Give Him A Handjob Orgasm:
Tips & Techniques From A Man Who Knows

Give Him A Handjob O!:
Tips From A Man Who Knows

The alpha and omega of your first hookups, handjob frequently flies under our adult sexy radars, and it's a regretful waste. Handjobs are often seen as strictly a prelude to bigger and better things, but this classic pastime, when performed exceptionally well, can be a means to its own orgasmic end.

In this guide, I’ll explain why men love handjobs, and how to exceed your lover’s expectations with savvy tips and bombshell techniques that will give him the kind of explosive climaxes to rival the best blowjobs he’s ever had.

What Makes Handjobs So Sexy?

There’s a special relationship between a man and his penis. While he’s got years of experience getting off by "being handy" on his own, when you take matters into your hands, the sensation feels new, strange, and exciting for him. And, as women’s hands are typically much smoother than men’s, it can enhance the novelty of the experience even more.

A handjob isn’t just a warm-up, it’s a ritual that allows you to participate in fulfilling his deepest sexual desires by understanding what truly gets him off. Both the psychological implications and the physical sensations when someone else takes part in a deed that’s previously been private are exceedingly erotic.

Some people believe that you can "outgrow" handjobs. Those people are idiots. As long as a man continues to masturbate, a handjob will always be a legitimate orgasmic outlet.

Smart Tips I Swear By

Follow The Sensei

No one knows how to handle a man’s dong better than the man himself, but if you’re not comfortable asking for handjob pointers, arrange to be a voyeur at a private erotic peep show and have him "show you how it’s done." Watching your man bring himself to orgasm is not only an intimate and provocative experience for the two of you to share, it can also teach you everything you need to know to perform a fantastic handjob tailored to your man.

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Considering that he might feel awkward pounding the meat by himself, sit facing him and go to town, as well. This voyeuristic session is going to be orgasmic for both.

Make It Slide

The penis is extremely sensitive all over, and it needs to be pampered and prepared for pleasure. Put the nix on fun-killing friction with an extra generous helping of saliva, hand cream, or lube (preferably one that’s long-lasting). Here’s my "rule of thumb" for handjobs: when the "runway" glistens, you’re cleared for take-off. When the runway is dry, you cannot fly.

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Go Slow

Us boys, we’re usually in a hurry. When we get ourselves off, it’s usually "Wham, bam, thank you, hand!" When you’re in charge, it’s much sexier to let us savor the pleasure. To build erotic tension, get your man in an orgasmic mindset even before you even touch his penis. By prolonging your playful lingering, he’ll get so hot for your touch, he’ll soon be begging you to finish the job.

Blow It

To take a handjob to the next level, spice it up with a demi-blowjob. The object of this exercise is not to swallow him whole. Instead, tease and please him with your tongue by getting his cock wet and treating him to the view, but let your hands do most of the talking. Your mouth and tongue can add some high notes, while your fingers finesse his meat flute in a symphony of carnal delight. Hooked on the idea of a perfect BJ? Check out our lolliPOPING guide on blowjobs.

Play Balls

Don’t leave’em hangin’! Get those testicles in play. Pull them lightly, massage each one individually, rotate them in your palms like zen balls. The sack is extremely sensitive to stimulation, and while, generally, manual manipulation won’t result in orgasm, when paired with other techniques, the added oomph of ball play is sure to drive him "nuts," and I mean that in a good way.

Reach Back

If you want to score a homerun, you’ve got to get his bum in the game, ladies! Massaging the perineum — a soft spot right behind the sack — will harden his erection and boost his pleasure by a hundredfold. Now, some men are wary of things that come at them "from behind," so before you venture in that direction, discuss it. Chances are, he’ll resist at first but end up lovin’ it! The prostate is a knot of nerve endings located up and inside the rectum that can produce absolutely smashing sensations, and with proper stimulation, will have him blowing his wad in minutes. Many men, myself included, can even reach multiple orgasms via P-spot massage, although a prostate massager may be required to give you just the right angle and ergonomic curve to reach his back-door joy buzzer. If you want to learn about that magical spot he hides in the back, dive in our detailed prostate massage guide for beginners. Want to see what the fuss is all about? Browse the full collection of ergonomic prostate massagers right here.

