It seems that kinky sex was made quite popular by being featured in the famous “50 Shades of Grey” books & movies! BTW, did you have a chance to watch the second part?
Everyone is talking about it and people around the world are now straying more from vanilla sex, discovering and loving fetish play. Do you agree?
How often do you enjoy BDSM scenarios in your sexual life? Are you consistently dominant, submissive, or do you take turns?
What are your reasons for practicing the BDSM activities and lifestyle?
Exploring BDSM - suggestions? So recently I have been exploring my interest in BDSM and pain play but I'm not too sure how to start so I was wondering if you had any suggestions...
Question on pumps - bruising? I have used a pump before and did jelquing excersises but got some bruises on the tip of my penis. I may have been doing it to long but has any one...
SKYN condoms tearing Does everyone else have a problem with this? I will be changing condoms, which is the best?
*We don't think the condom breaking because it's too...
We checked so many bec there are 2 of us. OH&W... O husband and wife.
Entices : yes,
Spiced up, big Def yes yes,
Exploration : Oh yes, and to places never gone before. (Star Trek ? )
Conquer/Challenge : Well not the same way as you think of it
Arousing : Heck yeah. And for now doesn't seem to get old.
Well, I guess we could have checked Stress relief too. We are pretty happy and more loving after we're done with the dom session
I guess we could have clicked "Other " also. That is, if transfer or power and role play count .
Speaking of power. Whomever wields our new addition to our arsenal, the VC Lone Star has the power ! It's a very dominating weapon !
Daddy'sSexKitten, so..You prefer to dominate, don't you?
Hi, Lena!
It is very rare that I dominate. I dominated for years in my previous relationship and now, I just want to be dominated. When I do dominate it's because he asked me to. If you're wondering why I like the leather and more dominatrix lingerie, it's a style thing. I love the sleek, dark sexiness to it.
Another reason why I left the "vanilla sex" world. We practice light to heavy BDSM with every sexual experience we have. It's quite literally a part of us and who we are as people.
Were pretty much in the "All of the above" category.
We're not really BDSM types - more into the D/s play. When we started experimenting she didn't really take to being the s - so I started pushing her to be the D.
After 25+ years of more-or-less laying back and letting me take care of her - all of the sudden I was putting her to work! I believe the phrase is topping from the bottom.
Although that element still exists - she has her moments as a really good D. It's fun experiencing her new found assertiveness.
But - she still likes to be serviced, so she'll beat me to the bed (I think there's a pun in there), put on her blindfold - my cue that I need to be the D tonight.
I read the first book and agreed with what many who live the lifestyle were saying... that there were huge aspects of it that were dangerous, wrong, etc. So even though I think it's made kink/BDSM more socially acceptable, I think many are going to not bother to do the research to safely do BDSM, no matter the aspects be it D/S, just bondage, etc.
That said, there is a facet that would consider exploring it as I don't like taking control of things be it in work, emergency situations, etc; however, I so often do... I find the concept of a D/S relationship intriguing/exciting but at the same time what I want in a relationship usually the people I look for in a dating/SO aren't usually the same kind of people to meet that role.
I read the first book and agreed with what many who live the lifestyle were saying... that there were huge aspects of it that were dangerous, wrong, etc. So even though I think it's made kink/BDSM more socially acceptable, I think many are going
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I read the first book and agreed with what many who live the lifestyle were saying... that there were huge aspects of it that were dangerous, wrong, etc. So even though I think it's made kink/BDSM more socially acceptable, I think many are going to not bother to do the research to safely do BDSM, no matter the aspects be it D/S, just bondage, etc.
That said, there is a facet that would consider exploring it as I don't like taking control of things be it in work, emergency situations, etc; however, I so often do... I find the concept of a D/S relationship intriguing/exciting but at the same time what I want in a relationship usually the people I look for in a dating/SO aren't usually the same kind of people to meet that role.
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When there's a will there's always a way
Besides liking to be tied up. I don't think I am very BDSM at all. I only went to Fetlife, which isn't that bad unless u like rough stuff so I wouldn't shock people like OH with my monster video. who likes to pretend he is vanilla.....
