Wanting to try prostate toys, don't think the wifey is down!

Contributor: BigGuyFunTime BigGuyFunTime
I need assistance. Since I've became a member of edenfantasys, I've noticed ALOT of prostate toys. MANY MANY moons ago, an ex girlfriend used her curved dildo on me while giving me oral. At first I was wierded out, thinking if I enjoyed it, it would be gay. She said that it's perfectly fine for guys to have toys in their ass and not be gay because of prostate play. I let her continue, and enjoyed it. I'm not married and would like to spice up the sex play, but I don't want the wife thinking it's wierd. I never got a toy for myself. I want to share this with her. How?
08/31/2012
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Contributor: GingerAnn GingerAnn
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Sooo, does this plan on being used?
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08/31/2012
Contributor: Ganconagh Ganconagh
Have you talked to her about this? I would start with that. Just be open and honest about it with her.

Also, Tristan Taormino's Expert Guide to Anal Pleasure for Men dvd might be a good investment for you. Very well done and informative.
08/31/2012
Contributor: ToyGeek ToyGeek
If you're concerned that she'll believe the same sex myths about male anal play as you did in the past, you could just ask. Maybe she already knows why it feels good. If you want be more subtle, order several of the Tristan Taormino dvds on different subjects and you could both discover something new.
08/31/2012
Contributor: BigGuyFunTime BigGuyFunTime
We've been married for four years. I just feel like I'm going to be in the wrong for holding this back for so long. I will keep you all informed. Thank you so much and I will check out those DVD's FOR SURE!
08/31/2012
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Talk to her. I would advise caution on the DVDs - sometimes that causes more trouble, especially if they get into the more extreme stuff. Talk first.
08/31/2012
Contributor: S&Gangel S&Gangel
U know what im in the same situation; 3 yrs into marriage, just a matter of talking about it guess! Ill wait till ive had a beer or 2 before venturing down that path of discussion though@

Any luck yet for u?
09/06/2012
Contributor: sw33t1zm3 sw33t1zm3
yeah thats definitely something you should talk to your wife about but you should ask her what her fetishes are and see what she likes and carefully open up about it because you dont want to air it out and than find out that shes totally repulsed by it. it can scar a marriage and it is something you can definitely work through but just expect the worse and hope for the best(if you think this way you can be prepared for it. I know my advice sounds alittle crappy but i wanted to try something with my husband and i told him and he wasnt too happy about it. my husband was able to work through it and we laugh about it now but it kinda scarred how he looks at me sometimes. good luck buddy! let me know how it goes. And in my opinion if my husband asked me to do that I would think hes on drugs because hes so anal about it( no pon intended) lol but I would do it anyway because I'm open about it and would like to try new things at least once.( my husband suggested i write my opinion)lol
09/08/2012
Contributor: S&Gangel S&Gangel
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Originally posted by sw33t1zm3
yeah thats definitely something you should talk to your wife about but you should ask her what her fetishes are and see what she likes and carefully open up about it because you dont want to air it out and than find out that shes totally repulsed by ... more
yep agreed. Something im still unsure of yet, so its no rush, maybe something to look at down the track!
09/08/2012
Contributor: sw33t1zm3 sw33t1zm3
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Originally posted by S&Gangel
yep agreed. Something im still unsure of yet, so its no rush, maybe something to look at down the track!
yeah don't rush into it, sex is important but its also good for men to get to know their wife. You never know she might be more of a freak than you'll ever know just take your time to get to know her first.
09/08/2012
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
You could shop together and browse them and gauge her reaction in a store or online. I was surprised my lady was down with me using them. Next step is getting her to to drive and initiate.
09/08/2012
Contributor: Miss Appear Miss Appear
I agree with Trysexual, the best way to approach it is to not make it a bigger deal than it is, and just be casual about it.
09/08/2012
Contributor: S&Gangel S&Gangel
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Originally posted by Miss Appear
I agree with Trysexual, the best way to approach it is to not make it a bigger deal than it is, and just be casual about it.
thanks ppl
09/09/2012
Contributor: MJ7 MJ7
I would be totally cool with my man telling me this!

Especially since I'm the one pushing for this, and he's scared to try..
09/21/2012
Contributor: playsalot playsalot
Take a chance and let her know you are curious about stimulating your prostate. If you are too worried to do this try to drop some hints and feel out how she reacts to them.
10/16/2012
Contributor: Bill220 Bill220
Pick a good time (only you will when that time is), bring up the subject, ask her opinion and stop talking until she replies. If she's not interested you can always have fun by yourself. I've been married for 10 years and my wife used to enjoy using toys on me but has totally lost interest in it so I do it alone as often as I can. And I thoroughly enjoy it!
10/16/2012
Contributor: Two Grand Two Grand
My wife is not into anal and won't even talk about it. I am trying to tell her about prostrate massage, but all she thinks is if a man is interested in anal he must be gay. But I do it without her knowledge, As I'm posteing this I have had a plug in for 3 hours, please don' tell her, OK.
10/16/2012
Contributor: ImaGodiva ImaGodiva
Maybe start with other toys, if she's interested in exploring, maybe you can gradually explore your way to what you want.
10/22/2012
Contributor: Thong man Thong man
Mine found my plug one day. It started the conversation and she was open to it. I was in scared when I realized that she had found it and did not how she would react. She told me that she had no interest in anal play on her many times before that. best advice is to just talk about it and see what happens
08/17/2015
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
I read somewhere Prostate massage was good for men. I then remembered the erection and excitement I got in the ER years ago. Female doctor had to go in there. At the time thought maybe it exciting due to a female stranger going deep in there. Got a glass massager, the Amethyst. She discovered it in the shower. She was against it at first. As time went by she didn't mind and helped with the massage.

It was not overnight though. Now we have progressed to the ultimate female to male P massage.
08/18/2015