AskEden #SEXperts - How do I choose my first vibrator?

AskEden #SEXperts - How do I choose my first vibrator?

Lena Eden Lena Eden
It seems that today’s Eden forum is full of sex toys experts, but we don’t have that many newbies. Or, can it be that we do have them, but they just don't participate in discussions as much?

Mistress M. started a cool thread recently, by reminding us about EdenClubs and asking what the community may be interested in talking about today.



I personally think it would be great to start a thread for newbies, for any type of questions on sex toys, sexual lingerie, and relevant practices, while our ~sexual experts~ who are devoted community members can answer and share their personal experience.

We shouldn’t be shy about our sexuality, as there’s nothing wrong with having breathtaking pleasure. I’m calling for all new Eden visitors to go ahead and ask their questions on Eden Forum.

From my experience, one of the most popular questions among newbies is “How do I select my first vibrator?”

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Katie09 Katie09
For me, a good vibrator starts with a look that I find appealing. Smooth curves, a nice color and a size that will comfortably fit me. Next, I have to be sure that the vibrator is silicone; that way I know it'll clean easily and last forever. Being fully waterproof is also a must have for me as I am a shower enthusiast. Plus, what if I need to use it in the middle of a rainstorm? It's just best to be prepared. After all these criteria have been established, I look at the features of the device. I've found that I prefer strong, rumbly vibrations with a quiet motor and a roller coaster setting. The last thing I'm looking for is the wow factor. In other words, what makes this vibe special? Does it have a unique shape? Does it have a music following mode? Do the vibrations intuitively increase as pressure is applied to the device? Whatever it is, I need to know it will fill a special place in my...collection. So, bottom line, it all comes down to experimenting with what appeals to you and what feels good to you. Don't be afraid to try something new that's a little outside of your comfort zone and don't judge yourself; ultimately, you know what's right for you.
Jun 1, 9:25 am
MrClark MrClark
Honestly, the first "vibrator" I used was a vibrating Mach 3 razor handle, which I'd use to vibrate the Aneros prostate massager while inserted, which was my first prostate massager. I can't remember if I got any others before it; however, the first real sex toy vibrator I remember was the Aneros Vice, which still stands as one of the best vibrating prostate massagers I've gotten to date. The fact it was silicone was a definite deciding factor for me when looking at such toys at the time and still the case now, though I now have a few more requirements when looking at more modern sex toys.

When I started dating my now wife, the first vibrator I got for her/us to use was the We-ring as it was silicone, recharging, and not too expensive should she not enjoy the vibrations. I kind of regret getting this toy since we don't use it due to my dislike for cock-rings; however, the recharging & silicone were definite considerations.

I think your biggest considerations if we take what we've learned and applied it to someone looking for their first vibrator purchase, is how are you going to use it? Male/female use? Solo/couple play? Where do you enjoy vibrations the most? What kind of vibrations do you prefer (weak/strong & buzzy/rumbly)? How much do you want to spend? Where are you going to use the toy? Does it need to be waterproof? There are so many great toys that will fit any combo of these requirements, but if you can narrow down these requirements first, this will go a long way to determine what you are looking for.

I know our favorites are as follows:

Male prostate play: Lelo Loki, the Aneros Vice is a close second. The Loki also works great for women too either for vaginal or anal play (don't use for both during the same session or share the toy without sterilization in between).

Couples Play: Lelo Tiani 24k, which is very similar to the Tiani 3 but fixes most of the issues we had with the Tiani 3.

Targeted Body/Clit vibrations: Lelo SONA Cruise; however, the Womanizer Plus is a close second here...

Rabbit Vibrator: The Lelo Ina Wave may still be my wife's favorite toy of all the ones we've tried... the combination of internal/external vibrations + the wave sensation just sets this apart from almost all the other toys we've tried.
Jun 2, 12:27 pm
Katie09 Katie09
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Originally posted by Katie09
For me, a good vibrator starts with a look that I find appealing. Smooth curves, a nice color and a size that will comfortably fit me. Next, I have to be sure that the vibrator is silicone; that way I know it'll clean easily and last forever. ...
My top recommendation: The Womanizer Starlet. For those of you who may be unfamiliar with this line, its a device that uses little puffs of air to stimulate the clitoris, mimicking and sometimes improving upon the sensations received from oral sex. The Starlet in particular is the travel size version. It will provide you with the same sensations as the full sized Pro (I own both) at a fraction of the cost. Its perfect for first timers.
Jun 2, 3:24 pm
LovelyGirl93Official LovelyGirl93Official
Honestly I'd like to kick it back a minute here. My first vibrator was a cheap, jelly g-spot toy from a shop in the local mall. For me it was a good choice.

