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Which Fleshlight should I buy for my husband, who has never tried one?

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Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
My husband has never had a Fleshlight -- something that I plan on remedying in the next few weeks. However, when faced with this search page of all the Fleshlight options, I feel overwhelmed by all the choices. I mean, there are different sizes, different textures, and some even vibrate!

I "narrowed down" the search page to the following, but still need help choosing amongst this selection.

For reference, he has the Tenga Flip Hole Black and the Vibratex Maven, both of which he has come to like (he was lukewarm about them at first). He uses the Maven more because he says it's easier to clean.

So, for all you guys out there, which one of these would you recommend (or want) the most? Girls, which of these does your guy most recommend? Any other suggestions or comments?

Thanks for any help with this momentous decision! I mean, it will be HIS FIRST FLESHLIGHT!!!
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Jenna Haze Forbidden
Xavier7
1  (2%)
Vibro Lady Original
Lady Lager
seaofneptune
1  (2%)
Jenna Haze Lotus
Tera Patrick Lotus
Alan & Michele
1  (2%)
STU Vagina
Envy , B8trDude , Naughty Student , PuplePleasures , Love Buzz , XXXXXXXXXXXXX , Kindred , billboard , Brand , leatherlover , I'll Miss You EF :( , Brook4114 , Stujen , dv8 , Love&War , potstickers , callsignhusker , Kdlips , angel142stx , The Curious Couple , T&A1987 , Missmarc , yeoshua , mmmmm , asandahl , giftdgecko , Stinkytofu10 , michael scofield
28  (68%)
Lady Original
Sera
1  (2%)
Jenna Haze Mouth blowjob imitator
namelesschaos
1  (2%)
Jack ass
transboy
1  (2%)
Tera Patrick Twista
bobowaxer
1  (2%)
Lia19
Avant-garde
1  (2%)
Raven Riley
The Nakanas , Mark43 , kokopelli , x203
4  (10%)
STU jack ass
Vibro Lady Touch
Jimbo Jones
1  (2%)
Total votes: 41
Poll is closed
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Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
The Fleshlight is great, my b/f has it but it difficult to clean and dry. As far as the type; they are almost all the same, depends on who he has a fantasy about, I guess.
10/25/2010
Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
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Originally posted by Liz2
The Fleshlight is great, my b/f has it but it difficult to clean and dry. As far as the type; they are almost all the same, depends on who he has a fantasy about, I guess.
Unfortunately, he has no idea who the porn stars are, so it wouldn't make a difference to him from whose genitalia the outer portion was molded.

I am mainly wondering about the different textures. Additionally, I know there is a perfectly smooth one and that there are others that offer different textures. Also, I remember reading that some are tighter than others. And I'm not sure if the vibrating ones would be better or not.

Too many decisions -- especially when I have no clue which features would be "better" . . .
10/25/2010
Contributor: kck kck
Wonderwave. Hands down.
10/25/2010
Contributor: kck kck
EF has it as a replacement sleeve (here). Fleshlight sells it with the canister as a set.
10/25/2010
Contributor: seaofneptune seaofneptune
I've been looking at them to get one for my partner as well and am at a loss. I voted on the Lady Lager, because I have been looking at one similar to that to get him. I want to get him the Irish Backdoor Stout one to try but they don't sell it on EF unfortunately.
10/25/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
I bought mine the Alien because it's limited, has 3 textures inside, and is unique and pretty. However browsing the FL forums and seeing what the guys have posted, a lot seem to like the STU and Destroya. So i guess I'll say the STU, apparently it was designed to help guys last longer.
10/25/2010
Contributor: Jimbo Jones Jimbo Jones
I'm not sure I'm helping your cause here because I added a vote for another product that otherwise had no votes, but if I was going to get a new one, that's probably the one I would go for. I have several of the ones you listed. I was wondering, if you don't care about the porn stars, why so many of the Lotus selections? I would say pick the labia you like best and eliminate the rest of those. My second choice would be the Jenna Haze Forbidden which is my favorite of those that I have in your list.
10/25/2010
Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
Quote:
Originally posted by kck
EF has it as a replacement sleeve (here). Fleshlight sells it with the canister as a set.
I wish EF had the Wonderwave sleeve AND canister set. I could always put the Wonderwave sleeve on my priority wish list and get it later after I've already purchased him one with the canister. I'm using my Eden Points to pay for it, so it will have to be through EF!
10/25/2010
Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
Quote:
Originally posted by seaofneptune
I've been looking at them to get one for my partner as well and am at a loss. I voted on the Lady Lager, because I have been looking at one similar to that to get him. I want to get him the Irish Backdoor Stout one to try but they don't sell ... more
Yeah, I've considered the Lady Lager, too. But I was wondering if the smaller sized "canned" ones were as good as the canister-sized ones? Or if it even makes a difference?
10/25/2010
Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
Quote:
Originally posted by Envy
I bought mine the Alien because it's limited, has 3 textures inside, and is unique and pretty. However browsing the FL forums and seeing what the guys have posted, a lot seem to like the STU and Destroya. So i guess I'll say the STU, ... more
Oh, I wish EF had the Alien! I did a search and couldn't find it, so I guess they're not carrying it.

