Feeldoe, a Dear - a Female Dear!

The Feeldoe Violet is in my Top 4 sex toys and in regular rotation. I use the Feeldoe when I want a smooth, slick feel and less friction than with the Share. It has been a favorite for almost 2 years.

I enjoy its feel both IN and OUT of a harness and use if with a SpareParts Joque Harness. It is well worth what I paid for it and if anything were to happen to it, I would buy another.
Great for Harness, Smooth Texture, Pure Silicone and Versatile.
Not enough flesh color options, Bullet vibe may be of little significance for some users.
Rating by reviewer:
useful review


I use the Feeldoe Violet most often to masturbate. The wearer's end or short bulbous end makes a comfortable handle for either me or a partner to grip while thrusting with the toy. This is much more comfortable that a traditional dildo or a dildo with a flanged base for thrusting by hand.

I have used the Feeldoe with another woman as well and it was our preferred cock for almost a year. The Feeldoe worked well in a harness (we both used a SpareParts Joque Harness) for thrusting from the top. Without a harness it is possible to keep the Feeldoe in place while the wearer remains on her (or his) back and the receiver rides the cock in the cowgirl or reverse cowgirl postion.
  • Who / How / What
    [ ? ]
    Who might this product be best for? How is it best used? What are the best circumstances or situations for using this product?
    • Couples
    • Gender play
    • Solo
  • Where
    [ ? ]
    Where / what types of places can this product be used?
    • Anywhere
    • Campus/roommate living
    • Tub/shower/pool
  • Features
    [ ? ]
    What kind of features does this product offer?
    • Travel friendly
  • Body / part areas
    [ ? ]
    What areas on the body can this product be used / what areas does it stimulate best?
    • Anal
    • G-spot
    • P-spot

Material / Texture

The Feeldoe is Silicone and has no smell or taste. It is boilable, bleachable and able to be cleaned on the top rack of your dishwasher.

The texture is rigid and smooth -- not as smooth as glass, but nearly. Its rigidity is present throughout the toy with no softer outer skin nor flexible joint. This is nice for a smooth, slick feel with water-based lube and a firm ride.

The Feeldoe does not have a realist feel in your hand, but in your pussy or ass you might be surprised, especially once your partner is wearing it. It has a defined but not pronounced head and the cock is semi-realistic.
    • Harness compatible
    • Not porous at all
    • Smooth

Design / Shape / Size

The Feeldoe's design is a huge improvement on the Nexus. It fits well into the wearer's body and can be worn both vaginally or anally. The bulb in slightly smaller than that of the Share. I found that the bulb would shoot of of my vagina without a harness, as did my female partner who is not so accustomed to penetration.

The receiver's end (or cock) is medium and works well vaginally as well as eased into the anus of an experienced anal play partner.

The thick underside of the Feeldoe has a vague semi-realistic vulva shape (a vertical line) and while it fits well in a harness it is not as snug to the wearer's body as the Share double dildo.

The ridges that rub the wearer provided little stimulation for me but they worked a treat for my partner when she wore it to top me. She was able to achieve orgasm while wearing the Feeldoe and masturbating in the way that a male-bodied person would.
    • Ergonomic
    • Partner play


The Feeldoe is versatile and fun to use. It can be used by 2 female-bodied people, 2 male-bodied people, one of each or alone. It works vaginally, anally and orally and fits well in a harness.

My formerly not-interested-in-penetration partner was able to accept the bulb into her vagina and was able to receive and enjoy the cock end as well.

While without the harness the length is perfect, we have found that an extra inch would be nice when using the Feeldoe in a harness (as part of the length is eaten up by the O-ring and fabric of the harness).
    • Comfortable
    • Easy to use
    • Lots of variety in function

Care and Maintenance

The Feeldoe is easy to clean with soap and water before and after use and can be sanitized in a 10% bleach solution, boiled and washed on the top rack of your dishwasher. This is suggested when using with a partner with whom you are not fluid-bonded.

Feeldoe can be used with water-based lubricant and with condoms if you choose. You might find that you want tight or snug condoms with this toy.
    • Easy to clean
    • Easy to store


The Feeldoe is sold in a simple clear plastic clam-shell packaging. I recycled it and store my Feeldoe in it's own drawstring satin bag.
    • Minimal
    • Not discreet
    • Recyclable

Personal comments

A note on length:

Like mentioned earlier, if you plan to use this in a harness you might want to consider the Feeldoe More (Red) so that you have the extra length. This prevents accidentally falling out of the receiver's vagina (or anus) while thrusting. If you prefer that the receiver "ride" on top of the cock then this is likely the right length for you.

Any longer for me and this rigid cock would be banging against my cervix while riding cowgirl style.


The rigid silicone transmits vibrations well. I often place the cock end inside of my vagina and hold a Wahl or Hitachi Magic wand against the base of the toy. The hard vibrations travel up the cock and feel a lot like thrusting.

The bullet vibe is a nice touch and while it was enough vibration for my partner, it was not enough for me to care much about.
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  • Contributor: Darling Jen
    Great job! And welcome to the EF community!
  • Contributor: J's Alley
    Awesome review!
  • Contributor: P'Gell
    Very good review. Welcome to Eden!
  • Contributor: Greta
    Thanks all! It's so nice to get feedback.

    If you liked my review please vote for me as an Advanced Reviewer!
  • Contributor: ScottA
    Since the harness doesn't take away much from the length of the Feeldoe, I'd think that the More might be a good choice anyway, especially for positions that have more space between the partners.

    Interesting about the clit ridges not working for you. The "cradling" from the Share or Tango probably works more reliably.
  • Contributor: ToyTimeTim
    I am so sorry, I did not mean to vote that way! I truly found this review "useful". And wish I could change my vote.

    I can not decide which of these to get for me and the wife, The Violet looks about perfect but the share looks like it would stay in better for pegging.
  • Contributor: Greta
    Please read my Share review : [https://www.edenfantasys.com/sex-toy-reviews/dildos/share-and-share-i-like]
  • Contributor: ToyTimeTim
    Thanks for the answer on that one.
    Once again. I am so sorry.
  • Contributor: mikebooks
    Useful review. Thanks!
  • Contributor: anonomous
    Thank you for the great review!
  • Contributor: Ghost
    These look so fun, even just to wear around the house. Thanks for the review!
  • Contributor: LuciFaery
    Thanks for the review!
  • Contributor: LexiKitten
    Thank you!
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