You don't have to start with the highest quality toys when working your way into things. For myself budget was tight but curiosity was high. I picked a toy that sparked my interests. It was nubby, slightly curved, and pretty in a pearl purple. It was not intimidating by any means and it really helped me dive into this beautiful world of toys.

Go with what you think is appealing, what you like how it looks and don't worry to much about what it's made of etc. The nice thing about the first is it's supposed to introduce you too it. My first toy is long gone and I'm glad I had experience with it even if it was a jelly toy that I honestly don't care for now.
Jun 2, 4:23 pm
wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
I'd like to agree with LovelyGirl93Official.

My first was a simple $18 red jelly vibrator from a sex shop a few blocks away from a hotel I was staying in with my boyfriend at the time. I knew nothing about sex toys, and didn't have a lot of money to spend.

It was a Doc Johnson, if I recall correctly. It was 5.5" long with a relatively narrow girth to it. But it worked for me at the time and my boyfriend had fun using it on me as well.

Knowing what I know now, I would never choose that toy again, but I think it was a good experience for me to have.

If you want to be more well informed on your first toy, try to find something silicone or plastic in the $18-$35 range. You'll find something that is good for a first timer and also relatively safe and long lasting.

There's a few toys that come to mind that I could suggest, but they're not sold here on Eden.

I think a beginner shouldn't put too much deep thought into their first toy because that could make it seem like a daunting task and could scare a newbie away from healthy self exploration.
Jun 3, 9:45 am
wicked48 wicked48
I read a lot of product reviews before purchasing my first vibrators. I say vibrators because I decided I needed a g-spot and a clit vibrator. A body safe material was the most important feature. Quality was definitely more important than price.

My first g-spot vibrator was Lelo's Mona 2. I still use this vibrator. If I was purchasing my first g-spot vibrator today, I'd go with the Mona Wave. I'll definitely be purchasing the Mona Wave in the future. There's always room for a new vibrator in my toy box!

My first and only clit vibrator was a We-Vibe Salsa. The reason it's the only clit vibe I've purchased is because I absolutely it! It has never failed me. Unfortunately, the Salsa is no longer available. However, We-Vibe now makes the Tango. I highly recommend the Tango if you're looking for a clit vibe. I'm sure it won't disappoint!

The last vibrator I purchased was the Lelo SONA Cruise. Tf you're looking for targeted body/clit vibrations, I highly recommend this vibe.

My main words of advice would be to read the product reviews and purchase a quality product. When it comes to my toy collection, I've always purchased quality products and have never been disappointed.
Jun 3, 5:19 pm
chrisman93 chrisman93
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Originally posted by Lena Eden
It seems that today’s Eden forum is full of sex toys experts, but we don’t have that many newbies. Or, can it be that we do have them, but they just don't participate in discussions as much? Mistress M. started a cool thread recently, by ...
Everyone who introduces sex toys into their self-pleasure and/or sexual experiences has to begin somewhere. But with the overwhelming selection on the market, it can become very confusing very quickly to choose the one right for you. Unfortunately, sex toys are often not one size fits all. The vibrator that may fit fine for one, might be too big to easily be taken by another. Even if a toy does fit, does not mean it will be adequate. For example, all rabbit vibrators have different measurements. The g spot curve may not reach every individual's pleasure zone. The rabbit "ears" may not touch the clitoris even if everything else works great.

That being said, I would not even recommend ANY sort of rabbit for the inexperienced. It is as important to not experience pain as it is to have an orgasm. More so actually.

All that aside some key points to consider when shopping for your first toy:

1. Eliminate all unsafe materials
Jelly is a huge no-no. Not only does this material harbor bacteria, it could melt when in contact with other toys, certain lubes, or even leach harmful material into a persons body without even knowing it. Other materials are safer than others, but some require more care than others. At this time, first timers are better off if they go with safe easy to clean materials such as Pure Silicone (watch that you don't buy blended), metal, glass. If buying silicone, use water based lube.

