We all know that we really don’t have control over who we fall in love with. It could be one person over a life time. It could be someone new every week. It could be multiple people at one time. But everyone falls in love.
I am going to be writing with the assumption that you, my lovely readers, know what polyamory is, how poly relationships work and how the dynamic works. If you don’t, some other writers here have talked about it.But once in a while, in the poly world, you will see a unique style of a poly relationship pop up called a v point relationship.
In a V-point relationship there are two people open and in a sexual relationship with the same person who aren't having sex with each other.
Think about the shape of the letter “V”. The bottom point is the primary for both of the branching points of the “V”. The bottom point is the one that the branches go to for the most things, both sexually and emotionally.
The branches of the “V” sometimes care about each other, but aren’t sexually attracted to each other. If the branches of the “V” become sexually and more emotionally invested in each other, then it becomes a triad.
When I was growing up, there was a V-point relationship in my family. My great aunt was in one. Most of my family treated it as something normal and natural. This was how I was introduced to polyamory and bisexuality. It was there, and it was treated no different than the heterosexual monogamous relationships in my family.
Let’s put it this way, when my great aunt died a few years ago at age 92, she left behind her boyfriend of 40 years, her girlfriend of 30 years and still loved her husband who had died a number of years earlier.
Now I am starting to find myself in a V-point relationship. The relationship has reached the point where when I talk about adopting a child, most people that I am close to say, “That kid will have it made. A mommy, two daddies and a lot of loving aunts and uncles that will actually be his/her parents boyfriends and girlfriends.” How cool is that?
I am going to be writing with the assumption that you, my lovely readers, know what polyamory is, how poly relationships work and how the dynamic works. If you don’t, some other writers here have talked about it.But once in a while, in the poly world, you will see a unique style of a poly relationship pop up called a v point relationship.
In a V-point relationship there are two people open and in a sexual relationship with the same person who aren't having sex with each other.
Think about the shape of the letter “V”. The bottom point is the primary for both of the branching points of the “V”. The bottom point is the one that the branches go to for the most things, both sexually and emotionally.
The branches of the “V” sometimes care about each other, but aren’t sexually attracted to each other. If the branches of the “V” become sexually and more emotionally invested in each other, then it becomes a triad.
When I was growing up, there was a V-point relationship in my family. My great aunt was in one. Most of my family treated it as something normal and natural. This was how I was introduced to polyamory and bisexuality. It was there, and it was treated no different than the heterosexual monogamous relationships in my family.
Let’s put it this way, when my great aunt died a few years ago at age 92, she left behind her boyfriend of 40 years, her girlfriend of 30 years and still loved her husband who had died a number of years earlier.
Now I am starting to find myself in a V-point relationship. The relationship has reached the point where when I talk about adopting a child, most people that I am close to say, “That kid will have it made. A mommy, two daddies and a lot of loving aunts and uncles that will actually be his/her parents boyfriends and girlfriends.” How cool is that?
Wow what a awesome article thanks for sharing!
I've read a little about poly relationships. While it's not something I am into, I think it's wonderful that you can love two people and be completely open and honest about it, and TRULY love those two people. Thank you so much for sharing such a wonderful article, and opening our eyes a little more to the world of poly.
cooool. it's really awesome to hear about open relationships from folks who've been exposed and appreciative of such a long while. eh without the social contrap tions. Thanks. Blessed be
I really love this article and i never knew what poly relationships were until a few months ago on this sex program, i think if there is absolutely no jealousy in the relationship then it could be a beautiful thing and bringing a child into it is great. again i really love this article.
Polyamory is something I actively want in my life. Thanks for writing about it.
interesting articles
I am in a V point relationship. My guys care for each other deeply...but it is more of a brotherly kind of thing. They are good friends and probably would be good friends even if I wasn't in the picture. I am what holds them together as they each love me. They are not sexual together though we have had sex all three of us in the same room. Their focus is always on me...and yes I know i'm lucky, and yes I LOVE it!
If we should ever develop into a full triad it would be amazing but as they are completely hetero I don't see that happening anytime soon. If either of them were to get a girlfriend who became another partner then we found form another V most likely because I am hetero as well.