Ethical Slut - erotic book by Celestial Arts - review by Sarah.Indisguise

A must for people considering open relationships

If you have to read only one book about open relationships, read this one. If you are in an open relationship, go ahead and read it, you won't regret it. And if you already have read it, don't forget to reread it now and then.
Informative, honest, well-written.
Some anecdotes can scare some people away.
Rating by reviewer:
useful review
If you are considering an open relationship, or are a newbie at them, spare yourself some avoidable problems and buy this book. That said, it's not a book for everyone, because apart from the topic of open relationships, some of the anecdotes and scenarios can be too kinky for some.

The book is very well written by two women, both in open relationships, and the tone is close and easy to read. I think it's way more useful and informative than one of the other books about open relationships, "Opening up". Here you can find some useful insight as how to manage the difficulties that will almost certainly arise when you start a relationship of this kind. Also, you won't feel so alone when you read it, that all your conflicting feelings and thoughts are more than normal. The book has even some exercises for dealing with some of the most difficult feelings, like jealousy.

This is an updated edition of the one published some years ago, and it includes more info about polyamory (where the emphasis is more in feelings than just in sex, as other open relationships) and about singles. If you are wondering what singles have to do with open relationships, it has to do with the way you feel towards sex, weather you have partners or not. A slut is for the authors "any person of any gender who has the courage to lead life according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you".

For me, open relationships are more rewarding and closer to what most of us feel, but I also think that they are more difficult; at least in some ways, so the more you learn about them, the better. And the sooner. I just wish I had gotten a hold of this book a little earlier, because I think it would have helped to avoid some silly (and hurtful) mistakes.
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  • Britni TheVadgeWig
    Have you read "Opening Up" by Tristan Taormino? I, too, liked "The Ethical Slut" but appreciated "Opening Up" for examining many different ways and kinds of open relationships, from nonmonogamy to swinging to polyamory and everything in between.

    Great review though!
  • Sarah.Indisguise
    Hi Britni,

    Yes, I've read it and I liked it, but I think they are very different. For me, Opening Up gives you a feeling of different kinds of open relationships, but it's more like a book of "vignettes" and it doesn't go as deep in the topics as The Ethical Slut. For me it was fun to read, but much less enlightening Smile than The Ethical Slut. And my partner, who was very enthusiastic about The Ethical Slut, didn't care much about "Opening it up" and read only a few chapters.

    And thanks for your feedback! Smile
  • Trashley
    Ah! I want to read it now! Sounds like a good one
  • lexical
    Thank you for your review
  • VelvetDragon
    Thanks for the review, I agree this book is a "must".
  • darkkitty
    Thank you!
  • thisisadeletedaccount
    Thanks for your review!
  • nosrslylol
    Thanks for your review!
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