Not at all for plus-size women!

When I first saw the Fixsation I felt certain that it couldn't possibly be something for plus-size women. Then I was told that no, no! it comes in various sizes! yay. Unlike the atrocity that was the Venus Penis 2 which had no hope of fitting any woman above a size 12, the Fixsation comes in various sizes and the material is strethcy. The XXL claims to fit sizes 18-20. That is as big as it goes, however. My pants are closer to a 20 right now because I carry a lot of my weight in that ring area right below the belly button – my hips, my ass, my belly. Going by the drawings of the Fixsation, I figured I would not be able to wear this at all. I was mostly right, as the way I had to wear it was not at all like the drawing or photos on here. Anyone larger than me would not have a prayer.

Fixsation is labeled as a “couple’s vibe and panty”, and that is my first bone to pick. A strip of lace does not a panty make. At best it’s a garter belt. Sort of. I suppose this is a minor gripe in the grand scheme of things to come, though.

Fixsation is meant for the missionary position sex and is advertised solely to hetero couples. I can understand their motive for the audience thing, even though I don’t exactly like it. This toy could work for lesbian couples…perhaps. But to design something just for the missionary position? Fixsation is meant to work with the pressure applied by your partner’s pubic bone. It’s been a long time since I first side-eyed this sex toy but I once ran across something that seriously irked me; I believe it was on the Fixsation website but I cannot find it anymore so I cannot be sure of where I read this but I remember this specifically: It was said that the Fixsation was never intended to be a powerhouse, because the point was to “help” bring her to orgasm at the same time as her partner. It was purposely designed so that she did not climax from clitoral stimulation alone before her partner. *blinks* I have lots of feelings on that, and none of them are good.

The "panty", as I said, is a mere whiff of lace. A stretchy band. There are 2 bra-stap-ish things that hook to the back and are permanently attached to the front. The vibrator is made of hard plastic. They can dress it up in Velvet Cote but that still doesn't take away from the fact that the thing is a very hard plastic with defined, hard edges at the sides.

I have very full outer labia and mons. It’s kinda natural given my size but I think I’ve always been like this even when I was thinner. When I spread my legs, I still have to part my labia to access my clit. If that describes you at all, then the Fixsation will not work. You pretty much have to have minimal labia (inner or outer) and a prominent clitoris. What happens if you should try to spread your labia around the vibrator so that the vibrator will actually be vibrating your clitoris and not your labia?

Pain. Pinching. Pain. Even if you like pain with your sex, this is not the purpose of the sex toy. The sides of the vibrator are a bit sharp-feeling to fleshy flesh since it is made of hard plastic. God forbid you should have pubic hair, because it will get caught up in the sides. This can happen to either one of you, by the way. Imagine a more-painful but less-complicated entanglement similar to braces locking together when kissing. A pubic hair or two yanked out at the root doesn’t exactly keep the mood alive.

The Fixsation is “assembly required”. I always appreciate when my rechargeable vibe is already charged up when it arrives at my doorstep, because I’m impatient when it comes to trying out new toys. The vibrator portion of the Fixsation did arrive charged so at least I was able to immediately tell that that portion was a complete fail for me, but the “panty” portion required assembly. It seems simple enough – there is a silly band of lace and 2 small bra-strap-ish straps that clip on to the lace and eventually run through holes in the vibe to achieve the hands-free feature.

Assembly took me 10 minutes and I nearly launched it across the room twice. I had to get out the tweezers to finish the job. Since part of this sex toy is fabric and it will get dirty, you will need to handwash it-which means you will need to take the vibrator off. And then re-assemble it. My tip, if you should purchase this, is to assemble it well before sex otherwise you will be too irritated to even have sex. Once I had both straps threaded through the side holes it was time to put it on. You step into it like a panty...just be sure you don’t get things tangled up before you step in. Pulling the lace bit up proved my point that this design is just not meant for fat girls. I had to pull it all the way up over my hips to rest at my belly-button-centered waist area and this was a very tight fit for the straps (the lace band stretched out enough that it didn't feel like an unwanted restraint device). Someone built differently might have better luck letting this rest on the hips. I then had to adjust the vibe so that it was sitting more or less over the area where my clitoris was...sort-of.

Fixsation would work best for:

*Those who are a size 14/16 or under, despite the sizing of the XXL version
*Women who do not carry much weight in their belly
*Women whose labia are small and whose clitoris is easily accessed and visible
*Those who do not require much assistance from vibration to help with climax
*Those who prefer the missionary position
*Heterosexual couples, however it could work for same-sex couples if the giving partner’s harness isn’t too bulky
*Solo use if you truly hate holding two sex toys and fit the above descriptions
*Those with cropped or shaved pubic hair

Please note that these aren’t “or” statements, they pretty much all go together and you have to fit most of them. I do not.

Moving along...the Fixsation is indeed quiet. Users who are in need of something quiet will find that in this toy. It is water-resistant but not waterproof: Ok for squirters but not ok to wash along with the “panty”. It is rechargeable, has 3 speeds of yawn, is fairly small, travel-friendly and “non-threatening” if you happen to have a male partner who is so insecure as to be intimidated by sex toys. The fact that you have to hold down the power button for 5 seconds to turn it off or on is a semi-decent travel feature and it means that it won't accidentally get turned off during sex. But it does become difficult to control if your fingers are not dry.

You do get a little drawstring pouch for storage. However, given the nature of this type of "lace", I wouldn't actually store the fabric portion with the vibrator and charger as it could easily snag. The lace and straps should be hand washed only, the same can basically be said about the vibrator. It's water resistant but not waterproof. Unfortunately those side channels where the straps thread through make cleaning quite difficult sometimes.

You can use any type of lube with this but I'd personally go for water-based lube (and nothing with glycerin!) just for ease of clean up later on.

The box for this is quite nice and the instructions are easy to read. However I don't feel that the box really offers much in the way of storage. The packaging design though makes it so that if someone were to see this in your drawer or suitcase at a glance they wouldn't think it's a sex toy.

While I have indeed often wished for a sex toy similar to the Fixsation for use during missionary-position sex, but it falls so short of the mark it’s not even funny. I really, really dislike this toy. In fact, I don’t think I’d ever recommend it. There are many flaws especially for plus-size women. I don't think it's worth $99 but when you compare it to everything else in the strap-on vibrator category, somehow the price doesn't feel as harsh. But just because all the other options suck doesn't mean the price is justified.