Sex Secrets of an American Geisha - guides to a better sex by Hunter House Publishers - review by Robyn

Men like women that shave, it sounds funny doesn't it? But the job I had this summer was working on a cruise ship in Alaska, it was a MAN'S job, I didn't shave -  no one saw my legs, no one saw my arms, no one saw anything else. So it didn't matter. However, to the man who wants to see you in his bed next to him, it does matter, he doesn't want to see a yeti next to him!

An unfortunate side effect of that is when you come back to reality and need to re-enter the dating world, you are ill-equipped to do so. I had a lot of fun at my job, I learned so much, had a ton of really great experiences and saw a lot of just AMAZING sights, but couldn't handle a first date when I came back. I had become so integrated into the boys club on the ship that I forgot that that's not who every guy wants or needs me to be. Its not who every person wants or needs me to be either. Heck its not who I want or need to be.

To start, Py Kim discusses the "Geisha Consciousness" it is a state of how we think, how we act, how we feel about ourselves. Japanese Geisha are well educated, lady-like, they are the Jackie Kennedy of the Far East when they are in the public eye, but when they are in the bedroom, they have been highly schooled on the ways of pleasing a man. The authors point with this discussion is that while the Japanese Geisha is using all of these skills to build a clientèle for business, the American women can utilize these same skills to find and keep both herself and her "good man" happy.

Yes, it talks about "worshiping" your mans cock, Duh, he worships your breasts, or your vagina. He only has one thing you can worship, so make the best of it! It also talk about self-love, and learning to give yourself an orgasms before all else, and yes giving away that credit during sex (but lets face it, How many of us haven't done that already? we know what we need and just do it most of the time already, right?).

I think it is also important to address something else the author discusses at the beginning of the book, in her intro, Py Kim has a section where she talks about feedback she received while she was circulating copies of her manuscript. She was told that the advice she was giving was making women "too submissive" and here is where I really have to agree with her, sorry boys! She says : "My advice simply accepts the truth about (most) men:
- Men are visual and love beauty in a woman
- Men are sexual and love sexiness in a woman
- Men are masculine and love femininity in a woman
By making yourself beautiful, sexy, and feminine for Good Men, you are only "being submissive" or "surrendering" to the reality of men and women and to what can help attract those Good Men to you." To me, it makes sense.

This book has been invaluable in helping me remember my femininity and remembering I am beautiful, and sexy. I have yet to find my "Good Man" but hey one can hope right? And without hope, what else do we have?!

I know I am a beautiful woman, I've been told so by many people. They were shocked by my decision to choose such a rough and tumble career path, that being shipboard life. This book made me realize and remember that men don't always want or need me to be rough and tumble or one of the "boys". My friends don't need me to be that way either, AND ABOVE ALL ELSE.... I don't want to be that way ALL the time. I think that sometimes, in this "mans world" a reminder of that isn't a bad thing. I love to reach for the stars, try new things, get physical, get into it, be hard, tough, aggressive, but to so many people I scare them when I first meet them with that side of me. It is best to introduce that side slowly. let them see I'm more of a well rounded, well educated, lady.