Bend over beginner harness kit - harness and dildo set by Tantus - review by ellieprobable

Great for beginners

This set is a phenomenal choice even for people that have never tried any anal play or stimulation. A good quality, no frills harness, and excellent, body-safe dildos make this a great starter set. It will even be a good addition to the collection of more experienced users.
Great variety
The kit includes everything you need
Smallest toy not great for strapping on
Rating by reviewer:
extremely useful review


The Bend Over Beginner Harness Kit is used for beginner strap-on sex. While it could be used for anal or vaginal penetration, the dildos included are smaller and designed for easing a partner into anal penetration. The harness is simple but well-constructed, and will not be confusing for beginners to wear or adjust. The bullet vibrator is a nice addition in this kit and shows how well thought-out it is. It can be used separate from the other items or along-side them as intended. Even someone that did not own toys before this would have a very functional set of play things after investing in the Bend Over Beginner Kit.
  • Who / How / What
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    Who might this product be best for? How is it best used? What are the best circumstances or situations for using this product?
    • Gender play
    • Pegging
    • Strap-on sex
  • Features
    [ ? ]
    What kind of features does this product offer?
    • Travel friendly


The harness is constructed of fabric with adjustable nylon straps. The harness portion is a velvety polyester fabric that feels nice and cleans up easily. There is a padding layer inside that adds to the comfort of it. The dildos are both 100% medical grade silicone. They are flexible but still made of a dense silicone that does not depress easily under gentle touch. The harness also comes with an additional O-ring to accommodate the different sized flared bases of the dildos. The bullet vibe is standard and made out of shiny silver plastic.
    • Mixed materials
    • Textured

Design / Craftsmanship

This is a simple harness. However, some good thought was put into it. The vibrator pocket may not line up with the anatomy of all users, but it was thoughtful to be included at all. The straps are easy to adjust. The O-rings attach via metal snaps on the straps going into the body of the harness. They are easy to attach and will accommodate any toy with a flared base that is designed to be O-ring compatible. Any Tantus dildo should work well.
    • Fits many size toys
    • Interchangeable o-ring
    • Well made / sturdy

Size / Fit

Any user will find that the straps are very lengthy once tightened down. If you don't like lots of spare straps, consider cutting them and burning the ends with a lighter so that they do not unravel. Ultimately, though, this will accommodate many body sizes which is quite heartening. The straps do not sit uncomfortably and they stayed in place well. This is a harness that you have to really tighten down, though, so don't be shy about it digging into your love handles.

The dildos included are sized well for beginners. I suggest trying them first without the harness before attempting strap-on sex with them. The smallest one is not much bigger than a finger, and the medium one goes up from there.
    • Fits comfortably
    • Will fit most body sizes and types


I did not have any issues with losing my toys while playing with this harness. The smallest dido can feel a bit anticlimactic while wearing it. However, if your partner enjoys it, great! I used this for rear entry sex, missionary, as well as allowing my partner to ride me while wearing the harness. All worked very well. Positions where the receiving partner is in control are some of the best for anal sex beginners, so I would suggest using it in this way to start.
    • Comfortable during use
    • Easy to put on
    • Holds toys very well

Care and Maintenance

The harness can be washed on gentle in the washing machine. Because of the nylon components, I chose to air dry it but tumble drying on low or no heat may work just fine. I mostly didn't want to have to untangle the straps. It dried quite quickly when hung to dry. I store it in a small fabric bag, folded neatly.

The included dildos are 100% silicone, so they can be cared for easily and can be entirely sterilized. Wash them with warm water and soap, or toy cleaner. Sterilize them by boiling for 3-5 minutes or applying a 10% bleach solution. Do not use silicone lubes with these toys. Do use lots of lubes for anal play, though. Just invest in a good, thick, water-based lube to get started.
    • Easy to clean
    • Easy to store


The toy kit comes packaged in a clear plastic box. It is not particularly sturdy nor a great use of space for efficient storage. Most people will prefer to store the toy in another manner. The package does include basic care information about the items included.
    • Minimal
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  • Fluke
    That's some step up from the small to the large. It doesn't look like a big difference in the pictures but in that video, the small is really small and the large is pretty dang big.

    Great review!
  • CaliGirl
    great review
  • J5ive
    nice review
  • Sima-pusya
    Nice review. Thank you
  • Cynthia Jordan
    great review
  • Mr. E
    Great review and video!
  • higs
    Great video review, thanks!
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