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Contributor: IslandGoddess IslandGoddess
Okay so ive Never had Anal sex, but ive always been curious as to how it feels but im too scared to try. Im scared it might hurt or i might not like it. Also it would be embarrassing if you know i wasnt "clean". I try to think of it as losing my Anal virginity for the first time. So i need some help i have alot of Questions and i need answers from experienced people

*What should i do to prepare for Anal sex for the first time?
*How do i make sure that inside my Anus is clean and ready for sex?
*Should i experiment on my own with smaller toys and work my way up to bigger toys then the real thing?
*I want to know the honest truth about how it feels and if it hurts?
*Does it feel as good or better than Vaginal sex?

TELL me EVERYHING i need to know ! This is so embarrassing
08/08/2011
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
Informative topic breakdown of Anal Sex:

Anal toys or the real thing. which do you prefer during anal sex?
I very much enjoy both. What abt u?

Oral or anal?
Would you rather get oral or anal sex?

Help with choosing a lube please
My gf and I are wanting to begin experiencing with anal sex. I have purchaes a beginner kit and while shopping for a lube I didn't realize there were.

What type lube do you use for LONG anal sessions? Water based or Silicone?
We always use water based lube. I just had an 11 hour continual anal sex-athon with hubby, but we went through a tube and a half of lube. I was...

Anal sex for both female and male
Married, or just dating, or even just fooling around with someone, When you get to anal sex has your hubby/Wife let you go to the back door ? or do...
08/08/2011
Contributor: TitsMcScandal TitsMcScandal
I was just as frightened before I made the jump into having anal sex for the first time. Preparation? Talk! Lube! Toys! Orgasms! All of those I think are very very important to having anal sex, especially for the first time.

Talk with your partner about your concerns and wants. Communication is key, especially during the actual event since if you are uncomfortable or dislike it, you should be able to talk through it to stop.

Lube! Always important so you don't damage or rip any of the tissue back there.

Toys, I found it easiest to play with toys to adjust and get used to the different (and yes, sometimes weird) sensations. This makes accommodating to your partner much easier.

Orgasms. Now this is something that I've found helps. After I've cum a few times I find that I'm more relaxed and easily penetrated without tensing up.

I have orgasmed from anal sex alone, but rarely. Usually I need clitoral stimulation at the same time, so bring along your favorite small clitoral vibrator to the party.

Hope that helps a bit. Have fun!
08/08/2011
Contributor: potstickers potstickers
If you have a bit of time, you can check out the anal sex forum, which has practically everything you could ever want to know in at least one of the threads.
08/08/2011
Contributor: IslandGoddess IslandGoddess
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Originally posted by potstickers
If you have a bit of time, you can check out the anal sex forum, which has practically everything you could ever want to know in at least one of the threads.
Thank you so much im going to check it out right now
08/09/2011
Contributor: IslandGoddess IslandGoddess
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Originally posted by TitsMcScandal
I was just as frightened before I made the jump into having anal sex for the first time. Preparation? Talk! Lube! Toys! Orgasms! All of those I think are very very important to having anal sex, especially for the first time.

Talk with your ... more
Wow i didnt know you could have an orgasm from Anal Sex! Thank you This really helped. I havn't spoke to my boyfriend about it yet but im goin to start with a small dildo or the beads to slowly get me into it then im move my way up to the real thing.
08/09/2011
Contributor: ParisLove ParisLove
Ive never had it either! but im going to try soon il keep you updated
08/09/2011
Contributor: IslandGoddess IslandGoddess
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Originally posted by ParisLove
Ive never had it either! but im going to try soon il keep you updated
THANKS PARIS
08/11/2011
Contributor: Jordan B Jordan B
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12/10/2011
Contributor: STM STM
My hubby really wants to try it and so do I, I just can't seem to relax enough to get it done
12/11/2011
Contributor: swaggsohott12 swaggsohott12
lol relax your muscles try not to tense up
12/11/2011
Contributor: SweetSurprise SweetSurprise
Quote:
Originally posted by TitsMcScandal
I was just as frightened before I made the jump into having anal sex for the first time. Preparation? Talk! Lube! Toys! Orgasms! All of those I think are very very important to having anal sex, especially for the first time.

Talk with your ... more
I agree that orgasms before penetrating helps a lot. And yes lots of lube. Take it so slow the first time.
12/11/2011
Contributor: cryinglightning86 cryinglightning86
Don't be embarrassed! A lot of people have these same sorts of worries.

I don't know if you've ever heard of Laci Green, but she recently made a video that acts as an intro to anal sex. The rest of her videos are fantastic as well.

link

Basically, work up to it very slowly - do it with yourself first, using fingers and then working up to using a dildo. Then, you'll be more comfortable trying it with partner, and you'll also know if it's something you like. Use plenty of lube, use protection if you're not in a committed monogamous relationship, and communicate. If you're worried about cleanliness, so long as you have a good diet full of fiber-rich fruit and veggies, and so long as you bathe normally in the shower, you should be a-okay.

I've never done this personally, but I one time read on link (possibly the best sex blog ever) that someone used a butt plug to aid in warming up to anal sex. Maybe that would be something you'd want to try? Again, plenty of lube - that area of your body produces no lube on its own.

Good luck.
06/28/2012