So I guess I should've posted here prior to the other day but better late than never. I'm in my 30s, no kids and I'm not really a big 'self lover' so to speak. Anyway, I figured why not try it and I'm not sure if my expectations were off or I'm not doing things right or what.

Anyway, any self love I engage in is clitoral although I can orgasm with penetration by my husband. I figured a clitoral toy would be my best option since that is normally what I like when I'm by myself.

So I decided to buy the Lelo Alia thinking it'd be a good start. Something discrete, water proof (just in case) and silicone. Anyway, I used it twice so far and it feels interesting/nice and I can get off with it but it doesn't feel like anything special or better than if I was doing it myself.

So my conclusions are I am either doing it wrong, I bought the wrong toy or maybe a toy was the wrong thing for me.

Any tips or tricks? Other toys that might've been better options?