My Nightly Paramour, Ella

Lelo's Ella is a dual-ended dildo made from 100% bodysafe silicone. Its two different ends serve different purposes. The narrower end is great for thrusting vaginally or anally and for warm-up before using the flat-headed end. Its tapered shape provides great stimulation to the sensitive area at the entrance to the vagina when used vaginally. The curved, flat-headed end provides incredible g-spot stimulation. The broad head prevents the toy from feeling "poky" or painful when it is thrusted hard. The rigidity of Lelo's silicone allows the toy to be pressed hard against the g-spot, if hard stimulation is what you need to orgasm, but but you should use caution if using this on a partner or having a partner use it on you because of its rigidity. I would not recommend the g-spot end for anal use. It would be difficult to insert and easily swallowed by a hungry butt. The flat head on the g-spot end can serve as an anchor that will prevent this toy from being swallowed if the narrow end is used for anal play, but you should still keep a grip on the end just in case.

The surface of this toy is velvety-smooth with very little drag. I prefer to use a drop of lube with this toy to warm things up before my own natural juices kick in, but other users may not need to. The completely unrealistic design of this toy gives me sensations that no other shape could. The silicone used for this toy is very firm. The neck of this toy can be bent just a little, as pictured below, but for the most part, it's very rigid. There is very little give to the material, but the design makes it extremely comfortable for use by beginners despite its rigidity. Ella's surface is seamless and smooth, aside from a small Lelo insignia on the narrow end that I couldn't feel during use.

Ella's design is absolutely exceptional. I can't think of a single improvement I would make to this toy. It's exceptionally well-designed. Just looking at those sleek curves gets me wet. The dildo is very light and it's easy to hold and manipulate either end during use. It's 7 inches long, with either end being insertable to about 5 inches.

The narrower end has a pointed tip for easy insertion. It swells to a girth of 1 1/4 inches, which feels quite filling, then narrows towards the neck of the toy, which is the only part that is flexible enough to be bent easily. It's all soft curves with some gentle edges thrown in for extra stimulation. The tapering of this toy causes the entrance to the vagina to stretch and then contract with each thrust, which provides amazing stimulation to that sensitive area. Because this end is tapered to be easy to insert, I like to use it for warm-up before using the g-spot end, but I also have play sessions when I just use the tapered end and I find it very satisfying. This end has a small Lelo insignia that isn't noticeable during use, but it's tough to clean.

The g-spot end of this toy is what makes it eligible for a 6-star rating in my humble opinion. The curve of the neck, the broad flat head, and the rigidity of Lelo's silicone give this toy the ability to home in on my g-spot and apply the pressure I need to orgasm fast. This toy is light enough that my arm doesn't get tired while I perform the fast, hard thrusting it takes for me to achieve an O. Though the head is broad and flat, it's oval-shaped and still easy to insert even without warm-up. The flat head prevents it from being painful when thrusting hard, as opposed to toys with more pointed ends, like the Reflections Cool.

Ella is a wonderful lover. The way those curves slide in and out, the way she's light to hold, the way she knows just how to hit that spot in the way I like. Ella is a toy that never fails me. She's easy to insert, and easy to manipulate while she's inserted. The curve and rigidity are great for finding the g-spot and applying orgasmic pressure. I've never had any trouble or pain navigating her around my pubic bone internally. My partner had some trouble using this toy on me at first, because it is very rigid, but with practice, it can also be great for partner play. Ella is an extremely beginner friendly toy. She's not difficult to use, not intimidating to look at, slim but also filling. The level and variety of stimulation she provides will set a high standard for future toys to match.

Ella is made of silicone, which has a safety rating of 10. That's the highest you can get. Silicone is phthalates-free, latex-free, hypoallergenic, and it can be sterilized by bleaching or boiling so it can be shared between partners without a condom. For using it just on yourself, I would recommend just washing it with soap and water, or a toy cleaner. The Lelo insignia is hard to clean. I use a toothbrush to get it clean, since fluids really seem to want to stay trapped in there. Other than that, this toy washes clean easily. It doesn't retain odors, other than the light silicone odor it has anyways. Since this is silicone, it cannot be used with silicone-based lubes. Stick to water-based lubes for this toy. It's easy to store, especially since it comes with a nice satin pouch for storage. The silicone used for the Ella is absolutely not a lint magnet, unlike many silicone toys. Don't store your Ella touching other silicone toys, or they might melt together into one silicone toy.

