I have used the Nexus with my girlfriend and alone several times and would definitely recommend it. At first the size took a little getting used to but once I got relaxed - wow. It has a very satisfying girth and length. So I feel filled up and I get that feeling very deep inside. Also it is completely silicone so the material is nice and smooth and very easy to clean up. This is important to me because my girlfriend really gets off making me suck whatever she has strapped on that night. She especially enjoys when we do it with this toy because my sucking creates a gentle in an out and clit-rubbing on her end.

I personally enjoy this dildo design because it let's you feel more connected to your partner. I get off knowing my partner is getting something out of the experience as well as I am. The design enables me to give some stimulation back to her. If I push back a while receiving a single ended dildo it doesn't do much for her. But with the Nexus I can give my behind a little shake or wiggle and give her a tickle.

Though I doubt it compares to actually having a penis, I know my girlfriend gets a better feel for when I am more relaxed or if she is hitting me at a good angle or not. This is usually evidenced by the puddle she leaves on the bed. :)

One drawback is that the size difference between the head and the shaft is a little more than I would like. The contrast can make leave me a little sore after an extended pounding. But that also depends on how you use it too. If there is a lot of all the way in and all the way out thrusting, that's when it can become uncomfortable. When it is mostly sustained deep penetration, then the big head is actually a bit of a bonus because it puts a little extra pressure on the prostate.

Overall a great toy.

I have been using this with the harness from the bend-over beginner kit and it works very well. You do need to take out the pad in the crotch but that is not a problem.