Is it bad to use sex toys?

Of course not!

I don't see it being bad, especially if you use them together.

i think people need to not judge others for anything! Plus how many people who are against toys really see this to vote negatively?

i hope some new, insecure person still toying with the idea of sex toys stumbles onto this forum and reads why we all know it's a great addition to have toys in our lives

Toys have wonderfully enhanced our sex life, not hindered it. As long as you both know that no toy will ever replace YOU, there's nothing to worry about. I have dildos much larger than my partner but they're novelty, something to use when Im in the mood for that, nothing feels better than JUST my partner because for us at least, it's not about size or vibrations, its the intimacy that makes it so damn good. The toys just help out.

My most recent boyfriend used to cringe if he ever caught me looking at toys. He had his insecurity speech damn-near memorized. "But what if it's bigger? What if it can do things I can't? What if it desensitizes you and I'm not enough anymore?" Eventually, I warmed him up to the idea, and he actually was the one to buy me my first toy. Now I have a whole box of toys and my collection grows monthly. He doesn't mind them anymore, he knows there's no comparison to being with a person to a toy; besides, I can do both

If it weren't for toys then I would NEVER be able to get off. Even with them, I've yet to figure out how.

i like toys and my boyfriend gets turned ion when i use toys toys...i often cant get off without them

Toys could never replace my partner.

I disagree. Toys are just an extra something to add to an already amazing sex life!

Of course not

There is nothing wrong with using toys and he has nothing to be nervous about. Yes his penis will never vibrate, it will never have a handy clitoral attachment, it will never last forever like some toys; but on the other hand your toys will never hug you or push their whole body against you while they make love to you. Toys are no compitition for another real person, it's like comparing apples and oranges, they are both wonderful but one is not a replacement for another

wow. toys just add to the fun of sex.

I disagree. Toys are just an extra something to add to an already amazing sex life!

Sex toys sometimes help keep sex exciting, and sex can be a key part of a relationship. I don't see how it could be bad!

he is totally wrong

I honestly think that people who are afraid of sex toys are too immature

Sex toys are simply fun and add a bit of variety to your sex life

Sounds to me like the friend and the boyfriend have sexual security issues. I know where my skills are, and I happen to know inventing a toy that can do things like me isn't likely to ever happen.


Sex toys are amazing, but they aren't the real thing. I love my fleshlight, and lube can make things AMAZING, but given the choice between a fleshlight and lube or a living breathing woman with her own natural fluids... I'm gonna pick the woman everytime (because licking a fake pussy just doesn't do much for me!)

If a guy were to be so controlling and/or inconsiderate as to think only he should be enjoying sex, then the relationship would end right there.

Men and women can enjoy toys. It spices up the bedroom and adds variety. It doesn't mean that your partner isn't satisfying you.

The whole sexist (and cissexist) cultural ideas that "Women can't be into sex! Women don't/shouldn't masturbate! They can't have sex outside of marriage! WHAT THE FUCK IS A CLITORIS? Or a G-spot? Women are supposed to just lie back and think of Britain/whatever. WIFELY DUTY TO PLEASE MEN AND MAKE BABIES BABIES BABIES!!!! Procreative sex only!! Women are supposed to be faithful to their husbands, who get to decide whether to please them or not--and if not, then TOO BAD. But Men and husbands can have as many women as they want and masturbate as much as they want. And we must not injure a man's delicate ego and self-absorbed, entitled need to dominate everything and be the EVERYTHING AND PROVIDE EVERYTHING for their wife WHINE WHINE WHINE BLAH BLAH BLAH SEXISM, DOUBLE STANDARDS, MISOGYNY..." is at play here. Your boyfriend needs to get the fuck over himself and tell his 'friend" to fuck off and they BOTH need to address their male privilege and sexist conditioning. This isn't to say that he is necessarily a bad guy-- just that he was raised in a sexist society and is therefore complicit in oppressive social mores and THAT IS A PROBLEM THAT NEEDS TO BE ADDRESSED. So much of men's insecurity is rooted in patriarchy that other men before them-- and they in turn-- uphold. So the logical thing is to stop buying into it!