A Gender Fluid Pegger's Dream Come True - Realdoe Review

The Realdoe is a great toy for lesbians, straight pegging couples, double-penetrating partners, and even solo time. It's fantastic for those who wish they had a penis, including but not limited to transmen and women with "penis envy." Feeling some days that I should have been born with a penis, I have come to think of this toy as my removable cock. I have included in my review a "Vroom" and "Bee" rating for the included optional bullet vibe.
Looks real enough to complete the fantasy, Harness-compatible, Easy to clean and store.
Slips out without a harness, Head may be too big for some.
Rating by reviewer:
extremely useful review


The Realdoe is a realistic version of the original Feeldoe Violet , being of almost the same design but having the color of skin, veins, and a pronounced, detailed head. The way a Feeldoe dildo is used is the bulb end is inserted into the female wearer's vagina (or either sex's anus, if they prefer it), and the shaft end is used to penetrate a partner. It's made to work without a harness, but is compatible with harnesses that use an open O-ring and have no back. It can also be used by hand, either solo or with a partner.

I recommend this toy be used by those who have at least a little experience with strap-on play. This is especially true if you plan on using it for pegging, as I find, with the shape of the bulb and the fluids involved, a harness is necessary despite being designed for strapless use.
  • Who / How / What
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    Who might this product be best for? How is it best used? What are the best circumstances or situations for using this product?
    • Couples
    • Gender play
    • Solo
  • Where
    [ ? ]
    Where / what types of places can this product be used?
    • Anywhere
  • Body / part areas
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    What areas on the body can this product be used / what areas does it stimulate best?
    • Anal
    • G-spot
    • P-spot

Material / Texture

The Realdoe is made of silicone. I have never noticed any smell with mine, and the taste is only faintly rubbery. First and foremost, I noticed that it is substantially softer and more flexible than the original Feeldoe. It also has a matte finish to its surface, in contrast to the other, glossier Feeldoes out there. This gives it more drag, and makes the surface of the Realdoe feel more like skin than the average silicone dildo does. It has a detailed head, which gives a sort of pop on first insertion, and veins on the shaft that can be felt during use. People who are beginners to sex toys might want to look elsewhere and come back to this one when they've got some experience under their belt.

This toy is very realistic, though not quite as much so as some of the other realistic toys out there. The skin tone is like that of possibly a Hispanic person, so much darker than my own skin, but I find that the average man's penis is a few shades darker than the rest of his skin, and that feels more realistic to me. And it's a lot less of a lint magnet than its Feeldoe cousins.
    • Flexible
    • Harness compatible
    • Not porous at all

Design / Shape / Size

Given than I now own two different toys from the Feeldoe line, you could say I like the design. The flaws are minimal compared to the fun to be had. The shaft has a wonderful curve to it that helps it hit my G-spot, and his P-spot. I like how pronounced the head is, as I've always been a fan of that popping sensation when it's first inserted. If you're very tight or very slender, the head might catch on your pubic bone, so watch out for that. At a size just larger than the average penis, sometimes this one's a little too big for me to take, but my boyfriend takes it like a hero. (Do the words "Ooohhh, god, you're so big!" mean anything to you?)

Being an incredibly realistic-looking dildo, I would say this one is not very discreet at all. I mean, it's almost painfully obvious what it is, what it's for, and how it works. That being said, since it doesn't collect much lint, then you could pack it in your suitcase as-is, no need for a case or anything. But it's quite bulky, so some may vote to leave it at home. I'd take it with me, but then, I think of it as a part of me.
    • Partner play
    • Realistic
    • Whimsical / artistic


I think my favorite thing about the Realdoe is that which it's named after: its realistic-ness. I love just about everything about this toy, from its silly-looking vagina-balls to the veins to the velvety shaft, detailed frenulum, retracted foreskin, and meatus. When I wear it, I feel like it really is the penis I was never born with, and my boyfriend have adopted actually calling it my cock.

