How should a man finger a woman so that it does not hurt?

LOL, most if not all those guys haven't done it to themselves first. Am I rough? I sure hope not. That wouldn't be pleasant and cause most if not all recipients to want to stop. This post isn't too long. I'm sure you guys are getting tired of my long winded posts.

I'm sure there is more than one way to accomplish this task, however, I've found success with first, communication. No surprises. Everyone should be on the same page here.

Next, some if not lots of foreplay your way, it helps warm up the area and relax the person receiving this stimulation. This can include activities as simple as verbal stimulation i.e. "dirty talk", where you tell the receptor exactly what is going to happen in excruciating detail, and as exotic as rimming. It can be some of the above or all of the above, but, it should include something.

If rimming isn't an option for you due to either the donor/giver's or receiver's/receptor's feelings on the issue, then you will want some water based or silicone based lube. Personally, I like to gentility massage in some water based lube with the pad of a finger in a finger cot onto the sphincter. Applying just a little bit of pressure till the receptor becomes more comfortable. I also re apply lube whenever it is necessary because this type of lube can be absorbed by the body.

After this, if I get the green light, I slowly insert my very well lubed finger cotted finger by using the point of my finger for penetration. I leave it in and don't move it till the receiver feels comfortable.

Once this happens, I usually withdraw the finger and add more lube. Why? I want to try to coat the walls with lube to make my partner more comfortable. Also, if the receiver wants some thrusting action, it makes it easier to handle.

If the receptor wants a toy inside or something larger, also lube up the toy. Remember water based lube is compatible with all toys and necessary with silicone and Silicone with glass/wood/steel/etc.. . less

I'm a Big Fan and supporter of giving oral on any day that ends in "y" and three times on holidays. There are other ways to stimulate though. Not every guy is into it as I am though. You might be the kind of woman who likes light kisses on her back, shoulders, legs or neck as preparation. It could be tickling, good conversation, the gentle caress, good company or something altogether different. My point is, "There is more than one way to skin a cat". The key is to take your time and make sure the oven is preheated. less

I never go straight in. It's always better to do other foreplay first. Tit fondling, kissing, clit rubbing etc. If it's not wet do more foreplay. When the time is right it is right. Perhaps you could suggest him to use some lube. If he has rough skin, tell him you rather not and ask for some oral instead. less

I'm a Big Fan and supporter of giving oral on any day that ends in "y" and three times on holidays. There are other ways to stimulate though. Not every guy is into it as I am though. You might be the kind of woman who likes light kisses on her back, shoulders, legs or neck as preparation. It could be tickling, good conversation, the gentle caress, good company or something altogether different. My point is, "There is more than one way to skin a cat". The key is to take your time and make sure the oven is preheated. less

Never tease a crazy person, you never know what you are going to get. And yeah, I did say that.

I'm here to learn also. I will be watching this thread because I'm sure there are other ways to accomplish the same goal. What is the goal? Maximum Pleasure! less

From a girl's perspective, I say the slower the better, at first. It's not a race to the finish. I like Mr. Mans to take his time and savor what he has. Soft caresses to begin with, then moving to more firm. I don't like it if he moves straight in for my clit. I like to be caressed around the hood first, then some inner and deep strokes inside (a little thrusting is good as he his using his palm to keep my clitoral area aroused). Now is usually a good point to lightly rub my clit until I start to wiggle and shake. This is the GO light for him to kick it up a notch and send me over the edge. Keep doing that, along with the finger thrusts inside on my G, O O Ommmmaaaaazzzing. Sorry, I know I totally made that word up but it pretty much sums it up for me.

We have delicate areas that need special care. If a man isn't making it feel good, I say, take his hand and guide him into a stroke that does feel good plus, he may even get off in the double handed performance. less

Roughness seems to run in E. Tn. I would do what o.h. suggested...ask him to do oral instead.

Makes me wonder how they have the gall to say NO TEETH when we do oral on them, but if we feel pain, well...

I should ask them how it feels to have teeth scraping the penis, then tell him it feels like that here when you use sandpaper on me. I gotta protect the apparatus. less

Then I would say, NO SAND PAPER Gorilla hands, or get out of my bed, and not have an ounce of problem saying it. Lol I don't handle people unwilling to understand the meaning of "ouch" well. Tends to fire me up a bit. You're right, if no teeth are part of the 'no play' rules then so should 'barbaric sandpaper hands'.

And you can always just have them stick to oral as well, if they are capable of being pleasing that way less