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Contributor: Lena Eden Lena Eden
(EdenFantasys)
It seems that kinky sex was made quite popular by being featured in the famous “50 Shades of Grey” books & movies! BTW, did you have a chance to watch the second part?



Everyone is talking about it and people around the world are now straying more from vanilla sex, discovering and loving fetish play. Do you agree?

How often do you enjoy BDSM scenarios in your sexual life? Are you consistently dominant, submissive, or do you take turns?

What are your reasons for practicing the BDSM activities and lifestyle?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Lena Eden , OH&W, Lovebears , Daddy'sSexKitten , Gunsmoke , Vnessa , AmethystQueen , TheToyGuy , DixieDoo , DancerKittyKat , wrecklesswords , Equal Tongue Action
11
Lena Eden , OH&W, Lovebears , Gunsmoke , Vnessa , AmethystQueen , TheToyGuy , DancerKittyKat , jack man , Equal Tongue Action , minstrel69 , Soundside46
11
OH&W, Lovebears , Daddy'sSexKitten , Gunsmoke , Vnessa , AmethystQueen , sexfairy , Thong man , TheToyGuy , DancerKittyKat , jack man , wrecklesswords , Equal Tongue Action , minstrel69 , Cinnyree , Soundside46 , Chara
16
OH&W, Lovebears , Daddy'sSexKitten , Gunsmoke , Vnessa , AmethystQueen , sexfairy , TheToyGuy , DancerKittyKat , Equal Tongue Action , minstrel69 , Slowride , Chara
12
OH&W, Lovebears , Gunsmoke , AmethystQueen , TheToyGuy , Equal Tongue Action
5
Daddy'sSexKitten , Gunsmoke , Vnessa , TheToyGuy , DancerKittyKat , wrecklesswords , Equal Tongue Action , Cinnyree , Chara
9
Lena Eden , OH&W, Lovebears , Gunsmoke , sexfairy , TheToyGuy , Equal Tongue Action
6
Lena Eden , OH&W, Lovebears , Daddy'sSexKitten , Gunsmoke , Vnessa , AmethystQueen , sexfairy , TheToyGuy , DixieDoo , DancerKittyKat , jack man , wrecklesswords , Equal Tongue Action , minstrel69 , Cinnyree , Soundside46 , Slowride , Chara
18
symbiasin , AmethystQueen , sexfairy , TheToyGuy , Cinnyree
5
Total votes: 93 (20 voters)
Poll is open
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05/16/2017
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
We checked so many bec there are 2 of us. OH&W... O husband and wife.

Entices : yes,
Spiced up, big Def yes yes,
Exploration : Oh yes, and to places never gone before. (Star Trek ? )
Conquer/Challenge : Well not the same way as you think of it
Arousing : Heck yeah. And for now doesn't seem to get old.

Well, I guess we could have checked Stress relief too. We are pretty happy and more loving after we're done with the dom session

I guess we could have clicked "Other " also. That is, if transfer or power and role play count .

Speaking of power. Whomever wields our new addition to our arsenal, the VC Lone Star has the power ! It's a very dominating weapon !
05/16/2017
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
And OW loves that black outfit on the op pic. I think there will be one in her closet soon.
05/16/2017
Contributor: Daddy'sSexKitten Daddy'sSexKitten
Quote:
Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
And OW loves that black outfit on the op pic. I think there will be one in her closet soon.
I like it also!
OW has great taste!
05/16/2017
Contributor: Lena Eden Lena Eden
(EdenFantasys)
Daddy'sSexKitten, so..You prefer to dominate, don't you?
05/17/2017
Contributor: Daddy'sSexKitten Daddy'sSexKitten
Quote:
Originally posted by Lena Eden
Daddy'sSexKitten, so..You prefer to dominate, don't you?
Hi, Lena!
It is very rare that I dominate. I dominated for years in my previous relationship and now, I just want to be dominated. When I do dominate it's because he asked me to. If you're wondering why I like the leather and more dominatrix lingerie, it's a style thing. I love the sleek, dark sexiness to it.
Another reason why I left the "vanilla sex" world. We practice light to heavy BDSM with every sexual experience we have. It's quite literally a part of us and who we are as people.
05/17/2017
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Were pretty much in the "All of the above" category.

We're not really BDSM types - more into the D/s play. When we started experimenting she didn't really take to being the s - so I started pushing her to be the D.

After 25+ years of more-or-less laying back and letting me take care of her - all of the sudden I was putting her to work! I believe the phrase is topping from the bottom.

Although that element still exists - she has her moments as a really good D. It's fun experiencing her new found assertiveness.

