Say you're a 43-year-old man and there's a 16-year-old girl staying at your place. Get yer minds outta the gutter. She just needed a place to stay. No hanky-panky going on here. But she did get sick, and your room is the coolest in the house. So it makes sense to have her sleep in your room. Nothing makes illness worse like having to sleep in a hot room.
Here's where the issue gets muddled.
A man named Stephen Lee Davies was in this situation in Swansea, Wales. He invited the teenager into his bed, and claims he was shocked to find out that he'd woken his bedmate up by having sex with her. In fact, he claims he had no idea what happened until he texted the girl and got a message back that said, “Go to hell, you dirty bastard.”
Davies was arrested and went to trial, where his ex-wife and former lover both testified that Davies was a victim of “sexsomnia” and would often wake them up with sexual advances while completely asleep.
“He was never violent and never forced me to have sex against my will. Sometimes his eyes were open but there was no one at home,” said Davies wife, Angela. “It became a bit of a joke. I would say I must be pretty rubbish because he could not remember. Even if his eyes were open he would not remember.”
Davies has been released and the act deemed a situation beyond his control. And we're just dumbfounded. We feel awful about Davies’ affliction, but if you know you have sexsomnia, wouldn't logic dictate you not invite a teenager to sleep in your bed? Or at least not sleep in it with her!
Here's where the issue gets muddled.
A man named Stephen Lee Davies was in this situation in Swansea, Wales. He invited the teenager into his bed, and claims he was shocked to find out that he'd woken his bedmate up by having sex with her. In fact, he claims he had no idea what happened until he texted the girl and got a message back that said, “Go to hell, you dirty bastard.”
Davies was arrested and went to trial, where his ex-wife and former lover both testified that Davies was a victim of “sexsomnia” and would often wake them up with sexual advances while completely asleep.
“He was never violent and never forced me to have sex against my will. Sometimes his eyes were open but there was no one at home,” said Davies wife, Angela. “It became a bit of a joke. I would say I must be pretty rubbish because he could not remember. Even if his eyes were open he would not remember.”
Davies has been released and the act deemed a situation beyond his control. And we're just dumbfounded. We feel awful about Davies’ affliction, but if you know you have sexsomnia, wouldn't logic dictate you not invite a teenager to sleep in your bed? Or at least not sleep in it with her!
Guilty!
1. If he really has sexomnia it means he knew about it and could have made precautions.
2. If it was so hot in the house why did he invite her to share the bed? I could have maybe, probably buy it just a bit if it was about conserving heat. He should have taken the couch. He would sleep in a hot room but at least he would be protecting the girl from inflicting the consequences of his disorder on her.
3. Maybe he doesn't have sexomnia but somnophilia (desire for sleeping people) and wants to get away with it. Pretending to have sexomnia with the previous partners would make some sense then. he wouldn't have to ask for consent in advance and make himself open to rejection of his kink. She was underage, sick and asleep. That's three things that bar consent. Convenient, eh?