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To intensify his orgasmic fiesta, reach over the testicles and find a soft muscle knot behind the sack — it’s his perineum, a magic button that will literally make him harder if you press it.

Simple Techniques That'll Make Your Guy Glow

"A-OK"

This is gateway technique will ensure everything’s gonna be alright from the very beginning. Start by making an "OK" sign with your index finger and thumb and encircle his cock with the "O". Experiment with speed and tension, tightening and loosening your hold as you slide your hand up and down his shaft. When he moans with delight, you’ll know just what he likes. As an extra spur, a cock ring makes a wonderful variation on this theme and can be used "in a pinch" in place of tired fingers.

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Hold On

No matter how accomplished your hand skills may be, the tightness he’s truly longing for is the one inside of you. You can recreate that snug fit by forming a tunnel around his penis with your palms. Twist your hands around, go up and down, tighten and release the pressure to toy with his perceptions. To upgrade your technique, wrap his cock in a tight penis sleeve to add dynamic tension and an extra dimension of silky glide. Pick out the fitting suit for his dong from our penis sleeves catalog.

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Get your "Hold On" with an open-ended masturbation sleeve. He’ll enjoy all the sensations of a thrilling handjob, while you’ll be at liberty to tease and nibble the tip of his shaft with your lips and tongue.

Fly The Fren

The underside of the shaft, the frenulum, is a.k.a. the "male clitoris", and with good reason. Interlace your fingers around the penis and position your thumbs over his magic orgasm button. Press your fingers together as you slide your thumbs up and down the frenulum, and be prepared for him to fire his payload, full speed ahead.

Tip Top

Tipping his penis isn’t just another way to tease him, it’s a sure path to orgasm. Fold your palm as if you’re holding a handful of M&M’s. Now, turn it over and start polishing that head to shine. Roll the tip between your fingers, caress each side, and then start polishing again. Just keep the stimulation continuous, and soon enough, you’ll both enjoy the seed of your loving labors.

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Nail It

The first thing guys tell you before going down: "Mind your teeth!" In a handjob scenario, it’s your nails that you must be mindful of, but if you and your partner are into kink, a little nail play goes a long way. Lightly scratching his frenulum or tracing your nails along the length of his shaft can make him shiver with delight. Give it a try. You’ll soon see what he likes.

The Rusty Trombone

If you’re a rimming kind of girl, this classic technique is one you must not miss. Give his bung some sexy tongue action as you reach around and stroke his penis with any of the moves described above. It may take a little while to get the coordination down, but once you find your rhythm, you’ll be rewarded with some beautiful orgasmic music as he blows his lap horn.

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If you can’t find the right rhythm, use a sex toy on one of the two strategic points: either place a hands-free masturbator in front or sneak an ASSgasmic rimming plug in the back. If you decided to play from the back, go discover hands-free masturbators here. If you think your BJ game is stronger than the rear pass, choose this beautiful plug to stand the ground.

Aftercare Savoir Faire

Most how-to guides get you where you’re going, and just leave you there. Not me. While getting him off is more than half the fun, what you do next is vital to complete a fulfilling handjob experience. Take care of him after his bell’s been rung, and he’ll be thrilled to return the favor.

Load Recovery

Decide where you want him to come and cater to those "aims." Whether it’s on you, in your mouth, or in a tissue, don’t make him feel ashamed for making a mess and be prepared.

Get Feedback

Conclude your handjob adventure in the same place you started: by talking with your man. Find out which moves he enjoyed most and which could use improving. Your interest and enthusiasm will excite him to guide you, especially knowing there’s sure to be a "next time." After all, practice makes perfect!

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