Constructive discussions on Anal Sex:

Introducing My Man To Anal
My last boyfriend was crazy kinky... I never thought I would be in to anal sex, being tied up, role play, and beyond... My new boyfriend, the man I am

Anal lubes
Does one need a special type of lube for anal sex?
Are there any really great ones on the market right now?
Please let me know! Thanks in advance

I want a liberator that is DP friendly...
I am looking at all the liberator gear (there is SO much!) and I want one that will hold a toy that I can ride, while the hubby has anal sex with me.

Were any of you ladies into anal sex long before vaginal sex?
How did you introduce vaginal sex into the mix? Was it a good change or do you still enjoy anal or like it more, even?

Which sexual act, was done to you first?
Oral sex was the first type of sex I ever had. But when I get to the second type, people use think that's weird or different. I then had anal sex,...

Go to the bathroom first, and most of the fecal matter will come out. If you want to you can take a small "anal douche" (~6-10 oz warm water enema). If you do that two or three times you'll make sure that you don't encounter anything until your intestines kick into gear again (you have a cycle, often connected with when you eat). Give yourself about a half-hour afterwards to let your system absorb the water and rest. Condoms and gloves also help.

Best start-off toy is a finger. You have a few, your partner has a few. Start with yours and some lube, and rub around the outside of your anus. Learn to enjoy the feelings, which requires that you psychologically _let_ yourself enjoy the feelings. Jack Morin recommends that you also look at your anus with a mirror.

Once you've done that a while you can start slowly penetrating yourself. A glove is a good idea because it makes your fingers smoother. Make sure you use plenty of lube, and go slow. Again discover the feelings and let yourself enjoy them.

Move up slowly from there. Maybe add a second finger, maybe get a small butt plug. Once you're comfortable playing with yourself and enjoying your anus you can bring your partner into it, but start small again - you'll tense up a bit because you're sharing control with someone else.

BTW "bringing your partner into it" means with toys and fingers at first. Give yourself plenty of time to get to the stage where you can accept a penis or something of similar size. You need to learn to relax your anus and be comfortable with it relaxed, and that takes a while.

BTW "bringing your partner into it" means with toys and fingers at first. Give yourself plenty of time to get to the stage where you can accept a penis or something of similar size. You need to learn to relax your anus and be comfortable with it relaxed, and that takes a while.

Oops - mouse-finger "stutter"

Thank so much for the advice! I will definitely try it out!

Using fingers and 1 inch diameter dildos is the best way to get acquainted with anal. Having regular bowel movements and a high-fiber diet, as darkkitty mentioned, is also very important.