Besides liking to be tied up. I don't think I am very BDSM at all. I only went to Fetlife, which isn't that bad unless u like rough stuff so I wouldn't shock people like OH with my monster video. who likes to pretend he is
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Besides liking to be tied up. I don't think I am very BDSM at all. I only went to Fetlife, which isn't that bad unless u like rough stuff so I wouldn't shock people like OH with my monster video. who likes to pretend he is vanilla.....
I'm very submissive, no desire to flip that role. We add bondage, in some way or another, to our love making pretty much every time. Either tied up or restrained by his hands. ITS A TOTAL TURN ON
Lena, I can't wait to see the new latex line!! I agree, the midel's outfit is hella HOT!!!
I'm very submissive, no desire to flip that role. We add bondage, in some way or another, to our love making pretty much every time. Either tied up or restrained by his hands. ITS A TOTAL TURN ON
Lena, I can't wait to see the new
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I'm very submissive, no desire to flip that role. We add bondage, in some way or another, to our love making pretty much every time. Either tied up or restrained by his hands. ITS A TOTAL TURN ON
Lena, I can't wait to see the new latex line!! I agree, the midel's outfit is hella HOT!!!
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My other reason is a return to who I am. I was into BDSM things before I knew they were called that. Left it alone for a lot of years due to misunderstanding and now and coming back to it in full force!
I also do it for some of the reasons you posted in the poll.
I don't enjoy BDSM scenarios quite as often as I would like.
I'm a switch so I go back and forth (per scenario and sometimes in the same scenario) from dominant to submissive.
I did see part two and didn't really think much of it. Now if he had put a butt plug in with a weighted ball before that party I would have been impressed. i would have loved the weighted butt plug with the weighted ben wa balls in front. she wouldn't have been able to stand for very long much less walk properly.
For me it is a lot about exploring the depth of surrendering and trust. When I submit I t really turns my partner on to know that I totally trust him and surrender to him. We sometimes switch roles but I am not as comfy being the dominant
My other reason is a return to who I am. I was into BDSM things before I knew they were called that. Left it alone for a lot of years due to misunderstanding and now and coming back to it in full force!
I also do it for some of the reasons
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My other reason is a return to who I am. I was into BDSM things before I knew they were called that. Left it alone for a lot of years due to misunderstanding and now and coming back to it in full force!
I also do it for some of the reasons you posted in the poll.
I don't enjoy BDSM scenarios quite as often as I would like.
I'm a switch so I go back and forth (per scenario and sometimes in the same scenario) from dominant to submissive.
I did see part two and didn't really think much of it. Now if he had put a butt plug in with a weighted ball before that party I would have been impressed. i would have loved the weighted butt plug with the weighted ben wa balls in front. she wouldn't have been able to stand for very long much less walk properly.
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And how about your partner? Did you prepare him for BDSM or he was already kept in line with the idea?
For me it is a lot about exploring the depth of surrendering and trust. When I submit I t really turns my partner on to know that I totally trust him and surrender to him. We sometimes switch roles but I am not as comfy being the dominant
+100! I also think that BDSM is impossible without an absolute trust and confidence in your partner.
And how about your partner? Did you prepare him for BDSM or he was already kept in line with the idea?
That's been a bit tricky. I did prepare them by explaining who I used to be and how I'm returning to my true form. Hubby has the typical view of BDSM so it's been interesting explaining and experiencing real BDSM play. It takes patience sometimes to introduce something new.
It seems that kinky sex was made quite popular by being featured in the famous “50 Shades of Grey” books & movies! BTW, did you have a chance to watch the second part? Everyone is talking about it and people around
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It seems that kinky sex was made quite popular by being featured in the famous “50 Shades of Grey” books & movies! BTW, did you have a chance to watch the second part? Everyone is talking about it and people around the world are now straying more from vanilla sex, discovering and loving fetish play. Do you agree? How often do you enjoy BDSM scenarios in your sexual life? Are you consistently dominant, submissive, or do you take turns? What are your reasons for practicing the BDSM activities and lifestyle?
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BDSM is a huge part of my sex lifestyle. I have to control so much in my the everyday life, that it's actually nice to have my husband control the sex acts. I love being submissive, but I sometimes have to take the dominant role. He's not always as dominate as I would like. We used to have a safe word if it became painful or one of us just didn't care for a particular action. Now, we just say stop if we don't like what the other is doing.
