Ryder is a intermediate size butt plug (1.5 inches in diameter) that came highly recommended by several people and almost 50 reviews. I was excited to receive this in the mail, and scheduled some quiet time for us to get acquainted. See below for what happened at our little meeting.

This toy, like all of Tantus' silicone toys, is top quality smooth silicone. It tends to be a little "squishier" then our other Tantus silicone toys (See the review about using it for a stress ball :-), but that caused no problems with insertion. There are no seams or other issues to deter from the smooth slickness. Being silicone, it is non-porous, and should only be used with non-silicone based lubes. A fair amont of Pjur Aqua made this toy almost hard to hold onto. The toy had no smell after a quick "new toy" wash with warm water and anti-bacterial soap.

The bulb is not tapered, like most of the "classical" butt plugs. If you are not used to anal play, you should be a little warmed up with fingers or other toys. Once you are ready, Ryder slides right into place with a satisfying pop.

The base consists of two narrow wings on opposite sides of the plug. They are there to prevent the plug from completely entering your rectum. Most of the other reviews talk of them being very comfortable to wear.

Which brings us to the problem. The BIG problem. The "Broke the golden rule of anal play" problem.

The base folds far too easily to prevent the entire plug from entering your anus. This is not a "hmm, wonder if that could happen", nor even a "Boy, hope that doesn't happen!" statement.

This is a "OMG, what just happened?!" statement.

Laying on my back, not pushing on the toy internally with muscles or externally with anything, it suddenly went "SCHLOOP!" and was completely inside me. Yikes! All sorts of unpleasant thoughts of the ER went through my head. I immediately rolled off the bed into a squatting position. I reached up with a finger and could feel one of the base "tabs" still by the opening. I managed to coax it outside and pull the plug out of me, to my vast relief!

The plug immediately went into the "never to be used again" pile

Now, to be fair, I'm a big guy. 6'4", 230 lbs. I'm not an anal novice, but I'm no size queen either; the largest plug I've ever taken was 2". I know my body openings are correspondingly larger than a 5'2" 95 lb woman. But as flexible as that base is, I'd be concerned about anyone using it for anal play.

The Ryder does give a nice firm feeling once it's inside. The initial "pop" of entering is very satisfying, and the soft texture of the silicone makes it very comfortable. The base is just too flexible/small for me.

As with all quality silicone toys, a wash with soap and water is fine for us married folk. If I was sharing it with multiple people, then I probably boil it or run it through the dishwasher (air dry). We store it in the original clamshell box it came it to keep it from being up against any other toys in the toybox.

Tantus toys come in a nice clear plastic box, suspended in a clamshell package in the box. The outside box can be a pain to open sometimes, with 3 plastic tabs on the top of the box that need to be released before you can remove the inner packaging.

I wanted to like the Ryder. I really did. The texture and shape were just what I was looking for, and I love my other Tantus toys. But with the base being that floppy, I just can't use it without fearing it's heading for the dark reaches of inner space all on its own.