Desensitizing lubes for anal sex

Desensitizing lubes for anal sex

Beantownflirt Beantownflirt
My friend told me I should use a numbing solution to enjoy anal.Is that true that I will feel no pain at all?
05/02/2008
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Quote:
Originally posted by Beantownflirt
My friend told me I should use a numbing solution to enjoy anal.Is that true that I will feel no pain at all?
I'd not advice you any of numbing lubes cause there's the simple matter of not knowing when something painful is occurring. When a sexual act is painful, it's not being done properly. The pain is your body's way of saying "no, bad idea". When you numb a body part, you could be doing irreversible harm to it and not even know. But sex is supposed to FEEL GOOD! If it doesn't, then something isn't right and you need to adjust what you're doing, not numb the pain in order to keep doing something improperly.
05/02/2008
Grandel Grandel
I never choose lubes and creams that have any numbing agent in them cause the pain is your body's way of protecting you from injury and if you dull the pain, you'll end up hurt!
05/02/2008
Shad Shad
Remember that numbing the pain TONIGHT just makes it worse tomorrow! That is if you ignore the pain, you will have MORE pain after the numbing wears off.
05/02/2008
Essin' Em Essin' Em
I HIGHLY HIGHLY HIGHLY advise against ANY lube/cream/etc (for anal, oral, etc) that had desensitizing ingredients. Pain is your body's way of telling you that something is wrong. While anal sex may feel odd/different/even slightly uncomfortable, it should NEVER EVER be painful. If it is something you're interested it for yourself (and not just because your partner wants it), then work up to it. Always use a ton of water based or silicone based lube, start with a few fingers, maybe a small dildo or plug (always with a flanged base!) and work your way up from there. It may take quite a few tries, but if anything HURTS, stop right away. That's your body saying "NO!"
05/05/2008
Emt Emt
While I agree with Essin' Em, pain is the bodies way of saying something's wrong... I actually love tthe Trojan Extended Pleasures. We've tried all sorts of lubes/condoms/etc. but these work the best for us. The Durex version was a joke and the Anal-eze wore off too easily. What we use the numbing for is the INITIAL insertion for her. Once she is stretched out enough the lube with either wear off or we just use Astroglide.

I will say that the first few times we tried anal, we used just regular lube. If you are feeling any extreme pain or notice blood or anything else that would be cause for concern, something's wrong. Stop immediately and see a doctor, especially if seeing blood. However, if you notice that it's just that initial stretch that is your real need to be numbed, maybe give the numbing lube a try, or just spend more time getting used to your fingers/toy/partner.

-Em t
05/07/2008
BiancaBi BiancaBi
Throw out all the desensitizing creams and lotions! You should NOT use anything that can numb you! The pain is your friend...it will tell you when to slow down and when to stop.
05/15/2008
Bulma Bulma
Quote:
Originally posted by Emt
While I agree with Essin' Em, pain is the bodies way of saying something's wrong... I actually love tthe Trojan Extended Pleasures. We've tried all sorts of lubes/condoms/etc. but these work the best for us. The Durex version was a joke ...
Anal sex should not hurt period! If it hurts during initial insertion, that’s a huge red flag that the body is not ready for it yet. Massage helps loosen up the muscles, so it is a great idea to gently massage the anus using a lubed and gloved hand BEFORE any penetrating is done. After the outer sphincter muscle is relaxed you can work on gently massaging the inner sphincter muscle until it gets used to the idea and loosens up some. You can't control the inner muscle; it will open up when it's good and ready. That's where a lot of the pain comes from; people are too impatient to let their body decide when it's ready. After that point a finger works good to get the body used to some penetration so that a toy or penis can be slowly and gently inserted when the person on the RECEIVING end is COMPLETELY ready for it.
07/08/2008
Always Aroused Girl Always Aroused Girl
Pitch those nasty numbing creams.

