Doggy Style-How to make it NOT hurt!

jmex83 jmex83
My wife tends to not feel comfortable *(physically) in the doggy style position. she has a hard time with it because it physically hurts her. We have tried different angles and we're goin to be trying the liberator once we get it in this week. I was wondering if there are any tips out there for making this a less painful problem? She has never been told there is anything "wrong" with her insides (and she has had four kids, so Im sure they would have said something by now if there was anything wrong with placement of "things)....Just wondered if anyone else had this issue and was able to solve the problem. If not, its no biggie for me.
03/21/2012
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ladychristie ladychristie
I had a problem with my ex but he was too big for me. J is average and we have no problem I have the upper part of my body down and I angle my butt up.
03/21/2012
Ansley Ansley
Sounds like you might be tagging her cervix or the bottom of her bladder when you're thrusting, which can be extremely painful. Doggy style is a great position when you're on the average/smaller side of the spectrum but it can be a bear if you're bigger than average. Try to be mindful of your depth when thrusting and see if that helps.
03/21/2012
GS500 GS500
Agree with above, don't go all the way in at the same rate, slow down and you can stop when you feel pressure.
03/21/2012
underHim underHim
Make a ring around the base of your cock using your fingers, or even a hankerchief (do not tie it too tight) and only go as deep as you can before hitting that. Do you know what I mean? It will keep you from going to deep.
03/21/2012
Lizzy Lizzy
She needs a medical exam to rule out cysts or other problems.
03/21/2012
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by Lizzy
She needs a medical exam to rule out cysts or other problems.
She may have had one recently. He did say everything has checked out just fine after birthing several children and subsequent examinations since.
03/21/2012
Loriandhubby Loriandhubby
I agree with everyone. if all is well physically, then try to watch your depth.
03/21/2012
MaryH MaryH
My husband is bigger and I just lay my head down low and my butt upwards and it feels amazing.. it is my favorite.
03/22/2012
MamaDivine MamaDivine
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Originally posted by Lizzy
She needs a medical exam to rule out cysts or other problems.
Hi Lizzy, Im jmex's wife. I have had cysts in the past, they were nothing to be concerned about (or so I was told). Ive had them since I was pregnant for my first child (16yrs old) and I have had four more children within the last 10 years. recently, just had a baby about 8 months ago. So everything has been ultrasounded and checked out. Im sure if they found anything "out of place" they would have said something.

Ill swing by my OB's office tho and see if maybe she can have a quick peek and let me know if theres anything that was missed tho. Sometimes, if you're not "LOOKING" For it, you'll miss it completely. Thanks for the suggestion.
03/24/2012
MamaDivine MamaDivine
Im thinking that it might actually be more of a physical problem issue for me. Jmex isn't really "long" per se, I've been with much larger in the past without incident. So, Im going to get checked out to see if theres anything rearing its ugly head. Thanks for the suggestions everyone. Ill take those into account too though.
03/24/2012
wildorchid wildorchid
Good luck!!!
03/24/2012
sneako sneako
Quote:
Originally posted by jmex83
My wife tends to not feel comfortable *(physically) in the doggy style position. she has a hard time with it because it physically hurts her. We have tried different angles and we're goin to be trying the liberator once we get it in this week. I ...
if it's due to the depth of penetration arching her back might help
03/24/2012
pinkpottergirl pinkpottergirl
Angle is important, try her upper body being closer to the bed/floor/whatever. And if it is just that it doesn't work with you guys try reverse cowgirl, same feeling but she controls how deep. And finally don' start with it, most women simple can't start in a doggy style position; try ending with it and see how that feels.
03/25/2012
SexysaurousRex SexysaurousRex
you tend to reach deeper with doggy style so watch how deep you go. and watch your angle. my partner is gifted in the rear (which is why i like behind so i get a nice view ^_^) so we have to adjust the angle some as well. lubrication could be an issue but i don't think so.

