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The Appetites Project: What to Serve For Dinner When Sex is on the Menu

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What’s fueling your next naughty romp? If you’ve ever tried to get down with an empty stomach or felt frisky after a heavy meal, you know that the state of your stomach has a lot to do with the success of your sex. How do you make sure that you have enough fuel for a night of mattress marathons without getting sidelined by the need to digest?

  Set the Stage

First things first. Sex is a feast for the senses, so your pre-sex meal shouldn’t only be for the tastebuds. A lush tablecloth, classy dinnerware, enticing aromas, and arousing music can make even humble takeout the best sex starter you’ve ever had. Yes, this is all about food, but beware of concentrating on the food so much that the ambiance is lost. Ideally, your meal should be part of a sumptuous seduction, part of the foreplay itself.

  Think Twice About Three-Course Meals

Most of us eat dinner near the daily transition from activity to inactivity, so the typical dinners we can think of off the top of our heads are structured and portioned to kick off a low-key evening: an appetizer to take the edge off, a hearty main course, and a big tasty dessert to send us off to the couch in a state of carbed-up, sugared-out bliss. That’s a great state to be in, but it’s not exactly a good prelude to athletic sex.

To fuel an exciting night in the bedroom, try to avoid heavy carbs like bread and potatoes, and instead lean more toward protein-rich foods that will fuel your evening like fish or quinoa. Vegetables are always a good choice, although of course avoid the usual suspects (asparagus, onions). It’s easy to go overboard on dessert, considering the cultural attention placed on decadent desserts when it comes to sexiness, but moderation here will help out, too. Skip the mocha peanut butter ice cream pie and go for small and sensual instead: strawberries and whipped cream are a classic for a reason.

  Surprises Suck

You might want to surprise your partner with a grand meal, but unless you know them very well, you may want to leave less of it a surprise than you’d think. Food allergies and sensitivities abound, and you may not know your mattress buddy’s gastrointestinal preferences as well as you know their turn-ons and limits. Some allergies and sensitivities are strangely specific, so making assumptions based on what you’ve seen them eat before isn’t always the best choice.

For example, if you saw how happy pasta with tomato sauce makes one of my partners, you’d probably be shocked at how instantly and violently ill actual tomato pieces make him—an evening-killer for sure. Or if you saw me thoroughly enjoy sauteed onions over a nice steak, you might be confused if I refuse to eat your onion-heavy salsa: I’m not allergic, but raw onions make my sweat smell like onions for a full day afterward. Not too sexy, unless you’re really, really into onions...

  Water, Water Everywhere

When most of us think of a romantic dinner, we usually think of a “fancy” drink to go with it. Most of the pros and cons of mixing sex and alcohol are common knowledge, but dehydration is often left off the caution list. Sugary drinks can leave lovers feeling a little heavy, and carbonation can be a gas producer. While coffee can rev you up for sexy times, it can also upset the stomach, and some people don’t care to deeply kiss a coffeed-up mouth.

It may not seem particularly sexy on the surface, but water really is your best bet. Try adding a slice of lemon or lime for a little more elegance. Using water glasses with a sensual shape can help sex up your beverage, too. If you feel the need for a little caffeine pick-me-up, try a flavored black tea. It will offer you less caffeine than coffee while still giving you a noticeable bump, and many high-quality teas are extremely flavorful and easy to brew. Warm beverages in teacups or mugs also warm up hands for foreplay.

A note of caution: Don’t overdo it! A glass or two of water is plenty, and only a small cup of tea if you choose to have some. You don’t want to call for a bathroom break at the worst possible moment in your festivities.


Great article on a great topic!


Excellent review! My wife and I tend to go a little heavy on dinner items and spend most of the night digesting until we're able to make it to the bedroom I really liked the dinner suggestion with the crab salad and avocado... I'm sure my wife would love to try it out!


Lust. Hunger. Thirst.  
More than just basic human needs designed to perpetuate the species, these complex motivations can lead us to the edge of obsession or euphoria, fulfillment or torment, despair or ecstasy. Without satisfaction, these desires can consume our lives. SexIs takes a closer look at the intersection between food and sex. What makes us lust for food? What foods increase our hunger for sex? In what ways do we creatively and compulsively feed our appetites? It’s food for thought.

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