But - she still likes to be serviced, so she'll beat me to the bed (I think there's a pun in there), put on her blindfold - my cue that I need to be the D tonight.
05/17/2017
Contributor: MrClark MrClark
I read the first book and agreed with what many who live the lifestyle were saying... that there were huge aspects of it that were dangerous, wrong, etc. So even though I think it's made kink/BDSM more socially acceptable, I think many are going to not bother to do the research to safely do BDSM, no matter the aspects be it D/S, just bondage, etc.

That said, there is a facet that would consider exploring it as I don't like taking control of things be it in work, emergency situations, etc; however, I so often do... I find the concept of a D/S relationship intriguing/exciting but at the same time what I want in a relationship usually the people I look for in a dating/SO aren't usually the same kind of people to meet that role.
05/17/2017
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by Daddy'sSexKitten
I like it also!
OW has great taste!
Does anyone know where I can get a outfit like that. I can't find one here.
05/18/2017
Contributor: Lena Eden Lena Eden
(EdenFantasys)
Quote:
Originally posted by OH&W, Lovebears
Does anyone know where I can get a outfit like that. I can't find one here.
We're going to add some latex wear in our collection soon. I'll pm you as soon as it's available.

If interested, you can try Selene dress or Juno.

Also, in a couple of days, we're starting to sell Wet Look Stockings.
05/18/2017
Contributor: Lena Eden Lena Eden
(EdenFantasys)
Quote:
Originally posted by MrClark
I read the first book and agreed with what many who live the lifestyle were saying... that there were huge aspects of it that were dangerous, wrong, etc. So even though I think it's made kink/BDSM more socially acceptable, I think many are going ... more
Are you looking for something specific?
When there's a will there's always a way
05/18/2017
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by Lena Eden
We're going to add some latex wear in our collection soon. I'll pm you as soon as it's available.

If interested, you can try Selene dress or Juno.

Also, in a couple of days, we're starting to sell Wet Look Stockings. ... more
Thanks, the Selene looks nice but won't fit me. I'm a queen,but not queen sized.
And the Juno is probably more suitable for bustier women.

I looking for one like she has. Teddy like.
05/18/2017
Contributor: symbiasin symbiasin
Besides liking to be tied up. I don't think I am very BDSM at all. I only went to Fetlife, which isn't that bad unless u like rough stuff so I wouldn't shock people like OH with my monster video. who likes to pretend he is vanilla.....

Oh and I only read the first book...yawn
05/18/2017
Contributor: Lena Eden Lena Eden
(EdenFantasys)
Quote:
Originally posted by symbiasin
Besides liking to be tied up. I don't think I am very BDSM at all. I only went to Fetlife, which isn't that bad unless u like rough stuff so I wouldn't shock people like OH with my monster video. who likes to pretend he is ... more
Heey, the book is not so boring as the movie is!
05/23/2017
Contributor: Vnessa Vnessa
I'm very submissive, no desire to flip that role. We add bondage, in some way or another, to our love making pretty much every time. Either tied up or restrained by his hands. ITS A TOTAL TURN ON

Lena, I can't wait to see the new latex line!! I agree, the midel's outfit is hella HOT!!!
05/28/2017
Contributor: Lena Eden Lena Eden
(EdenFantasys)
Quote:
Originally posted by Vnessa
I'm very submissive, no desire to flip that role. We add bondage, in some way or another, to our love making pretty much every time. Either tied up or restrained by his hands. ITS A TOTAL TURN ON

Lena, I can't wait to see the new ... more
So true, so true

As for now, we have the last size (L) set offered by Liberator: Throb pasties and thong set
05/29/2017
Contributor: AmethystQueen AmethystQueen
My other reason is a return to who I am. I was into BDSM things before I knew they were called that. Left it alone for a lot of years due to misunderstanding and now and coming back to it in full force!

I also do it for some of the reasons you posted in the poll.

I don't enjoy BDSM scenarios quite as often as I would like.

I'm a switch so I go back and forth (per scenario and sometimes in the same scenario) from dominant to submissive.

I did see part two and didn't really think much of it. Now if he had put a butt plug in with a weighted ball before that party I would have been impressed. i would have loved the weighted butt plug with the weighted ben wa balls in front. she wouldn't have been able to stand for very long much less walk properly.
05/30/2017
Contributor: sexfairy sexfairy
For me it is a lot about exploring the depth of surrendering and trust. When I submit I t really turns my partner on to know that I totally trust him and surrender to him. We sometimes switch roles but I am not as comfy being the dominant
05/31/2017
Contributor: Lena Eden Lena Eden
(EdenFantasys)
Quote:
Originally posted by AmethystQueen
My other reason is a return to who I am. I was into BDSM things before I knew they were called that. Left it alone for a lot of years due to misunderstanding and now and coming back to it in full force!