How do the 3 combined textures feel? Is it awesome in use for him?
10/25/2010
Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
Quote:
Originally posted by Jimbo Jones
I'm not sure I'm helping your cause here because I added a vote for another product that otherwise had no votes, but if I was going to get a new one, that's probably the one I would go for. I have several of the ones you listed. I was ... more
I wasn't specifically searching out the Lotus texture to list. I just listed the ones that I could find that came as a set, not just as a replacement sleeve since he doesn't have a canister yet. But I see what you mean about listing a lot of the Lotus ones, now that you mentioned it.

I am pretty overwhelmed by the broad variety offered by Fleshlight. I don't care so much what the labia look like. The external portion could even be the generic, "non-genital" ones -- or even a mouth or a butt. I am more concerned with getting him one that feels good and performs the best.

If I missed a canister/sleeve set that EF carries somehow and you think it would be better, please let me know!
10/25/2010
Contributor: Avant-garde Avant-garde
My favorites are lia19, cyclone and stoya mouth.
10/25/2010
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
Hi! Since you mentioned the Lady Lager, you might want to know that the Sex-in-a-Can series Fleshlights are quite a bit tighter than the full-sized ones. In truth, our cans don't get used much anymore because they are almost *too* tight.
10/25/2010
Contributor: B8trDude B8trDude
So far, I've got the Lady Lager and the STU - both are great! It's a very tough choice but if I had to get just one, I think I would go with the STU.
10/26/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
Personally I'd start off with a cheaper version and see if he likes that then move on to better things. Your husband might not neccessarily enjoy pocket pussies so you might want to try with something cheaper first less you be disapointed.
10/26/2010
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Have you decided yet?

I have the Stoya with the Destroya texture coming, and looking at the texture it looks more intense than the Flip Hole. Honestly I could not choose one and racked my brain trying to figure which one would be a good one to start with. Thankfully the Eden god's chose for me. Only problem is it is for a descriptive review, going to be a challenge, just like the Flip Hole was, to describe that texture.
11/09/2010
Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
Have you decided yet?

I have the Stoya with the Destroya texture coming, and looking at the texture it looks more intense than the Flip Hole. Honestly I could not choose one and racked my brain trying to figure which one would be a good one ... more
No, I haven't ordered one yet! It looks like the STU is winning in the poll (though I wish some more people would vote!).

I would LOVE to hear about the Destroya texture from you though! I am not knowledgeable about all the different Fleshlight textures available (I have no idea how many different ones there are) -- and I certainly don't recognize a particular texture when I see it. Too many choices can be paralyzing, LOL!

I was hoping to get him one for his birthday (coming up within the first few days of December), so I'd better make up my mind!

Regardless of which Fleshlight I get him, I am planning on also getting him the Golden Lips (I think that's what it's called) masturbator when it is restocked.
11/10/2010
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Quote:
Originally posted by Selective Sensualist
No, I haven't ordered one yet! It looks like the STU is winning in the poll (though I wish some more people would vote!).

I would LOVE to hear about the Destroya texture from you though! I am not knowledgeable about all the different ... more
My review should be up with in the next week or so as it is a descriptive review. I will make sure you know.

Here are the regular textures link and here are the Fleshlight girls textures link

I think he will like the Golden lips too.
11/10/2010
Contributor: namelesschaos namelesschaos
Of those I've tried on that lists (swallow, original, STU,and i tried a different sex in a can and found it to be too tight). I picked the swallow which out of all the textures I've tried is my current favorite.
11/14/2010
Contributor: Destri Destri
Okay, I didn't vote because the one I think is best isn't on the list. I got this one link for my husband a year ago, and he just loves it. It is still in perfect shape after all this time. I know a couple of people said it was too short, but hubby has a fairly long cock and it works fine for him. You really should consider this one.
11/14/2010
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
Have you decided yet?

