I purchased the Tantus VIP silicone dildo and a few larger sized rings from Eden Fantasys, for use with my wife and the Bend over beginner harness kit. Since it is silicone, please make sure to use water based lubricants, or you can damage the silicone and make it tacky. We have thoroughly enjoyed the kit, but my wife wanted to try a larger sized dildo that had balls along with it, because she loves when my balls slap against her in doggy style.

We thought it was going to be the perfect realistic sized dildo, not too long or too big diameter wise, but unfortunately the silicone was just too firm for her vagina. The first time we used it, we tried just our standard warm up of oral/fingering and water based lube, but the size of the VIP with its combined firmness, made it too uncomfortable for her. She is not a small woman either, she is an average weight for 5 foot 9. And it is quite firm at that, no where near as floppy or flimsy as the two dildos included with the bend over beginner harness kit. It is also pretty difficult to just squeeze the shaft with your hand and get it to give any.

The next time we tried to use it, I had really warmed her up using the larger of the supplied dildos in the kit, but the VIP was still too firm for her. Also just using it without the harness has not worked either, but we have not tried too many times do to the previous experiences and us having other toys in our collection that are more right sized for her body.

We still have the dildo in our toy bag, and it is waiting for it's moment to shine once again, we just have not figured out when or where yet...

Well, last night my wife and I watched The Expert Guide to G-spot, and wanted to try out the techniques. We did not have exactly the right toys like they recommended, but we figured we would pull out the VIP, or as my wife calls it, "The Big Nasty", and see what we could manage, along with a few of our other toys.

I got my wife really warmed up, with at least 2 clitoral orgasms, and then tried the VIP as a G-spot dildo. It was still difficult to get into my wife and past her pubic bone. Once in I tried small thrusting, and then rocking, and neither one worked. It was still way too firm and big for her. After a few minutes, we got rid of the VIP and went back to using my fingers.