My favorite prostate massager

Although there are probably other ways to use it, the Nexus Titus is intended to be used anally by people who have prostates in such a way as to massage the prostate to produce sensual pleasure and so-called "prostate" orgasms. It can be used solo or during sex with a partner.

As with most prostate massagers, the idea is to insert it into the rectum and then do something to cause it to move around and stroke the prostate.

The main way I've used it is the same way I'd use an Aneros: via what's sometimes called the "clench method." I squeeze my PC muscles around the toy, but not all the way. Rather, I try to maintain about a "half squeeze." One cannot actually hold one's muscles at a half squeeze, so the sphincter kind of flutters, the muscles contracting and releasing, and as a result, the massager twitches back and forth and, almost magically, massages the prostate. It takes practice to learn how to do this, and to learn how to let one's body respond to this kind of stimulation, but when done right, it produces tremendously deep, intense orgasms, and the practice is fun in its own right.

Unlike with many similar toys, this one can also be controlled manually via the handle which is much more substantial than on the Aneros massagers, for example. The easiest thing to do is to grab the handle and move it in a circle. You can vary the size of the circle, and so the pressure on the prostate, easily.

The Nexus Titus is made from a hard, durable, rigid plastic. This is important in this kind of toy, as the movement needs to be transferred from the base to the tip, and anything flexible would absorb movement. The hardness of the toy does not make it in any way uncomfortable, but one does want to be careful around sensitive tissues, obviously. Use lots of lube, and insert it gently.

We can divide the Titus into two parts: The insertable bit, and the external bit.

The insertable part is ridged, with a maximum width of just over an inch, making it fairly easy to take, even for a beginner. It curves sharply towards the prostate (as it is intended to be inserted), ending in the small, round bulb that is what actually makes contact with the prostate.

The external, S-shaped part consists of a handle on one end and a perineum stimulator on the other. The handle curves away from the body and, as mentioned above, is substantial enough that it can be used to control the insertable bit in such a way as to massage the prostate manually. This is a nice feature, not only because one can use the Titus in different ways oneself, but because it allows a partner to be actively involved.

The perineum stimulator curves in towards the body in such a way that, when the Titus is in place, it will be in contact with the perineum. What actually touches the perineum is a small, metal ball set into a hollow. This struck me as odd at first, but it is actually a nice feature. I sometimes find, with the Aneros toys, that the corresponding part irritates my perineum as it rubs back and forth over it, even if I put lube there (which is messy at best). The Titus glides over the perineum as the ball rolls in its setting, but without any decrease in pressure. It's the sort of thoughtful touch that inspires confidence.

I've used a lot of prostate stimulators over the years, including several different massagers of the same general type as the Nexus Titus. Some early variety of the Aneros, purchased around 2000, must have been the first. Back then, that was the only choice. Now, there are dozens of products of essentially similar design that are intended to be used in more or less the same way. The differences between them are fairly subtle but can be important. I would suspect, however, that how much difference the differences make will depend to a large extent upon the individual user's internal anatomy: exactly how far into one's rectum one's prostate lies, how large it is, and so forth. Your mileage not only may, but certainly will, vary.

That said, the Titus is my favorite prostate toy of the non-vibrating, PC-muscle controlled type. There are days when it's my favorite prostate toy period, but there are other days I prefer the NJoy Pure Wand or something that vibrates. However, I think my most intense experiences have been with the Titus. There have been times when it felt as if this thing was just reaching through my prostate, grabbing hold of some pleasure center deep within me, and just not letting go until it decided I'd had enough.

The reason, I think, is pretty simple: The shape of this toy just really seems to suit my insides. From the moment it's inserted, it puts a lot of pressure on my prostate, a lot more than the Aneros MGX, say. So much so that I once shocked myself by coming the moment I inserted it, just from that pressure. (OK, I was pretty aroused already.) I then proceeded to come several more times until the Titus thought I was done.

As far as the "clenching" method goes, that works better for me with the Titus than with any similar toy I've tried. This has something to do with the pressure, but I think it also has something to do with the more substantial character of the Titus. It's heavier than the Aneros toys by quite a bit. You might think this would allow the Aneros to move more easily, but that doesn't seem to be the case. Rather, the additional weight seems to work in the Titus's favor, transferring more force to the prostate. In any event, the "prostate" orgasms I get from the Titus are deeper, longer, and more satisfying than the ones I get from other such toys (and I was perfectly happy with the ones I got from the MGX for a very long time, thank you very much). I also find it easier to reach orgasm with the Titus, which makes it easier to play with it for longer periods of time.

As I mentioned above, the handle, being quite substantial, can be used to massage the prostate manually. Since the handle points down, and so is kind of behind me when the Titus is inserted, I find it a bit difficult to reach, but it makes for a nice change of pace from the clenching method. It's easiest if I lie on my side, though I generally prefer just to be on my back. It's nice to feel more in control of the stimulation for a bit. As I mentioned above, the handle could also be used by a partner to stimulate the user, allowing for more involvement than is typical with these things.

The handle does have a downside: It's not easy to wear the Titus under clothes, unless the clothes are very loose, because the handle sticks out too much, and it's basically impossible to sit down when the thing is inserted. This isn't likely to be an issue very often for many people, but I do sometimes like to do this kind of thing, and I removed the handle from one of my Aneros devices so I could do so. I wouldn't recommend that here. I should also mention that there is not much variation in width with the Titus - no narrow neck for the anus to close around, which makes it slide out more easily than similar toys. I haven't had any problem with that when "clenching," but it will sometimes start to slide out when I relax after an orgasm, and it does make it less easy to use the Titus as a butt-plug. So get another (additional) toy if you want to play that way.

My only real question about the Titus concerns the ridges. Frankly, I can't feel them when it's inserted, and they don't do anything for me on the way in. If anything, they make insertion less than completely comfortable. Maybe the ridges make some kind of difference - perhaps they help stimulate peristalsis, as with the Peridise - but I'd be interested to try a Titus without the ridges to see what the difference might be…if someone would make one. (Hint, hint.)

The Titus is very easy to care for. The hard plastic is almost impossible to damage, so I tend just to throw it in a drawer with its friends, and its non-porous nature makes it very easy to clean. One has to work a little harder than with some similar toys due to the ridges, and it's important to remove the little ball - a special tool is provided for the purpose - and clean around it, too.

I know of no restrictions on types of lubes one can use with the Titus.