I also do it for some of the reasons ... more


And how about your partner? Did you prepare him for BDSM or he was already kept in line with the idea?
05/31/2017
Contributor: Lena Eden Lena Eden
(EdenFantasys)
Quote:
Originally posted by sexfairy
For me it is a lot about exploring the depth of surrendering and trust. When I submit I t really turns my partner on to know that I totally trust him and surrender to him. We sometimes switch roles but I am not as comfy being the dominant
+100! I also think that BDSM is impossible without an absolute trust and confidence in your partner.
05/31/2017
Contributor: AmethystQueen AmethystQueen
Quote:
Originally posted by Lena Eden


And how about your partner? Did you prepare him for BDSM or he was already kept in line with the idea?
That's been a bit tricky. I did prepare them by explaining who I used to be and how I'm returning to my true form. Hubby has the typical view of BDSM so it's been interesting explaining and experiencing real BDSM play. It takes patience sometimes to introduce something new.
05/31/2017
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
I've been very open and like new things.

Have seen the new movie cannot wait for the third.

However I agree with the ALT community that what they are portraying is far too advanced for a beginner.
06/12/2017
Contributor: Equal Tongue Action Equal Tongue Action
Quote:
Originally posted by Lena Eden
It seems that kinky sex was made quite popular by being featured in the famous “50 Shades of Grey” books & movies! BTW, did you have a chance to watch the second part? Everyone is talking about it and people around the world are now straying more ... more
BDSM is a huge part of my sex lifestyle. I have to control so much in my the everyday life, that it's actually nice to have my husband control the sex acts. I love being submissive, but I sometimes have to take the dominant role. He's not always as dominate as I would like. We used to have a safe word if it became painful or one of us just didn't care for a particular action. Now, we just say stop if we don't like what the other is doing.
07/04/2017
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Quote:
Originally posted by Equal Tongue Action
BDSM is a huge part of my sex lifestyle. I have to control so much in my the everyday life, that it's actually nice to have my husband control the sex acts. I love being submissive, but I sometimes have to take the dominant role. He's not ... more
Lol, mine doesn't mind taking the domme role nowadays.
And when I say " enough, no more, stop. " Instead she'll continue till I beg her to stop....
07/04/2017
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Equal Tongue Action
BDSM is a huge part of my sex lifestyle. I have to control so much in my the everyday life, that it's actually nice to have my husband control the sex acts. I love being submissive, but I sometimes have to take the dominant role. He's not ... more
Same for us we switch and both enjoy 'being taken' by a dominant partner. Although I must confess, I prefer to be submissive.

I never understood the safe word strategy - STOP - seems adequate!
07/06/2017
Contributor: Cinnyree Cinnyree
My boyfriend isn't into kink at all. Our sex life isn't boring but we get physically and emotionally fulfilled with the vanilla.

Now, me on the other hand, I love being spanked but not for spanking sake. I love the sharp unexpected sting. If someone was to put me over his/her knee, I would probably never speak to them again. Now if I get my butt slapped during doggy it brings on an immediate orgasm.
I love different anything, positions, locations, tempos, depths, or any other change ups. I like to be surprised.
07/25/2017
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Cinnyree
My boyfriend isn't into kink at all. Our sex life isn't boring but we get physically and emotionally fulfilled with the vanilla.

Now, me on the other hand, I love being spanked but not for spanking sake. I love the sharp unexpected ... more
What you describe is kind of like my wife and I - in reverse.

I suggest not giving up - over the years I have been able to gradually introduce my wife to kink. Starting with clit vibes to rabbit vibes, to dildos to big dildos...

Introducing anal sex was probably the hardest - from there things progressed to pegging and a progression of blindfolds, cuffs, slappers, floggers, paddles & crops - all of the sudden she's turned into a fledgling Dominant.

Mind you this took 25+ years - but it has all been worth the patience and persistence. She'd be the first to tell you that she wishes she had opened up sooner - but no need to look back!!!
07/25/2017
Contributor: Lena Eden Lena Eden
(EdenFantasys)
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
What you describe is kind of like my wife and I - in reverse.

I suggest not giving up - over the years I have been able to gradually introduce my wife to kink. Starting with clit vibes to rabbit vibes, to dildos to big ... more
Better late than never

I've noticed a tendency that ladies start feeling more obsessed with dominating these days (so do I)
07/28/2017
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Quote:
Originally posted by Lena Eden
Better late than never

I've noticed a tendency that ladies start feeling more obsessed with dominating these days (so do I)
I know right - but I must say that once in a while she just wants to 'be taken'. Turn over control and be 'forced' to orgasm over and over. I completely get it and oblige whenever she needs it.
07/28/2017