How To Choose Sex Toys For Your First Time
We encourage everyone to bring as much pleasure as possible into their lives, and sex toys offer great opportunities to do that. Inviting sex toys into your life can help you explore your body, learn what types of touch you like, and show you how to make your erogenous zones buzz. Learning what feels good to you before you have a sexual encounter with someone else can boost your confidence and help you communicate with your partner about what you like.
So, whether you are looking for a way to explore your sexuality or ready to pop your own cherry, we are here to give you all the information you need. Light some candles, put on your favorite lingerie (or go naked), turn on your sexiest playlist, and let one of these gizmos take care of the rest.
1Care For Materials Before You Break The "Viggy Bank"
When choosing a sex toy for your first time, it's essential that you go for body-safe materials. The top picks are non-porous toys made from medical grade silicone.
There are other amazing materials perfect for beginners, such as glass, or hard plastic. These are more rigid than silicone but their magnificent smoothness feels fantastic inside - keep this in mind if you are ready for the first penetration.
2Sex Is Better When It's Wetter
Lubrication is a must. Whether you create enough of your own or want to incorporate a bottled version. Be sure that the type of lube you use matches the material of your toy. Water-based lubes are your safest bet. They work well with any sex toy material, don't leave a sticky residue behind and feel natural on your skin.
Oil-based lubricants are also available but do your research to find out which ingredients feel best for you. Here's a helpful guide on choosing the best lubricant.
3You Are Ready For A First-Time Toy - Now What?
Ladies, since the dawn of civilization, we have looked for ways to make sex more enjoyable. Thankfully, with the help of technology and a better understanding of the unique anatomy of women, there are several brilliant sources of mind-blowing orgasms we dream about. Now we know that sex doesn't only mean a P to a V - there are myriads of other ways a woman can get that fabulous afterglow.
Your first sexdventure doesn't have to involve penetration at all.
Rub-a-Dub In And Out Of The Tub
You may probably not be ready for penetrative sex today, but who said this is the only way to enjoy? Many V-owners start their experiments with a more "available" and "sure bet" way to get pleasure - clitoral stimulation.
C-spot teasing via shower head or bath faucet is the most common way women experience their first orgasm (and yes, it feels amazing). Although faucets are good, there are a ton of products that are specially designed for that sweet purpose such as finger vibes, bullets and egg vibrators. They are discreet and small (often smaller than your lipstick), which makes them less intimidating, and they make orgasms are at your disposal everywhere, any time.
Such mini teasers can be used externally on the clitoris or used to explore other parts of your body. You can use them to stimulate your labia, nipples, and anywhere else that turns you on. If the vibrations feel too strong for you, there are some smart tricks on how to tame the intensity. You can put a cloth between you and the vibrator, or use it over the top of your panties. Another great idea is to pick a clitoral stimulator that provides super-delicate touchless buzz, such as Satisfyer.
Wave Your Magic Wands
Because wand style vibrators were originally marketed as personal body massagers, they can still pass as just that, making them ideal for anyone who may need to hide their sex toys. Regardless of gender, genitals, age, or mobility, a wand-style vibe delivers powerful pleasure and is a great option for beginners. They can help you explore your entire body and its many erogenous zones, not just genitals.
You can press the vibrating head to your inner thigh and still feel the delicious shivers deep inside your pelvis. You can run it along the outside of your labia, over your breasts, your nipples, or stimulate your clitoris directly. Most brands feature multiple levels of intensity from a gentle buzz to a super-concentrated rumble so you can find the perfect setting for you.
Outside The Box For Your Pink Box
Oral sex toys offer so much more than everyday vibrators. While a wand or bullet deserves a place on the nightstand, typical vibes can't replicate the sucking or licking sensation of a skilled lover's mouth. Devices that fall into the oral sex subset are specifically designed to mimic the fine art of cunnilingus, and oh, do they succeed. This makes oral sex simulators a great start for sex-toyploration.
Better Than A Cucumber
So, you are ready to dig in for more pleasure? Great! When it comes to penetrative toys, the most popular first-time toy is a dildo. Dildos come in a variety of materials including silicone, glass, rubber, and plastic, they can be vibrating or not. When considering a penetrative toy for the first time, there are a couple of things to keep in mind. You’ll likely want to choose a product that is slim and intended for gentle penetration. Also, keep in mind that some women can not orgasm from penetrative sex only (of any kind), especially if it is your first time.
Don't focus on reaching the orgasm - enjoy the process!
4First-Time Toys For Boys
Since a lot of sex toys are marketed towards vulva owners, penis owners can be left feeling confused about what the first toy to buy for themselves.
One Ring To Rule Them All
Okay... not just one, but you see where we were going there. Placing the ring around the base of the penis slows blood flow, which makes erections easier to maintain for a longer period of time which is so important when you are overexcited. This teaches you to build up the orgasm for longer before you "let it go." Your erection will be rock hard and will let you carry on super-confident.
Cock rings come in a variety of sizes, materials, and textures. Beginners should start with a stretchable material like silicone as they are easier to get into place correctly and use comfortably. This type of ring can also be taken off rather quickly if you start becoming uncomfortable during your first love session.
Stroking Your Fire
Sleeve masturbators, or strokers, sometimes more commonly known as "pocket pussies" are soft, skin-like, flexible tubes that go around the penis and provide extra stimulation during masturbation. What is so cool about them is that they can help you build up sexual endurance for the first partner sex.
The grip-perfecting ergonomic shape and snug, textured, the inner channel is an erotic delight for any penis owner and a perfect first-time sex toy for some penis play. Check out these tips on choosing the best pocket pussy for your first solo session.
What's The Deal With My Prostate?
P-spot massagers target the sensitive nerve endings on your prostate. Some guys get fireworks as soon as their prostates get touched. Like most toys, prostate massagers come in a variety of sizes, shapes, and materials. They are generally ergonomically curved with a bulbous head designed to reach your prostate perfectly. Some have the added bonus of vibrations, giving you all the pleasure without any of the work. Check out this article for more tips on how to locate and massage your prostate.
5But What About Butt Toys?
We are all into butt stuff. So you are not alone. Anal stimulation is enjoyed by women and men universally. There are a lot of reasons people like anal play. It can feel amazing, it can create feelings of surrender and connection, and for some people, it can tap into the fun of playing with the taboo. Ass play can be an amazing addition to your first solo sessions or it can be the main source of pleasure. Here are the best types of anal toys to try out first.
Anal beads are long chains of orbs; they are inserted slowly into the rectum one by one and then pulled out (often during orgasm), providing awesome stimulation.
Anal plugs are cone-shaped toys that go into your rectum. They have a flared base for safety and provide pressure against the walls of your bum rear. Ensure any anal toys you use have a flared base, so they don't slide too far up your booty.