Anal sex should feel great. You shouldn't ever be numb for it.
09/03/2008
armywife armywife
I am a newbie to well all of this! Not that I am a prude or anything I am just shy. My husband is in the army and is currently in Iraq he will be gone for 15 months- we are 10 months in 5 more to go... anyway he loves anal sex we have tried it 3 times and it hurts. He does everything right but he is kinda big and hurts me vaginally if he has been away for a while so the thought of anal is painful. He is wonderful and there is no pressure but I want to explore it more. I have been reading up in sex forums and I am getting a lot of great info! I am going to buy a SMALL toy to get things started. So my first question is what is the best way to start out for a small price? With all of the choices of plugs vibrators beads ect. I don't know where to begin. Also to anyone that is ummm experienced what is a good lube? The times we did try anal I think the reason it hurt so much is the lube was wrong. He would kinda slip in further than I was ready for him to, if that makes any sense. Is there a lube that is not so slippery or is that just part of the "pleasure". Once he was in it was OK but by that time it hurt too much to enjoy it. Any pointers would be great!!! All of this alone time has made me less shy and I will be able to blow his mind when he comes home....
09/05/2008
Jimbo Jones Jimbo Jones
For a small anal plug that is 100% medical grade silicone that doesn't cost too much check out the Little Flirt by Tantus which is available for only $20. A great anal lube is Maximus because it's nice and thick and water based so it is safe to use for anything.
09/06/2008
Cock Wrangler Cock Wrangler
Quote:
Originally posted by armywife
I am a newbie to well all of this! Not that I am a prude or anything I am just shy. My husband is in the army and is currently in Iraq he will be gone for 15 months- we are 10 months in 5 more to go... anyway he loves anal sex we have tried it 3 ...
Definitely get some Maximus. I'd actually skip the Little Flirt (the same amount of insertion can be accomplished with a finger or thumb) and get something like the Ryder, Tulip or Joe Rock. Those are small-to-medium butt plugs that will help get you used to something in your butt. Before trying anal penetration with him, get yourself to the point where you can comfortably stretch your anus to basically as much as happens with him. You might want to also get a dildo to practice with after you're comfortable with the butt plug. For toy use, stick with Maximus, since it's water-based and safe for toys. For actual anal sex with your partner, you could also try a silicone lube, which will stay slick as long as you want it to (though it can be harder to wash off later).
09/07/2008
Wordplay123 Wordplay123
Quote:
Originally posted by Emt
While I agree with Essin' Em, pain is the bodies way of saying something's wrong... I actually love tthe Trojan Extended Pleasures. We've tried all sorts of lubes/condoms/etc. but these work the best for us. The Durex version was a joke ...
Yes, if there's blood you need to go ASAP!

The Anus is one of the areas of the body that has the least amount of blood flow. So you could have a serious abrasion/cut/tear going on, but the amount of blood might be minimal. Which sounds fine, but it also means that the amount of time it takes to heal is double that of other parts of your body. It could also develop into a bacterial infection.
12/30/2008
Avery Dragon Avery Dragon
As stated many times in this thread, numbing is a bad thing because damage may be caused without knowing it. Pjur does make a silicone lubricant that i absolutely love, Pjur Backdoor, this lubricant uses Jojoba extract as a muscle relaxant. You are still fully able to feel, but your muscles are a bit more forgiving. Obviously you cannot use silicone toys and plugs with this lubricant, but it does definitely help the process of anal play. If you don't like how the lubricant works, you can always use it as a great massage oil, great for tense muscles

As for bleeding, it isn't a good thing but it can happen. The first few times I did anything I did end up bleeding, even when going at my own speed. The blood flow was very shallow and ended by the next day. If you have either a large amount of blood or continuous blood for a long time, that is when you should worry.
12/30/2008
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Avery Dragon
As stated many times in this thread, numbing is a bad thing because damage may be caused without knowing it. Pjur does make a silicone lubricant that i absolutely love, Pjur Backdoor, this lubricant uses Jojoba extract as a muscle relaxant. You are ...
I love Pjur Backdoor - the jojoba helps me relax
08/16/2012
Claire-Bear Claire-Bear
No, no, no. Please don't. You need to feel what's going on, so you can tell if something is very wrong.
08/16/2012
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