I have the Stoya with the Destroya texture coming, and looking at the texture it looks more intense than the Flip Hole. Honestly I could not choose one and racked my brain trying to figure which one would be a good one ... more
edit; I did not recieve the Destroya texture, that is her "Signature" texture.
The Lotus texture that was in Stoya was OK, nothing to hoot and hauler about though. Seems my tool likes more texture, so I will try to get the Destroya in a replacement sleeve. I also think the STU look good too.
11/14/2010
Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
Thanks for all the suggestions, everyone!

His birthday is in December and I'm hoping I can save enough points to get him one after donating points for the families that Eden has adopted. Your suggestions are very helpful because, even though I am getting lots of different opinions, I am planning on buying him at least two replacement sleeves later on for him to switch out with the sleeve that will come with the canister.

I hope that I keep getting comments on this thread for some time since that will take me a few months to get him a total of three different textures! (And hopefully even more textures later on down the road . . . )
11/18/2010
Contributor: Kindred Kindred
I just reviewed the Fleshlight Girls Katsuni which also has the Lotus texture. I have to agree with Dwtim. It felt okay, but I think there are other textures with more interesting things to offer.

Based on the research I did, and the fact that you prefer to buy from EF, I would recommend buying one with the case with I would go with either the Swallow (this would be the Jenna Haze Mouth or Stoya Mouth) or the STU. I'd go for the STU as the texture is considered more intense. For the replacement sleeve, I would get the Wonder Wave. Granted I have not tried these, but are what I would personally get. Hope that helps
11/18/2010
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Quote:
Originally posted by Kindred
I just reviewed the Fleshlight Girls Katsuni which also has the Lotus texture. I have to agree with Dwtim. It felt okay, but I think there are other textures with more interesting things to offer.

Based on the research I did, and the fact ... more
I will second that. Hopefully Eden will get more of the textures soon.
11/18/2010
Contributor: Brand Brand
STU without a doubt...2 minutes in it and he will be like a virgin all over again.
11/18/2010
Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
Thanks, all of you! I just found out that I was assigned a Tera Patrick Twista Fleshlight and am BEYOND excited! I think I'm even more excited than my husband is, LOL! (I called him within seconds after accepting the assignment, after first sitting there staring at the assignment for what seemed like minutes before shaking myself out of my shock and surprise to click "Accept". )

It will be an early birthday gift to him, so I will get him to testing it out just as soon as it arrives -- for review's sake of course! I actually have a hard time withholding surprises from people since I want to give them whatever it is that I have for them right away. I guess I shouldn't have told him about it and that I should've just had it for him one day when he arrived home from work -- to at least withhold SOMETHING as a surprise, LOL!

I think the two replacement sleeves I will get for him, as soon as I get a chance, will be the STU and Wonder Wave. If the STU is not available as a replacement sleeve, it definitely sounds worth it to buy it with its canister. Then I'm going to prioritize the Swallow texture as his third replacement sleeve. I also think the Destroya looks interesting. All of them seem like they would be great.

That is so weird about the Lotus texture beginning so deep in the sleeve . . .
11/18/2010
Contributor: Kindred Kindred
Quote:
Originally posted by Selective Sensualist
Thanks, all of you! I just found out that I was assigned a Tera Patrick Twista Fleshlight and am BEYOND excited! I think I'm even more excited than my husband is, LOL! (I called him within seconds after accepting the assignment, after first ... more
That's great. At least you'll have one to start and can use for a comparison. Looking forward to your review
11/18/2010
Contributor: Alan & Michele Alan & Michele
Quote:
Originally posted by Selective Sensualist
Thanks, all of you! I just found out that I was assigned a Tera Patrick Twista Fleshlight and am BEYOND excited! I think I'm even more excited than my husband is, LOL! (I called him within seconds after accepting the assignment, after first ... more
Keep your eye open for the Forbidden textured ones too. We just reviewed the Lupe Fuentes Forbidden and the sleeve was outstanding.
11/18/2010
Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
Quote:
Originally posted by Alan & Michele
Keep your eye open for the Forbidden textured ones too. We just reviewed the Lupe Fuentes Forbidden and the sleeve was outstanding.
Ooh, I will! When I wrote that I thought the Destroya looked interesting, I actually meant the Forbidden (I haven't even seen what the Destroya looks like -- I'd just seen a photo of the inside of the Forbidden -- just mixed up the names of them somehow)! Glad you liked it!
11/18/2010