, and your boyfriend.
05/22/2013
I know I always see less of my friends when they are dating, but its not always a bad thing.
05/22/2013
It can vary. After that initial honeymoon dating period, my friends usually found a balance. A few didn't, but that tends to happen in general
05/22/2013
I'm actually the person who disappears when I have a boyfriend. I'm more of a loner and don't really know how to be a friend. All the friends I've had were backstabbing bitches.. sooo... it didn't really bother me to disappear.
05/23/2013
It's a little strange to e that this is geard toward one gender-specific group, as many people will choose to spend time with their partners in the beginning than see friends that they probably see daily. It's not something specific to just women.
Kendra makes some very good points in her reply that i agree with. However, i do feel this happens more before a relationship stabilizes, and picks up again when things start to get more serious (like deciding to move in together, getting married, or have children).
There should be a good balance between romantic and platonic relationships though.
Kendra makes some very good points in her reply that i agree with. However, i do feel this happens more before a relationship stabilizes, and picks up again when things start to get more serious (like deciding to move in together, getting married, or have children).
There should be a good balance between romantic and platonic relationships though.
05/23/2013
I definitely feel like it's wrong & there should be more of a balance, but I've always found that my friends tend to all but abandon me whenever they get a boyfriend, & when we do talk, they only ever want to discuss him.
05/23/2013
I only ditch the ones I'm not close with, my close friends are always there, its natural your so will take up a big part of our life
05/23/2013
I've always tried to make time for both friends and whomever I'm seeing at the time. Partners come and go, but friends tend to stick around longer.
05/28/2013
I think there's an adjusting time where a lot of girls become preoccupied with the boyfriend. Most girls come out of that eventually, but not always, and that's usually because they don't quite know HOW to fit everything in. Sometimes reaching out to them helps quite a bit, but if they don't make an effort in return, well, good riddance to them.
05/28/2013
Most of my friends are single or live in other states. But in the past, my friends with boyfriends still remained close to me.
06/04/2013
I think there's a transition period, where one adjusts to the time demands of the relationship. Once that's settled, you may see them less, but you should still see them. Then again, there's always going to be people that neglect their friends for their partners. Maybe those people are more likely to be in high-maintenance relationships?
06/04/2013
Holy Hannah. All my friends here I have lost over the past year. Sometimes I just feel so alone simply because my friends have boyfriends or new husbands.
Then all I hear is my boyfriend... My boyfriend... My husband... My husband. It is like they forgot who they are and turned into these sniveling, weak, whimpsy, dependent women mean shadows of who they used to be.
It is normal to forget friends and other things planned when someone new enters to ur life... But to get lost in your partner... That is just wrong.
Then all I hear is my boyfriend... My boyfriend... My husband... My husband. It is like they forgot who they are and turned into these sniveling, weak, whimpsy, dependent women mean shadows of who they used to be.
It is normal to forget friends and other things planned when someone new enters to ur life... But to get lost in your partner... That is just wrong.
06/04/2013
I feel like when my friends get boyfriends/girlfriends they start hanging together more often like double dates and/or disappear off the map with only their significant other. This is especially true in the beginning but as time goes on they start showing more around the single friends but they drag their significant others along with them usually
07/17/2013
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