Lelo's packaging really makes me feel like I'm receiving a luxury item. The outside box for the Ella was purple, with LELO on the top in silver. The sides had the name of the toy, a list of features, and some artful sketches of the toy. The bottom had a lifesize image of the toy.

Inside this box was a plain black box with LELO in glossy letters on the top, that opened like a treasure chest to reveal the Ella, presented in a lovely way by a black plastic insert that held her in place and under a clear protective plastic cover. When Ella and her protective plastic holders were removed, in the bottom of the box was a lovely black satin drawstring pouch, a sample of the Lelo Personal Moisturizer, an instruction booklet, and warranty information.

The packaging is excellent for storage. I keep my Ella in the satin pouch inside of the plain black box. The box sits on my nightstand, completely discreet to anyone who doesn't know what "Lelo" makes. Those who do know will probably be impressed rather than judgmental. Lelo is a high-class manufacturer of "pleasure objects," not just "sex toys."

The packaging is absolutely wonderful for gifting. The gift recipient will feel like they're being pampered. The box within a box just adds to the suspense of opening it. The packaging makes the toy seem a lot more expensive than it really is. Since the toy is pictured on the bottom, you might want to wrap this if gifting though.

I like to put a comparison in this section. It's hard to find a toy that compares to Ella. She was the toy that gave me my first g-spot orgasm, and many many since then. I have managed to use other toys to achieve a g-spot orgasm since, but Ella holds a special place in my heart as my first and most reliable g-spot toy.



From left to right: the Lelo Ella, the Reflections Cool, the Sasha Grey Signature Swell Wand, and the Dream Massager G.

I tried the Dream Massager G before I tried Ella, and it did not work for me. The weird bulge made it difficult to insert, and the pointed tip wasn't curved enough to hit my g-spot hard and was a bit poky and painful since it's pointed. It is a great vibrator, with great rumbly vibrations, but it just didn't do it for my g-spot. Ella is slimmer, easier to insert, made of safer material, and is not painful for applying hard pressure.

The Reflections Cool is an improvement on the concept of the Dream Massager G's design. It also has a swelling curve, but it's placed to be much easier to insert. The pointed tip and rigidity make it painful to apply hard pressure, but I find that I don't need to apply hard pressure with glass. The biggest reason why I would choose the Ella over the Reflections Cool is that Ella is lighter and doesn't make my arm tired. Ella is more beginner-friendly also, but the Reflections Cool is glass, which has its own advantages.

The Sasha Swell Wand has bulbous ends, which rubs my g-spot is a completely different way than the Ella. It's the toy that's made me feel most likely to squirt (which I have never done so far). It's glass, and rather heavy. It's dual-ended, like Ella, and it has swells and curves that stimulate the vaginal entrance while thrusting, like Ella. I would be hard put to say which toy I like better. They are both great toys for g-spot stimulation, but I find myself reaching for the Ella more, partly because she doesn't make my arm tired and because she's just so sexy.

This toy is the one that gave rise to my description of myself as "toysexual." The design is so sleek and sexy that I get wet just thinking about putting this lovely thing inside of me, whereas normally with dildos I fantasize about having actual sex while using them to reach orgasm. The Ella is the toy that gave me my first g-spot orgasm. I had tried a few other toys and had no success. Ella's firmness and superior design did for me what no other toy had been able to do. It's so well-designed, and using it taught me so much about the ways in which to please my own body. The tapering of its narrow end taught me just how sensitive the area at the entrance of my vagina is to stimulation as it swelled and narrowed while I thrusted it inside of me. I use Ella more than any other toy I own. She never fails to seduce me, and if I take good care of her, I suspect she'll be "taking care of me" for years to come.