new to anal

new to anal

somechick somechick
Recently I bought the Beginner Silicon Anal Kit. It hasn't arrived yet, but I've realized that even though I'm willing to experiment I actually have no idea how to use anal toys, beyond the vague understanding that I will need lots of lube. So I've got a few questions, mainly how do I keep them clean and should I use a condom, but any and all advice would be appreciated.
09/24/2016
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Vnessa Vnessa
These are very good questions.

Cleaning can be as simple as warm soapy water or giving them a run through the Top shelf of the dishwasher (no detergent). If you are extra careful, you can boil water and soak them for no longer than 3 minutes for sanitization.

It's recommended that you use condoms if you plan on sharing them with a partner since bacteria can't be completely cleansed away with normal washings.
09/24/2016
Sugarfina Sugarfina
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Originally posted by somechick
Recently I bought the Beginner Silicon Anal Kit. It hasn't arrived yet, but I've realized that even though I'm willing to experiment I actually have no idea how to use anal toys, beyond the vague understanding that I will need lots of ...
Usually for cleaning butt toys I just wash them with anti-bacterial hand soap. I dont have a dish washer and dont plan on getting one. I live in an old farm house with limited access to water so it's just not an option for me. Maybe it is for you.

I think that if you've bought safe toys, made from silicone, glass, or even aluminum/steel, you're good to go. I agree with Vnessa on the sharing. Sanitation is soooo important, especially if you're going that route.

I would start with smaller toys first, smaller plugs, something the equivalent of maybe a finger.

I wish you a lot of luck and hope you enjoy all of the new experiences to come.
09/25/2016
somechick somechick
Thanks, both of you, for answering my questions! I feel a lot more reassured that I'll be able to do this, lol.
09/25/2016
DancerKittyKat DancerKittyKat
Start slow, make sure you're relaxed first. If you are just starting out, sometimes it works best to start with your fingers to get your asshole used to the sensation. Definitely use lots of lube! I prefer water based gel lubes (like Slippery Stuff Lubricant) since they don't drip everywhere. Many people find pushing back on a plug as if you are pushing something out helps. Personally, I like pushing a plug in and out with small strokes until the plug starts slipping in. Then, I hold the plug there until my ass sucks the plug up. The nice thing about the Beginner Silicone Anal Kit is that the plugs have very thin tips that allow for easy entry. Sometimes there is a little discomfort at first with toys that are bigger than you're used to. Usually, if you let the plug sit for a minute, the discomfort goes away. If it persists, try adding more lube.

If you have any toys you wish to use for anal and vaginal use or if you're sharing toys with someone, use a condom. For toys that are porous (fortunately, silicone is not porous), condoms are more important.

Yes, soap and water works perfectly well. As long as there are no electrical parts, you can use the dish washer or boil the toys if you feel that is necessary. I have also heard of people using bleach. I just stick to regular antibacterial soap and water. I've never had an issue with smell except for with low quality materials.
09/25/2016
MrClark MrClark
If it's actual silicone then it should be non-porous, so a bleach solution or rubbing alcohol can help sterilize the toy. I have tried the EF Toy Cleaner and it does a good job in helping get anything off the toy. It also potentially can also sterilize the toy but I'm not as familiar with the chemicals they used for this so I stick with rubbing alcohol or a bleach solution. If the toys don't have electrics inside boiling is also an option too. I know for metal/glass toys (another typically non-porous material) people run them through the sanitization setting on their dishwashers.

Making sure the toys are clean is important as you are inserting them inside of you, this is important for any toy. We don't want to introduce bacterial or other biologic that will change the environment internally causing infection or major medical problems.

There is a debate on if you want to do an enema before anal play; however, everything I've read indicates you should not use any high pressure enema options or use any chemical enema solutions (warm water is fine). This can be mostly for personal preference, mind you even with an enema a mess can happen; however, generally it's cleaner than without.

