A ring as a gift?

A ring as a gift?

Mwar Mwar
So my guy and I were shopping the other day and he stumbled upon a ring he found pretty. He wanted me to wear it but was nervous about the connotations of it. I told him it's simply a gift from him and I would adore it. He figured that would be my response, and he purchased it.

My friends look at me oddly now (I never really wore a ring until now) and I'm fielding unnecessary questions. It is on my right hand.

I guess I'm venting, but I want to ask:

Do you feel odd getting a ring from/for your partner as a gift? Only a gift? Do you not consider them as normal gifts? How would you feel receiving one? This is assuming you are not married and you will not be for at least a while.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I'm a man and...
8
I'm a woman and...
34
I think nothing is wrong with it
43
It's an uncomfortable situation
1
I would buy my SO a ring "just cause"
14
I would never buy my SO a ring "just cause"
1
The meaning is what's important
23
It's just a ring, who cares?
19
I would be freaked out if I received one
Other
Total votes: 143 (50 voters)
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js250 js250
Rings are pieces of jewelery, just like necklaces and earrings, would the reaction have been the same if it was a necklace or set of earrings? Unless the ring is specifically an engagement ring, it should be thought of as an extra special present of jewelery from your boyfriend.
05/07/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
A few months after we got together he got me a ring with my birthstone with two small diamonds on either side but he told me it was a promise ring. I wear it on my left index finger.
2 years ago for Christmas he bought me a gorgeous chocolate diamond ring I had been drooling over. I also have beautiful engagement rings.

I love rings and every guy I dated got them for me for Christmas or birthdays.

I wouldn't worry about it and I'd tell them the truth if they ask about it.

I also bought him a ring, they actually have engagement rings for men and he wanted one, he wears it on his right hand, when we get married he will move it to his left, unless he lets me have my way and I can buy him a different one since I'll have more money!
05/07/2012
MamaDivine MamaDivine
Quote:
Originally posted by Mwar
So my guy and I were shopping the other day and he stumbled upon a ring he found pretty. He wanted me to wear it but was nervous about the connotations of it. I told him it's simply a gift from him and I would adore it. He figured that would be ...
As long as the implications of the meaning behind the rings are known when its purchased or received, then I think its fine. But there definitely needs to be communication when giving something like that.
05/07/2012
richsam richsam
Quote:
Originally posted by Mwar
So my guy and I were shopping the other day and he stumbled upon a ring he found pretty. He wanted me to wear it but was nervous about the connotations of it. I told him it's simply a gift from him and I would adore it. He figured that would be ...
i say u can get a ring as a gift but if u put it on the wedding ring finger then u prob will get questioned from friends n family
05/07/2012
Tangles Tangles
I would wear a ring given to me by my special someone. I would wear it to remind me of them. It only has a certain meaning if you give it that meaning.
05/07/2012
Ryuson Ryuson
I know that my mum got my dad a necklace for a 'wedding band.' It's all the meaning that you attribute to it.
05/07/2012
badk1tty badk1tty
Quote:
Originally posted by Mwar
So my guy and I were shopping the other day and he stumbled upon a ring he found pretty. He wanted me to wear it but was nervous about the connotations of it. I told him it's simply a gift from him and I would adore it. He figured that would be ...
It really depends completely on what the intention is. If you want it to be more, and they don't, it's awkward. If they want it to be more and you don't, it's awkward. If you both just want it to be a pretty gift, and nothing more than "I thought you would love this", then that's all that it is.
05/07/2012
Raigne Raigne
I don't consider them a normal gift, but neither do I think they should be only reserved for a proposal or special occasion. The reason I say it's not like a normal gift is that I would wear it all the time, or at least fairly often, because it would make me feel good to look at it and think about the person who gave it to me, compared to my normal jewelry, which only ever comes out when I need to dress up for something.
05/07/2012
spineyogurt spineyogurt
I dont see anythign wrong with it
05/07/2012
ksparkles16 ksparkles16
I think it's cool personally...who cares what others think!
05/08/2012
GONE! GONE!
I don't think it's any weirder than other kinds of jewelry as a gift.
05/08/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
I would give a ring as a gift.
05/08/2012
xOhxSoxScandalousx xOhxSoxScandalousx
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
Rings are pieces of jewelery, just like necklaces and earrings, would the reaction have been the same if it was a necklace or set of earrings? Unless the ring is specifically an engagement ring, it should be thought of as an extra special present of ...
This x10.
05/08/2012
Jeanette Jeanette
As long as you both agree on the "meaning" I think it's totally fine
05/08/2012
Vegan Silk Vegan Silk
I'm not a fan of rings, but if you like it, whatever.
05/08/2012
Sex Positivity Sex Positivity
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
Rings are pieces of jewelery, just like necklaces and earrings, would the reaction have been the same if it was a necklace or set of earrings? Unless the ring is specifically an engagement ring, it should be thought of as an extra special present of ...
Perfect!
05/08/2012
nanamondoute nanamondoute
A ring is a piece of a jewelry...I wouldn't think it weird at all.
05/08/2012
jmex83 jmex83
Quote:
Originally posted by Mwar
So my guy and I were shopping the other day and he stumbled upon a ring he found pretty. He wanted me to wear it but was nervous about the connotations of it. I told him it's simply a gift from him and I would adore it. He figured that would be ...
I don't think anything is wrong with a ring as a gift.
05/08/2012
K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Mwar
So my guy and I were shopping the other day and he stumbled upon a ring he found pretty. He wanted me to wear it but was nervous about the connotations of it. I told him it's simply a gift from him and I would adore it. He figured that would be ...
I don't see why there'd be freaked out reactions. Was it an engagement ring or something or is it someone you haven't known long?

My partner bought me my first ring when we hit our 6 month mark. He's bought me other jewelry and I've always said "Noooo! You don't have to do that." He's always just done it and of course, I was very grateful. I don't see a reason you should have to worry.
05/08/2012
meezerosity meezerosity
Nothing wrong with it, unless you're getting an engagement ring before you are ready. It's just any other form of jewelry. I have noticed people stick to buying things like necklaces, watches, bracelets, etc instead of rings because a ring is supposed to mean something more.
05/08/2012
ejrbrndps ejrbrndps
mine only wanted a "special ring"
05/08/2012
pirata pirata
I wouldn't see a problem with it, but would totally expect to be fielding silly questions for it
06/07/2012
HannahPanda HannahPanda
I think that's really sweet of him. Nothing weird about it.
06/07/2012
Errant Venture Errant Venture
I've definitely had a few problems with it, in the past. Been asked, upon producing the ring, if I'm proposing (and their less than negative responses left me quite disheartened!) more than once. So I tend to not buy rings as gifts, nowadays, and focus more on other forms of jewellery.
06/08/2012
T&A1987 T&A1987
if there really are no other connotations with the ring between your boyfriend and yourself, just put it on a chain. Nothing says "not a wedding ring" like hobbit attire.
06/08/2012
kims89 kims89
Even though a ring is a piece of jewelry, I think wearing it on your right hand is fine. It could be a promise ring or just something sweet between the two of you. Nothing major. How the gift was intended is the real importance!
08/28/2012
MK434 MK434
As long as you both know that it's just a gift then who cares, It's just a really nice gift!
08/28/2012
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