2.Consider Noise
Some vibrators are quite loud. Do you live by yourself or with someone else? If you live with others, would it be a problem if the noise could be heard? Would the noise bother you? If so, pay special attention to the Noise level in reviews and testimonials. Find an audio and/or video clip that will allow you to hear the toy while it is running.

3.Size
Most first time toy users may find that they are happiest with a clitoral vibrator or insertable vibrator with a small circumference and short length. Total virgins who have not had sex before may want to avoid insertable vibrators completely, but for those who have had sex, just keep in mind the size. Ask yourself what you know you can comfortably take. Then take a look at the dimensions. And read reviews. Your peers can give you a wealth of information.

4.Insertable or External
This ties into the size section above. Decide where you want to focus stimulation. Just remember, virgins may be best fitted with an external toy.

5. Power Source and Strength
Decide how you want your toy to be powered. The majority of toys available, especially in the lower priced range are powered by alkaline batteries. The other toys use watch batteries, built in rechargeable, or are powered by electric. Plug in toys will be among the strongest, with rechargeable toys being equal or a close second. Some alkaline toys pack quite a punch as well, just be sure to keep back up batteries on hand! New technology by Fun Factory allows users with select toys to have the best of both worlds.
Taking either regular or rechargeable batteries, you can even charge recharable batteris inside the toy with the Fun Factory Hybrid Kit and charging cable.

6. Waterproof?
If you need this, forget any electric corded toy. This isn't to say the toy with a rechargeable battery that you are looking at isn't waterproof. It probably is, but you don't want to risk electric shock by bringing dangerous current around water. For everything else, remember water resistant means NO submerging!
Jun 4, 8:35 pm
Lena Eden Lena Eden
Wow, here are some wonderful recommendations here.

From my point of view, I'd suggest paying attention to product reviews, as sometimes the higher priced toy can have the same functions a cheaper version (agree with LovelyGirl93Official & wrecklesswords )
Jun 6, 8:04 am
mica123 mica123
If I were choosing my first vibrator, I’d be looking at size and material. If it’s too big, it won’t feel too good. If it’s too small, I won’t get the satisfaction I want.

Material wise, I want my vibratory to be waterproof so I can take it in the shower with me.
Jun 13, 6:00 pm
lock down lock down
Make sure to consider size and function and keep an open mind if things don't work out how you'd like. Not all cock rings will fit your member right, not all viberators work for everyone just because they worked for someone else. Start with something that makes you feel comfortable and not intimidated or worried. The phrase "different strokes for different folks" is very true. Don't worry to hard about what other people like and look into things that interest you.
Jun 13, 8:14 pm
Sex Guy Sex Guy
And what if I wanna give it as a gift? I know it's gonna be their first vibrator, and yes I know it might be awkward for some but it's not a problem in this case. Are there any recommendations? I believe I need a couple's toy, probably, but maybe something more universal would work, too?
Jun 27, 9:55 am
GingerAnn GingerAnn
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Originally posted by Sex Guy
And what if I wanna give it as a gift? I know it's gonna be their first vibrator, and yes I know it might be awkward for some but it's not a problem in this case. Are there any recommendations? I believe I need a couple's toy, probably, ...
Dear Sex Guy - IMHO, since I'm assuming you don't know exactly what are the preferences of your friends, the safest choice would be a finger vibrator, for example. It's non-intimidating, quite powerful and perfectly combines with couple's play. Take a look at some finger vibes we have. Maybe, a remote-controlled option would also be a fun choice.
Jun 29, 8:36 am
GingerAnn GingerAnn
Well-well-well, my lovely SEXperts
Seems like there are no more recommendations coming, and Lena Eden had bequeathed me to award one of you one month after the thread was started.

Here we are, a month later and with 8 (!!!) outstanding pieces of advice. What you've done is awesome, and I have a tough decision to make...

Honestly, it wasn't a tough decision after all. I know what I've got to do.
So, Katie09, MrClark, LovelyGirl93Official, wrecklesswords, wicked48, chrisman93, mica123 and lock down - YOU ALL GET A $5 GIFT CARD

There'll be more questions for experts coming, so stay tuned!
Jul 2, 6:50 am
wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
Quote:
Originally posted by GingerAnn
Well-well-well, my lovely SEXperts
Seems like there are no more recommendations coming, and Lena Eden had bequeathed me to award one of you one month after the thread was started.

Here we are, a month later and with 8 (!!!) outstanding ...
Congratulations to everyone who won!! yay for us!!
Jul 3, 2:28 pm
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