BDSM is a huge part of my sex lifestyle. I have to control so much in my the everyday life, that it's actually nice to have my husband control the sex acts. I love being submissive, but I sometimes have to take the dominant role. He's not
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BDSM is a huge part of my sex lifestyle. I have to control so much in my the everyday life, that it's actually nice to have my husband control the sex acts. I love being submissive, but I sometimes have to take the dominant role. He's not always as dominate as I would like. We used to have a safe word if it became painful or one of us just didn't care for a particular action. Now, we just say stop if we don't like what the other is doing.
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Lol, mine doesn't mind taking the domme role nowadays.
And when I say " enough, no more, stop. " Instead she'll continue till I beg her to stop....
BDSM is a huge part of my sex lifestyle. I have to control so much in my the everyday life, that it's actually nice to have my husband control the sex acts. I love being submissive, but I sometimes have to take the dominant role. He's not
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BDSM is a huge part of my sex lifestyle. I have to control so much in my the everyday life, that it's actually nice to have my husband control the sex acts. I love being submissive, but I sometimes have to take the dominant role. He's not always as dominate as I would like. We used to have a safe word if it became painful or one of us just didn't care for a particular action. Now, we just say stop if we don't like what the other is doing.
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Same for us we switch and both enjoy 'being taken' by a dominant partner. Although I must confess, I prefer to be submissive.
I never understood the safe word strategy - STOP - seems adequate!
My boyfriend isn't into kink at all. Our sex life isn't boring but we get physically and emotionally fulfilled with the vanilla.
Now, me on the other hand, I love being spanked but not for spanking sake. I love the sharp unexpected sting. If someone was to put me over his/her knee, I would probably never speak to them again. Now if I get my butt slapped during doggy it brings on an immediate orgasm.
I love different anything, positions, locations, tempos, depths, or any other change ups. I like to be surprised.
My boyfriend isn't into kink at all. Our sex life isn't boring but we get physically and emotionally fulfilled with the vanilla.
Now, me on the other hand, I love being spanked but not for spanking sake. I love the sharp unexpected
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My boyfriend isn't into kink at all. Our sex life isn't boring but we get physically and emotionally fulfilled with the vanilla.
Now, me on the other hand, I love being spanked but not for spanking sake. I love the sharp unexpected sting. If someone was to put me over his/her knee, I would probably never speak to them again. Now if I get my butt slapped during doggy it brings on an immediate orgasm. I love different anything, positions, locations, tempos, depths, or any other change ups. I like to be surprised.
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What you describe is kind of like my wife and I - in reverse.
I suggest not giving up - over the years I have been able to gradually introduce my wife to kink. Starting with clit vibes to rabbit vibes, to dildos to big dildos...
Introducing anal sex was probably the hardest - from there things progressed to pegging and a progression of blindfolds, cuffs, slappers, floggers, paddles & crops - all of the sudden she's turned into a fledgling Dominant.
Mind you this took 25+ years - but it has all been worth the patience and persistence. She'd be the first to tell you that she wishes she had opened up sooner - but no need to look back!!!
What you describe is kind of like my wife and I - in reverse.
I suggest not giving up - over the years I have been able to gradually introduce my wife to kink. Starting with clit vibes to rabbit vibes, to dildos to big
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What you describe is kind of like my wife and I - in reverse.
I suggest not giving up - over the years I have been able to gradually introduce my wife to kink. Starting with clit vibes to rabbit vibes, to dildos to big dildos...
Introducing anal sex was probably the hardest - from there things progressed to pegging and a progression of blindfolds, cuffs, slappers, floggers, paddles & crops - all of the sudden she's turned into a fledgling Dominant.
Mind you this took 25+ years - but it has all been worth the patience and persistence. She'd be the first to tell you that she wishes she had opened up sooner - but no need to look back!!!
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Better late than never
I've noticed a tendency that ladies start feeling more obsessed with dominating these days (so do I)
I've noticed a tendency that ladies start feeling more obsessed with dominating these days (so do I)
I know right - but I must say that once in a while she just wants to 'be taken'. Turn over control and be 'forced' to orgasm over and over. I completely get it and oblige whenever she needs it.