The only, only complaint I have with this toy is, like with the Feeldoe, the bulb. It's not really ergonomically designed to fit the vagina, it's more like a Ryder butt plug with a dildo attached to it. Unless you can lift weights with your PC muscles, there's a good chance this toy will slip out of your vagina if you use it without a harness.

See what I mean?
    • Comfortable
    • Lots of variety in function
    • Not discreet at all

Care and Maintenance

Being made of silicone, this toy is easy to clean and care for. Hot water and mild soap, or toy cleaning wipes, will do the trick. For a more sterile toy, you can boil it in water for 3-5 minutes or wipe it down with a 10% bleach solution. Take care with nails and corners not to nick the surface of the toy, as it's soft silicone and could cause tears where bacteria can breed.

We store our Realdoe (among other things) in our new Devine Toys Lace Box , where it fits comfortably. Use only water-based lubricant on your Realdoe, as some silicone lubricants can react negatively with silicone toys. If you plan to use silicone lube, perform a spot test in an inconspicuous place on the toy a few hours beforehand. Check for any blistering, peeling, melting, or overly-sticky areas, as this is a sign that the lube has damaged the silicone.
    • Easy to clean
    • Easy to store


The Realdoe comes in a blister pack that has snap closures moulded into it. Inside, behind the dildo, is a paperboard sheet with information about Tantus and the toy itself. Unfortunately, I opened mine in a dark car, and never saw the paper again, so I don't know exactly what was on it. The packaging is in no way discreet, being clear and clearly stating what the toy is. It is, however, excellent for storage, since it can be opened and closed repeatedly without damage.
    • Good for storage
    • Not discreet

Personal comments

This toy immediately became my favorite possession in the world, and my favorite sex toy to boot. Ever since the first time I heard of what a penis was (I was probably three at the time) I often wondered where mine was, and why didn't I have one? Still, I never felt like "a man trapped in a woman's body," like many transmen have so eloquently put it. I felt more like some days, it would be better if I had male parts, and some days I liked having my female parts. With this toy, my body can always be exactly what I want it to be, and if I'm out in public, I know right where what I need is, and that I can have it when I get home. Whenever I start to feel like that part of me is missing, I'll wear "my cock" around the house, and it always cheers me up and makes me feel better.


My boyfriend and I use this toy most often for pegging (anal sex with the man as the receiver). I always enjoyed the act of pegging, no matter what toy I was using, but looking down and seeing a pink or purple or even glass dildo simply wasn't helping me really enjoy it. The fantasy was that I was fucking him, but I felt more like a robot with a fake cock, than a woman with a dildo. There were days when I would lament my lack of a penis until I was deeply depressed. When my boyfriend surprised me with this toy, I knew I would never feel that again. Now when I'm pegging him, I can look down and see all that veiny, velvety thickness going in and out of him, and it helps me complete the fantasy of having a real cock. It helps even more that holding it inside me is physically stimulating. I couldn't orgasm during pegging until we got the Realdoe, which adds by also visually stimulating me, and now an orgasm for me is almost guaranteed.
And I can't stop stroking my cock.
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  • Contributor: MeliPixie
    I've used the Vegan Commando, and the Spareparts Joque. Neither really seemed better than the other, but both worked well. Comment again so I know you saw this
  • Contributor: Jimenko
    Thanks for the review
  • Contributor: MeliPixie
    You're welcome
  • Contributor: GenderSexplorations
    Nice review!
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    Thank you!
  • Contributor: molly
    thanks for the review, very helpful!
  • Contributor: MeliPixie
    I'm glad you liked, thanks for reading!
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    Great review. Thank you.
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  • Contributor: Do emu
    Thanks for sharing! I wish the bulb was better designed.
  • Contributor: MeliPixie
    Me, too, although I find the more I use it (and the more Kegel exercises I can do) the better it stays in and the longer I can use it before needing a harness
  • Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears
    Another super review from MP !
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