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Ben Wa Balls
I'd like to hear responses from people who have tried more than 4 different types of Ben Wa Balls or sets. I've tried 4 sets now & am dissatisfied w/

Do you think Kegel balls make a difference?
Do you really think Kegel balls really make a difference? And what would be the best ones to buy?

Ben Wa Balls—do they make you wet?
I'm a die-hard oral sex fanatic. Licking my wife's vagina is possibly my favorite thing in the world, and if she could take it (and if it wouldn't...

Pleasure balls - any differences?
is there any difference between this and the more expensive ones?

The Pleasure Ball-Huh?
Ok, so Im checking out the photos on this thing and I still can't figure out..is it just a vibrating ball? Does it open up at all, twist or anything?.

I try to look at this kind of stuff from my own perspective. If there's something I don't like, I don't want my man to do it to me. I'd rather he do what feels good to ME. If I asked him to avoid a certain spot, and focus more on another spot because it feels better... I'd really appreciate it if he did what I asked. It would feel better to me, and build our trust.

I would also be willing to talk to him about things he'd like to do "to me" that aren't my favorite things. Perhaps we could make a deal that he could do them sometimes, but certainly not every time, especially if it isn't something I actually like.

When I look at things like this from my perspective, it usually helps me make a better decision on how to treat him. I would prefer to treat him the way I'd like to be treated.

I get that you want to be able to pleasure him that way, but if it doesn't work for him, it doesn't work for him. You respect that his balls are sensitive and do something else.