In my quest for a g-spot orgasm, I’ve been seeking out dildos and vibrators that purport to help women achieve this. I selected the Ella from Lelo to try and discover my so-far elusive spot.

Ella is a lovely dildo, available in two colors – black and white. I chose the black one, and it arrived in a nice black box. Inside the box, under a plastic protection piece, she lay. She looked lovely nestled there, and when I removed her from the box I found underneath a white bag to hold her and a user manual. Ella also comes with a 1 year warranty, which is unusual but welcome.

The first thing I noticed when I held her in my hand was that she was very lightweight, weighing in at just under 4 ounces.. Ella is also soft to the touch and flexible. She had two ends for dual function. The one end is sculpted and wider for g-spot stimulation, and the other side is narrower with a sort of knob on the end for more traditional pleasuring. Ella measures about 7” from end to end, with an insertable length of about 5” regardless of which end you use. She’s about 1 1/4" at her widest point, so probably not large enough for size queens, but I found her thick enough to satisfy me.

Ella is made of 100% silicone, so she’s phthalate-free. She is also non-porous and repels bacteria and dirt. Ella can be sterilized by washing in the dishwasher (top rack), or boiled or bleached with a 10% solution. She can also be cleaned with warm water and soap (don’t use alcohol to clean her!) Water-based lubricant should be used.

So, did Ella help me find my g-spot? Maybe, but not so I came. I tried with both ends, and they felt good (I could definitely feel the pressure in what I think was the right place), but I wasn’t able to cum without using one of my trusty bullet clitoral vibrators. Nevertheless, Ella was a pleasure to use, and I plan to get more acquainted with her over the next few weeks. Maybe my g-spot is shy, and it’ll make itself known once it’s more familiar with Ella.

I actually like Ella more now that I've had her for a while. My g-spot is not so elusive now (although squirting is, darnit!) thanks to help from my husband, and now I know how to use Ella more effectively. I still use her a lot with a bullet, or an anal toy, but she makes me feel good.

Ella has held up to frequent use, and many trips through the dishwasher with her other silicone friends. She still looks as good as she did when I got her.