I agree with DancerKittyKat, start slow, relax, and don't push yourself to larger and larger plugs, toys, or anal sex before you are comfortable/ready for it. If you work yourself up slowly and enjoy the sensations as you go you'll enjoy the experience more. I discussed introducing my girlfriend to anal sex in another thread. I personally enjoy prostate play and have been doing that for nearly 20 years now, I also once got my fist in my butt so I definitely appreciate anal play/taking it slow from a personal level and not just easing my girlfriend into letting me have anal sex with her Regardless, go slow, use lube, relax, and enjoy! And keep asking questions if you have them.
09/25/2016
somechick somechick
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Originally posted by DancerKittyKat
Start slow, make sure you're relaxed first. If you are just starting out, sometimes it works best to start with your fingers to get your asshole used to the sensation. Definitely use lots of lube! I prefer water based gel lubes (like Slippery ...
Thanks for all the info. Question though, how do you add more lube? Putting more around the entrence seems like it wouldn't do much, so do you have to take the toy out if you didn't put enough on the first time?
09/25/2016
somechick somechick
Quote:
Originally posted by MrClark
If it's actual silicone then it should be non-porous, so a bleach solution or rubbing alcohol can help sterilize the toy. I have tried the EF Toy Cleaner and it does a good job in helping get anything off the toy. It also potentially can also ...
an enema seems like a huge hassle, so I'm not gonna try it unless it's 100% necessary. at least i know its an option though I guess. I already know about pushing myself too much from my early years, lol, I can use that experience to know how to pace myself now I guess
09/25/2016
DancerKittyKat DancerKittyKat
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Originally posted by somechick
Thanks for all the info. Question though, how do you add more lube? Putting more around the entrence seems like it wouldn't do much, so do you have to take the toy out if you didn't put enough on the first time?
I usually just take the toy out if I need more lube. I suppose adding more lube applies mostly to anal dildos rather than plugs. You can just smother a plug with lube at the beginning since the lube won't dry up after repeated thrusting like it would with a dildo. There are also tools called lube launchers that can insert lube further inside your ass for better lubrication. I own a lube launcher and can't say that I use it very often. I find simply putting extra lube on the toy before inserting it works fine. Plus, you could just use your fingers to push some extra lube inside you.
09/25/2016
DancerKittyKat DancerKittyKat
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Originally posted by somechick
an enema seems like a huge hassle, so I'm not gonna try it unless it's 100% necessary. at least i know its an option though I guess. I already know about pushing myself too much from my early years, lol, I can use that experience to know how ...
In my opinion, there's no need to do an enema, especially if it's for solo play. Even with a partner, most people understand that the butt is where poop comes out so it won't be a complete surprise if there is a small bit of fecal matter. Before you play, if you feel the urge to poop, do that before you play. That will be enough.
09/25/2016
somechick somechick
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Originally posted by DancerKittyKat
I usually just take the toy out if I need more lube. I suppose adding more lube applies mostly to anal dildos rather than plugs. You can just smother a plug with lube at the beginning since the lube won't dry up after repeated thrusting like it ...
Cool, thanks!
09/25/2016
MrClark MrClark
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Originally posted by DancerKittyKat
In my opinion, there's no need to do an enema, especially if it's for solo play. Even with a partner, most people understand that the butt is where poop comes out so it won't be a complete surprise if there is a small bit of fecal ...
I agree, as I said... some people like to others don't. And agree, one should expect some small amount of fecal matter, even if you did an enema.

I also swear by lube launchers, makes getting adequate internal lubrication easier.
09/25/2016
Sugarfina Sugarfina
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Originally posted by somechick
Thanks, both of you, for answering my questions! I feel a lot more reassured that I'll be able to do this, lol.
It's no problem. I hope you're not afraid or too worried. The most important thing is that you go at your own pace and dont rush yourself into doing something you're not comfortable with. We're here for you.
09/26/2016
Sugarfina Sugarfina
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Originally posted by DancerKittyKat
Start slow, make sure you're relaxed first. If you are just starting out, sometimes it works best to start with your fingers to get your asshole used to the sensation. Definitely use lots of lube! I prefer water based gel lubes (like Slippery ...
I agree - And I think all of this is great advice.
09/26/2016
Sugarfina Sugarfina
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Originally posted by somechick
an enema seems like a huge hassle, so I'm not gonna try it unless it's 100% necessary. at least i know its an option though I guess. I already know about pushing myself too much from my early years, lol, I can use that experience to know how ...
I've never used an enema. I dont think they're necessary. Something about them freaks me out, honestly.
09/26/2016
Inquisitor Inquisitor
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Originally posted by Sugarfina
I've never used an enema. I dont think they're necessary. Something about them freaks me out, honestly.
That's fine. You know your body better that anyone else. There's no mandate that states you have to perform an enema before anal play. To each their own.

Personally, I swear by enemas when I plug myself or when I'm on the receiving end, no pun intended. I feel it removes the oops from the equation.
09/26/2016
Sugarfina Sugarfina
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Originally posted by Inquisitor
That's fine. You know your body better that anyone else. There's no mandate that states you have to perform an enema before anal play. To each their own.

Personally, I swear by enemas when I plug myself or when I'm on the receiving ...
I think it's because of sexual trauma.. There are just some things that I have extreme anxiety over that might not bother others. But on another note, they may bother many many others too.
09/26/2016
somechick somechick
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Originally posted by Sugarfina
It's no problem. I hope you're not afraid or too worried. The most important thing is that you go at your own pace and dont rush yourself into doing something you're not comfortable with. We're here for you.
I'm kinda worried but kinda excited too! ahaha.
09/26/2016
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by somechick
I'm kinda worried but kinda excited too! ahaha.
Yes, that is a big part of the thrill, anticipation and excitement ! I remember my first.. and second..and third, etc After the first toy, had to try another. Larger of course. Then different shapes, then different materials. ......
oops! tmi again

The first time your sphincter pulls it in, you will say _ _ _ _. Then" what have I done", then _ _ _ ! This feels _ _ _ _.

I'll let you fill in the blanks after you experience it for yourself.

Come back and fill in the blanks please.

See, I told you this was a friendly place
09/26/2016
somechick somechick
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Yes, that is a big part of the thrill, anticipation and excitement ! I remember my first.. and second..and third, etc After the first toy, had to try another. Larger of course. Then different shapes, then different materials. ......
oops! tmi ...
Ehehe, I'll be sure to lol. It's a whole new group of experiences
09/26/2016
Sugarfina Sugarfina
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Yes, that is a big part of the thrill, anticipation and excitement ! I remember my first.. and second..and third, etc After the first toy, had to try another. Larger of course. Then different shapes, then different materials. ......
oops! tmi ...
Haha, I love this post comment!
09/26/2016
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