one time just try and talk it out with each other. find out what and where is the painful part of it and adjust. getting feedback from her while trying carefully will be the most helpful thing to do.
03/25/2012
FruityCloudPuff FruityCloudPuff
I've never had a problem with it. It's actually one of the most comfortable positions for me. (Though Missionary is tied)
I'd just listen to everyone else here, they have good advice!
03/28/2012
butts butts
If we start out in that position I'm a tad uncomfortable, but if we do it after another position I'm fine. I just need to warm up to it since I'm a very small person and my partner is on the larger side of average, with no warm up it can be too much to take. Go slow at first and watch your depth, as others have said.
04/02/2012
oregonboy9 oregonboy9
I've never had a problem with my girlfriend, she can't get enough of it.
04/12/2012
Dixiemomma Dixiemomma
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Originally posted by jmex83
My wife tends to not feel comfortable *(physically) in the doggy style position. she has a hard time with it because it physically hurts her. We have tried different angles and we're goin to be trying the liberator once we get it in this week. I ...
Definitely never had a problem with this one, even with my ex who was very large in that department .... face down, ass up ... sends me straight into ecstasy. So yes she needs to be checked, it could be that she has a shallow vagina.
04/19/2012
stagboi stagboi
Quote:
Originally posted by jmex83
My wife tends to not feel comfortable *(physically) in the doggy style position. she has a hard time with it because it physically hurts her. We have tried different angles and we're goin to be trying the liberator once we get it in this week. I ...
Be sure to use lube!
04/20/2012
ScottA ScottA
Try moving around a bit. An erect penis can be pretty stiff, and if it isn't pointing just right it can poke things. Another thing to try would be "flipped doggie" where you're lying down, because you can vary your angle and be not so bent over (which would make your buttocks more "cushy" and limit penetration a bit). If that doesn't work there are plenty of other positions to try, so why not avoid doggie?
04/21/2012
Bb93 Bb93
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Originally posted by MaryH
My husband is bigger and I just lay my head down low and my butt upwards and it feels amazing.. it is my favorite.
Same! I love doggy.
04/30/2012
pokefan15 pokefan15
Liberators help alot!
05/01/2012
Aldo Ciociaro Aldo Ciociaro
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Originally posted by MaryH
My husband is bigger and I just lay my head down low and my butt upwards and it feels amazing.. it is my favorite.
Will you marry me?

My wife absolutely hates doggy style, not because it hurts, but because she feels it is a degrading position for women.

However, the one time she cheated on me, she was a little drunk, and I walked in on her and her lovers, and she was in the position you describe, thoroughly enjoying herself. The guy in front of her was getting a nice blow job as well.

Of course, I was upset, and we separated for some time, but after we got back together, she still refused to use that position. It seems like she has to be extra horny to even consider it.

Now we are happily married, and as far as I know she has not cheated again, but that is a sore point in our sex life. She has a very nice butt, I mean gorgeous. The squats she does at the gym have really paid off. There is nothing like having sex doggy style because you get to see and feel the butt, so it is exciting visually as well as physically.
Jun 20, 10:28 pm
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by oregonboy9
I've never had a problem with my girlfriend, she can't get enough of it.
Ditto - she just gets on her knees and begs "Pound me Baby - I need you deep!" Of course I'm only happy to oblige
Jun 20, 11:52 pm
Gr8pumpkin Gr8pumpkin
Quote:
Originally posted by jmex83
My wife tends to not feel comfortable *(physically) in the doggy style position. she has a hard time with it because it physically hurts her. We have tried different angles and we're goin to be trying the liberator once we get it in this week. I ...
Has you wife always had a problem taking you from behind, or just since the last baby ?
Like others have said, adjusting your entry angle, going less deep and using lube may help. Doggy usually affords deeper penetration than some other positions so you may need to be more gentle.
Elsewise a doctors visit may be in order, good luck, I hope you get this solved, it's a great position and I would not like to lose it as an option in our lovemaking.
Jun 22, 7:20 pm
OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
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Originally posted by Aldo Ciociaro
Will you marry me?

My wife absolutely hates doggy style, not because it hurts, but because she feels it is a degrading position for women.

However, the one time she cheated on me, she was a little drunk, and I walked in on her and her ...
sounds like one of my dreams
Jun 23, 1:55 am
Gr8pumpkin Gr8pumpkin
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Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
sounds like one of my dreams
There are those who purport that rear entry, aka, " doggy" is animalistic. And it does seem the majority of animals copulate in this manner, I would not however assume that humans were not designed to also use that position. Think about it, if a pair of animals were having intercourse via rear entry, they would be both be at least partially on their feet, able to scramble away from predators quickly if needed. With face to face contact, the one on the bottom would be at a disadvantage for exit. That said, doing the deed from behind allows a quicker un-coupling and exit should danger, the kids or in-laws surprise you in the moment. It HAS happened, just sayin !
So the argument that doggy is in-natural really doesn't hold any water.
I will say that using rear entry feels a bit less intimate in that you cannot easily kiss or see each other's facial expressions. So from a simply romantic aspect it might not feel as connected. Being that I as well as many other men do like the visual aspect of being behind a lovely derrière while having intercourse, there is that to think of too.
Jun 23, 9:10 am
MrClark MrClark
I know with my ex, I had to watch my depth as was definitely an issue if I hit too deep. I've continued to be careful about it and don't fully insert with my current girlfriend in doggy either; however, we sometimes switch to a more prone position from doggy and due to the angle, I don't fully insert anyway + I seem to rub nicely on her g-spot that she really enjoys.

But agree with some, coming up with some method to keep yourself from over inserting would be good, especially if that's the issue.
Jun 24, 3:35 pm
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