Essential Read for all BDSM Players, Top or Bottom

There is a reason this book is in its second edition. There is something of real value here that is worth looking into. You don't have to be a top to get a lot of inspiration and joy out of reading this book.

Published: August 13, 2012

Pros

Great quality advice from experienced and talented authors

Cons

Not the place to look for technique information

Rating by reviewer:

useful review

About author

Dossie Easton and Janet Hardey are very well-known not just in the kink community, but also in the poly community. Ever heard of a little book called The Ethical Slut?

- Expert author
- Multiple contributoring authors
- Very personal approach

Content / Style / Audience

This book is written in a personal style and covers a variety of topics on BDSM. The 17 chapters begin by defining basic terms, then delve into interpersonal dynamics, ethics, communication, rights, and responsibilities. While there is only limited discussion of specific techniques, power dynamics are covered, and there are many personal examples and stories scattered throughout. Only a very unimaginative person could read this book and not get a few new ideas. The later parts of the book discuss toys, safety and handling emergencies, and finding partners. The tone is enthusiastic and personal. While it is geared towards beginners, it can be and is of value to more experienced players.

Who / How / What
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Who might this product be best for? How is it best used? What are the best circumstances or situations for using this product?
- Beginner to intermediate
Where
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Where / what types of places can this product be used?
- Anywhere you can read a book
General
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Other tags that are useful and descriptive for this product.
- Bdsm
- Humorous
- Instructional / educational

Design

The book is cleanly designed and laid out. The cover is appealing and relatively discreet.

- Discreet cover
- Soft cover

Personal comments

As an experienced BDSM player, I still find myself inspired and interested by this book. Each time I read it, I come away with new ideas and perspectives.

Follow-up commentary I still like it 7 days after original review

My partner has read this as well now, and we've been able to have so many great conversations as a result of this book.

This product was provided at a discounted price in exchange for an unbiased review. This review is in compliance with the FTC guidelines.